AIBU to think double barrel surnames all sound stupid and there's just no need for it?

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I realise I will offend all you double barrellers
But why?
Do you realise it's a mouthful and makes you look like you're trying to be some kind of lord or lady?
What's wrong with one surname?
When I marry my OH i'lol take his surname. I won't just add it to mine and cause an unnecessarly long name to have to say/write/spell.

I think they make you look like a pleb.

My husband seriously considered taking my surname but there were reasons as to why it wouldn't work. I used my maiden name in the middle name slot, it doesn't go on official forms as a surname. Common tradition from the part of the country I'm from, I believe. My mother and her mother, did the same.

So my husband was weirdly submissive and pathetic

How intelligent you sound.

He didn't though did he Bowed...
Do you not get that what I said was in response to stupidness of the OP?
Although it is also what I believe but don't usually feel the need to express.

itsbetterthanabox

don't project your own insecurities onto other people, you would be better off working on your own issues, it sounds like you have a lot.

Thanks for that itsbetter - I have my husband's name and I can assure you I am neither of those things.

I think people should stop defining themselves by a name - yours, his, who gives a shit?! It's just a label to stop you getting mixed up with someone else!

My double-barrelled maiden name has been a family name for about 300 years. Oh, and yes were Lords in the family, so you can fuck-off!

I think they make you look like a pleb

Entirely your prerogative but you aren't the kind of person whose views I would be interested in hearing anyway.

I took my DH's utterly ordinary and vanilla surname... my choice as I was tired of the sniggers that my own surname tended to elicit.

I took my husband's last name. Yes, I could have kept my maiden name but I had no problem changing it. I'm traditional, definitely not submissive or pathetic. My maiden name will likely die out with my dad but one of my cousins has it as a middle name. I like the fact that I have so many relatives now with the same name. With my maiden name there were 6 of us, now there are about 20!

It's a modern thing when either the woman wants to keep her name or the father wants children to have his name but won't marry the mother.

When I was growing up it was only upper class people who had 2 surnames, wc wouldn't dream of it, but most people including wc got married in those days.
God I feel old.

Double barrelled used mean upper class. Now it means parents aren't married.
According to Friends who are teachers.

I don't get why people feel so protective over names in general. Personally couldn't give a toss what my surname is, means nothing as to who I am as a person.

I agree with this, Semi. Double barrelling wouldn't be my thing, but wouldn't care what anyone else did.

That said, the genuinely posh double barrelled types I know tend to drop one of their surnames in informal situations, so Susan Montague-Johnstone would generally just be Sue Johnstone etc. In fact, I used to work with a very lovely and rather posh chap whose name was actually (properly) triple barrelled. Think something like Michael Randolph Fortescue-Carter-Smythe. I'd worked with him for years and never known he was anything other than Mike Smythe - it was only when we were travelling and the documents came in his full name that we all cottoned on!

Rubbish I've had a double barreled name since I was born and I'm not upper class, far from it I'm a single Mum.

Double barrelled used mean upper class. Now it means parents aren't married. According to Friends who are teachers.

Not sure what kind of schools they work in but every child with a double barrelled surname that I know has married (and very highly educated) parents. The unmarried ones all tend to give the child the father's name.

I'm not married and there's no way I'd give dd her father's name

I always think it's hilarious when people seem unable to cope with someone having a slightly longer than average surname. How much of a moron must you be to find it difficult to cope with???

@Thumbcat I didn't give up my own name. I gave up my feckless and long-departed biological father's. Judge away, but your "own name" was given to you from a man too.

I'm so glad to hear my DS who has a father who's family is Soanish is a whole host of negative things just because of the name he inherited.

I'll be sure to let him know that alongside his ASD making life a bitch for him his name is going to hold him back further.

I've read some real judgement shit on here but yours is one of the most ignorant posts I've had the displeasure of reading.

Rubbish I've had a double barreled name since I was born and I'm not upper class, far from it I'm a single Mum.

Being a single mum or not has no bearing at all on your class.

Dh has v v boring surname, I am last in family with less normal but harder to spell name. I didn't change my name when I married 29 years ago. Double barrelling was accidentally done by vet when we registered a cat and it stuck. Children use both names (well, ds doesn't always). Doesn't matter to me - sometimes use maiden name and sometimes double-barrelled version.

I tend not to judge people on their names because it's rude.

That's Miss Double-BarrelLED to you. Not "double barrel".

Also, - can't see how it affects you!

2014, tend to agree. I also know that on an estate near me once convicted of an offence there is a tendency for criminals to add their middle name as a 'first surname' (or lob off the first surname or the barrell if they already have one, or change one of the surnames) to stop jurors for future offences googling them and finding out they have previous (which jurors shouldn't do but apparently do anyway). Apparently db names are now quite beloved of the criminal fraternity because of the freedom it can give them from Google whilst still being able to use the same ID docs etc.

Also agree with the Natalia that the properly posh tend to just use one unless in formal situations. I used to work at a Merchant Bank with a relative of Helen Bonham Carter and he was just known as X Bonham, wasn't until I saw the name on his office door I twigged they were related.

If you want to be properly posh you need an 'of' in your name. I used to book travel for 'x of Mar'. He wasn't happy when I booked him in as x Mar once.

Friend did this when she got married in case people didn't know it was her through work.
She has a very unique first name and we work in a very small industry.

Her husband hasn't double barrelled and she hasn't given it to DC. I don't see the point

I didn't give up my own name. I gave up my feckless and long-departed biological father's. Judge away, but your "own name" was given to you from a man too.

AH FUCK OFF WITH THIS STUPID ARGUMENT!!!!!

Ahem. Sorry, just a pet hate of mine when people claim that women's surnames are 'a man's name really'. No one ever, ever says this to men. My brother and I got our surname in exactly the same way, but while people love pointing out that my name (which I didn't change at marriage) is my father's, no one ever says this to my brother. Because men 'have' names and women 'borrow' them, it seems. By this logic, women don't take their husband's names - they take their father-in-law's name (or, rather, the name of some distant ancestor of their father-in-law).

I quite like double barrelled surnames, hyphenated first names do my head in though. The former always looks to me like both parents wanted their names represented, whereas the latter looks twee and indecisive. Weird.