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Many, many people took recreational drugs in the 90s. Where are they now?

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perhapsiwill · 02/02/2017 07:47

I'm not a drug addict and none of my friends were at the time, we just took Es at the weekend, sometimes other drugs. We all went to work or college, seemed like everyone else did this too. We had a great time, weekends were for dancing and hugging, I didn't get on with drunk people and one night stands and it suited me much better.
I moved away from where I grew up, nice area to another nice area.
When I mention partying in my youth to other mums where I live now, they look at me as if I'm an addict who needs help Confused.
Are they all pretending? There were thousands of us doing this so where are they now? And why do people who never took drugs appear to feel so morally superior? One of the women where I live openly talks about cheating the system financially yet looks at me like I'm scum because I went out and had fun 20 years ago. (And probably once a year now!) I feel that because I mentioned this one evening in a pub I have alienated myself from the local mums.

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Bibs2014 · 06/02/2017 22:35

Mitsis were amazing 😍

OhMrsQ · 06/02/2017 22:39

BenadrylCucumberpatch raindance is still going?? I'm in California now, but this year I am photographing burning man so that should be a headfuck and a half!

enthusiasm - Grin also me at 2am!!!!

CoteDAzur · 06/02/2017 22:39

While we are on the topic, may I share my complete and utter disbelief in the whole "just had a bad E and died" myth with you lot?

Those pills are made in batches of thousands. Where are the other hundreds of dead people who must have had the same pill on that same weekend? Hmm

CoteDAzur · 06/02/2017 22:43

Oh and I call bullshit on "somebody got confused and drunk a bottle of poppers".

You take one whiff of the stuff and your ears burn for half an hour. And you want us to believe that a living human being just thought it was water and drank a whole bottle of it??? Hmm

Thinkingofausername1 · 06/02/2017 22:49

I've taken lots of drugs. Unfortunately not to enjoy my college days like others but to keep me alive!! And I honestly don't see what the joy is of taking illegal drugs when,there are so many side effects and some people have died

jakscrakers · 06/02/2017 23:42

Im of the 80s and most of my crowd did them in one way or another, I never wanted to try, I was told it was fun and a great high, but I wanted to know exactly what i was doing at all times, whats the point in going for a great night out if you dont remember it! I was called allsorts for not participating but hey ho my choice, and theres to do what they wanted, they called me names but at the same time, they didnt ostracis me for not doing just thought i was a scardycat. These days frighten me though my daughter is 18 and has been telling me of her mates doing them since they were 13 and well much worse, I guess the 80s and 90s have a lot to answer for ......

bummymummy77 · 07/02/2017 03:11

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stopfuckingshoutingatme · 07/02/2017 07:25

What is going on with this thread ? Why so cruel and unkind cote?

You are not advertising E so well

Basicbrown · 07/02/2017 08:32

I do think from the position of a non drug taker....

There are risks involved in taking all drugs. Death from ecstacy direct or indirect would still not have happened had the person not taken it. But those saying you can't compare to alcohol, well everyone at least knows of someone who died from drinking. The same can't be said for ecstacy, at least for me personally. And although it isn't as universal a lot of people have taken it. I would argue it is personal choice like most other risks we take in life.

CoteDAzur · 07/02/2017 10:14

I don't believe that it is cruel and unkind to say that "one bad E" doesn't make sense, because they are not lovingly handmade one by one but mass produced in batches of thousands. If there is contamination, you would see hundreds of people die within days of each other, which has never happened.

What does happen (very rarely) is that people mix & overdo vast quantities of various drugs and this gets told as "But she just had one, I promise you officer!", mistake one drug for another and administer it as such (like in Pulp Fiction where Uma thought heroin was cocaine), or do unrelated foolish things like Leah Betts drinking gallons of water and dying of it.

People have said that we should be able to have an open and adult conversation about drugs. That includes accepting that the purpose of that discussion is not to be kind but to shed some light on the reality of what these drugs are and what they do. It also includes engaging some impulse control and not going nuts at 3 AM, hurling abuse at someone who dared say that "1 bad E" doesn't make sense because pills are made in batches of thousands.

CoteDAzur · 07/02/2017 10:23

It should also be possible to say that I don't believe anyone can get a bit "confused" and drink a bottle (no less) or poppers. Well, I don't. And no amount of f-words and insults are going to change that Hmm

Would you believe that someone got a bit confused and drank a bottle of Acetone? Poppers smells 1000 times worse. You couldn't touch it to your tongue, let alone drink an entire bottle. It makes about as much sense as someone getting a bit confused and eating a box of nails. You couldn't do it, even if you were braindead.

I'm not accusing you of lying. Maybe you were told this and believed it. Or you might be misremembering what was in that bottle - GBH, "liquid acid" etc? Anything else is more believable than "drank a bottle of poppers".

ageingrunner · 07/02/2017 10:24

Poor Leah Betts. Many people have benefitted from her legacy, either by making the decision to not take drugs at all, or by knowing what a bad idea it is to drink too much water with pills.

Twittery · 07/02/2017 10:55

Cote
People have said that we should be able to have an open and adult conversation about drugs. That includes accepting that the purpose of that discussion is not to be kind but to shed some light on the reality of what these drugs are and what they do

You have been the one insulting others including calling me a killjoy and a pearl clutches because I politely pointed out that the problem I have with people who take drugs is that they are funding organized crime. Your comments can hardly be described as having an 'adult conversation'

Ladyonashortfuse · 07/02/2017 11:41

Married to me, with a responsible job, a mortgage and 3 kids. Poor man.

CoteDAzur · 07/02/2017 11:43

So you think "No need to clutch your pearls" is an insult? Confused

I was referring to stuff like "fuck you" and "horrible cow".

bummymummy77 · 07/02/2017 12:01

Still no apology cote? Have you actually stepped back and looked at what you wrote to me?

Honestly, this is the first time anyone on mumsnet has ever directly upset me with their utter lack of self awareness and empathy.

I'm not even anti drug per se, I've done a fair few in my time.

And the poppers thing is true. Why on earth would I make something up like that? The person in question was an utter state. A good amount of other people saw it too and spoke about it after so I didn't 'imagine it' either.

Do you spend a lot of time being a post truth detective Cote?

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Twittery · 07/02/2017 12:04

You called me a 'killjoy'and a 'pearl clutcher' which are not the worst things to be called in the world but are most definitely insults as you well know. I didn't call you anything rude.

I'm pretty sure being called a pearl clutcher on Mumsnet is worse than being called a fucking cow 😂

bummymummy77 · 07/02/2017 12:07

People have feelings Cote. Think about that before you start your next keyboard crusade next time.

CoteDAzur · 07/02/2017 12:08

Also re your revision of history:

"You have been the one insulting others including calling me a killjoy and a pearl clutches because I politely pointed out that the problem I have with people who take drugs is that they are funding organized crime"

No, actually, that wasn't what you said:

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Yesterday 15:08 CoteDAzur

"if you think wanting to snorting coke is on the same level as a woman wanting to abort a foetus conceived as part of a domestic rape"

No need to clutch your pearls. I didn't say anything about "on the same level". I said they are both illegal in some parts of the world and they are both about doing things to one's own body. Which is true.

Do try to argue against it, if you can.

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And you clearly couldn't. If you would like to try now, the floor is yours.

CoteDAzur · 07/02/2017 12:15

Oh this is good. Let me get this straight: You screamed abuse at me in a 3 AM tirade, complete with f-words and insults for which your post was deleted, and you want me to apologize to you?

Let me think about that for a bit. I'll get back to you Grin

bummymummy77 · 07/02/2017 12:15

And assuming I'm not just lying about the death of my friend Hmm, in a tox report for an unexplained death it highly unlikely they would make something so specific up or get confused or whatever it is you think happened.

I get it, you think drugs are great. As I've said, I'm not anti drug myself despite losing friends to them but you seem to be taking offence to anyone even speaking badly of them. Ridiculous.

I'm out of this thread, I don't fancy banter or whiling away time for you while you're bored or whatever reason it is you have for your nasty and uncalled for comments Cote.

Greta84 · 07/02/2017 12:17

Cote has managed to upset a lot of people. I came off this thread because of the utter disregard and disrespect shown to my cousin who did die from drugs. Illegal drugs. Yes he was in the shower. Yes he had taken something. And yes he died. And now his mother, father and young brother are living with his loss as we all are as a family. Cote you need to give up.

bummymummy77 · 07/02/2017 12:18

Yes I screamed abuse at you. You're being really vile. You should be ashamed of yourself. Bit of fun internet arguing? You get your kicks out of winding someone up about their best friend's death? You need to take a look at yourself Cote because from where I'm standing I'm not seeing a very nice person.

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