being called mum by nurses in hospital

[thecatsarecrazy]

I know its only a small thing and its probably because I've been here to long but the nurses calling me "mum" I'm not your mum, would it be so hard to learn my name? Has this annoyed anyone else?

Horrendous. I've reported

Blessings & prayers for Tristran xxx

Yanbu

Gorgeous boy! Glad he's ok. I didn't like being called mum either. It's twee. There are dozens of other jobs where you are working with a constant stream of people and in no other area would you all get the same appellation. "Can you fill in this form, client?" "If service user could just come through to the office"...

HCPs who reckon they can't be expected to call parents by their names - what do you do with adult patients? Do you call whoever is with them "husband", "wife", "daughter", "partner" etc?

Why did something get deleted?

Did someone say something about my baby? I didn't see it before it got deleted

Thecats it was a horrible troll posting horrendous gory pictures. They did it on many threads, completely unrelated to the content of the thread. Nothing about your lovely baby.

Who knows. I'll say he looks adorable though. How are you all doing

I missed your original posts in Feb and the March update. Also, happily, missed the post that had to be deleted. Just wanted to say that the photo in your March post is lovely. Almost everyone reading will be wishing you and your family all the best - anyone posting offensive comments is looking to cause a reaction/ distress and should be ignored!

Thankyou. He's doing great thanks. Trolls must have a really pathetic life

Don't know if I'm a bit late to wade in with an opinion, but I'm a nurse and have worked across both children's and adults services. I think it's just plain lazy! I wouldn't call the relatives of a adult 'daughter/husband/wife' I'll ask their name, and ask again if I forget!
I've worked from oncology to A&E, and despite the high turnover/workload, I've never called a parent mum/dad, weird!

It's a ridiculous and dehumanizing habit. A nursery worker friend of mine kept doing it when referring to the parents at her place of work "Well the little boy was really sick so I asked Mum if she'd seen him drink anything.."

And I asked her WHY do you do that!? And she said they were told to by management!

Haha OP it don't get much better

One of the year heads at DSs school insists on calling me Mum when discussing DS . She is only a few years older than me .

Oh and the joy of toddler groups where you are not longer Mary or Sarah etc but you are "insert childs name Mum"

HeyHo why don't you say "It's Mrs Smith." or "It's Lara" or whatever...so she knows you don't like it?

Just to say your little boy is gorgeous, that photo has really made me smile this morning!

I'm a paeds nurse - I picked up this habit from the other nurses whilst on placement during training, it's like a "done thing". Our ward is 28 beds, we're a general ward with a fast turnaround, most patients are in and out quite quickly. Learning the names (I'm dyspraxic so I have memory problems but I suspect it's difficult for everybody!) of all the patients is hard enough, let alone their resident parent. I try really bloody hard but when we're run off our feet constantly, names do slip our minds. I'm really sorry that you feel annoyed by it.

I hope your little one is doing well and gets better soon.

I agree but actually John's mum is at least grammatically correct.

Oh dear, I made the rookie mistake of not RTFT! Tristan is super cute, glad you're home and all is well now.

it is annoying though my sons disabled and i get mum all the time we have loads of appointments the worst one is 'so hows mum?'

Your baby is gorgeous. :)

whosahappyharry I would be deeply concerned if a child of mine was under the care of a nurse with memory problems. "Oh, I thought it was Fred who needed the epilepsy drugs and Daisy who was diabetic."

Surely if a nurse can read and double check the notes, she or he, can quickly scan the parent's name or glance at the whiteboard.

FWIW my children's teachers never did this. The children called them Miss, Mrs or Mr Bloggs and therefore the teachers addressed us as Mr and Mrs. It would hav felt wrong if I'd called their teachers Joan or Gail or Sarah.

I fucking hate it. Especially as some nurses use it way, way more than they would ever use your actual name in discussion. It's like a weird verbal crutch, like teenage girls using 'like' in every sentence.

And it's even worse when they're talking about you in the third person or in written correspondence. 'His mother says that he has been struggling with food' is more accurate and less patronising than 'Mum says...'

I don't mind it at all. I have problems calling the dcs and the hamster by the correct name, let alone a revolving ward of people. It's just a shortcut.

thecats really glad your boy's doing well.