AIBU to think that people who don't have young children who park in parent and child spaces are selfish?

[Kjc105]

I was reading an article on the Daily Fail about a young couple with a baby who were left a note saying that parent and child spaces are for people with children (they were with their baby) but what annoyed me were people commenting under the article who were saying that they always park in parent and child even if there are other spaces available as they feel parents are entitled to too many things and why should they be inconvenienced by people having children. Is it me or is this totally selfish as the reason why those spaces are they are for the safety of the children, more space so other car doors aren't dented and closer to the store so it is generally safer for children and less likely for a child to be hit by a car. AIBU to think these people are selfish?

Funny, disabled people don't want to moan at anyone. They simply want to use the space that suits their needs without being being moaned at by others.

So if you go and get petrol you take both kids out of the car and inside for 30 seconds before going back and doing it all up again

Soubriquet ah therein lies the joys of the pay at the pump that's a whole other thread though, I have anewborn and 3yo and would think it far more dangerous to lug them across a forecourt than leave them in the car. Having said that I put them in the car before taking the trolley back, where I am there's always one at a stone's throw of the car!

Funnyonion knowing 2 people who, in your opinion, don't need a blue badge doesn't justify making a (ridiculous) sweeping statement about all blue badge holders. They certainly don't give them out like sweets, I'm confident if someone has one it's because they need it

How do you think you get a bb?
Do you think people say " please can I have one" and the response is "of course you can, have 2 if you like"
Please educate yourself.

Soubriquet that's a whole other thread Fwiw I wouldn’t use anything other than pay at the pump if I had my toddler in the car. I specifically go to stations I know have it. If for some reason I had to use one without pay at the pump I would take my toddler in with me but assume I'm in the minority as I have bad anxiety. I would also get anxious about carrying him across the forecourt though so would try and use one closest to the garage!

But tbh there are plenty with badges who use them but don't need them

So glad you know the ins and outs of so many people's medical records.

Glad you can see into people's bodies for hidden disabilities.

Such a talent.

Both have parking areas and if there aren't enough then moan about the retail outlets and shops, not parents for daring to use an area that keeps their child safe and makes life easier

You seems to missing the point!

One is a legal requirement one is a nice to have.

HTH

Oh and with regards to blue badges, in my experience they are really really hard to get! I think the criteria has got even stricter in recent years too so I would never ever question someone's need to have one. To suggest they don't really need one is unkind and unfair, and likely just plain wrong.

I presume you have reported those people for fraudulent use then funny?

Just another voice to say I use them on the infequent occasions I take my df to the supermarket. He's in poor health and unsteady on his feet. No blue badge - won't apply because he doesn't drive anymore (dementia doesn't help with logical thinking).

It's not ideal but so much in life is not ideal. It is much harder to take him shopping than it ever was to take my 2 boys when they were little (I loved P&C spaces then too).

Oh ffs stop been naive. I'm not assuming this based on distant friendships and this is not me being a know it all One person is my mother and the other is my brother in law. BIL runs marathons, body builds, does DIY. I've never seen him in 15 years suffer with his back and I've lived with him for 2 years. So yea I would say he is exploiting the system wouldn't you? People do fake it you know! Christ what's with all the keyboard warriors on here? Making negative assumptions about what I've said. My point was people exploit simple as.

As for disabled parking spaces being the law. I might be wrong on this, but I thought only local authorities can enforce that? Stores such as Asda etc can insist but legally do zero. Just as parking fines etc

How did I manage with my 4, 3 under 4 at one time before these spaces existed. You manage. Stop with the drama.

However the P&C spaces are very good and useful for parents and no I wouldn't park in one without my grand child in tow.

Those with disabilities should park where they can to make life easier for them.

But tbh there are plenty with badges who use them but don't need them. Your judgy attitude and ridiculous opinion is the very reason DH doesn't like to use his BB. Have you got ANY idea what it is like to feel eyes on you EVERY time your get out of the car. My DH fought for 2 years, yes 2 years, to get his BB, yet still he has people making snap judgements based on shit. I HATE the way people are so fucking judgemental about things that have got fuck all to do with them. As soon as we pull in to a space people are walking past, taking a peek in the window to see if there is a BB. Then he gets out of the car and people further away are looking at him. What are they saying? Maybe they are making hat judgement that he doesn't need the BB. Well I urge every single person on this thread that thinks there is such a massive amount of people with BB who don't need them to go try get one. Go on, go try and get a BB.

Massive rucking eye roll

presume you have reported those people for fraudulent use then funny?

Yes I did three times, I went through all the proper forms online. Nothing was ever done. This person openly brags and I even confronted him about it. Very entitled, brags about his lifestyle, luxuries, holidays etc. No I'm not jealous but I know for a fact given I've lived with him and we have discussed this that nothing is wrong with him. I've never seen him struggle at any point with his mobility. Hence my disgust. My point was just because someone has a badge doesn't mean they are legitimate. I'm not suggesting we should be suspicious as blue badges are in place for a reason. But just as parents with older capable kids take valuable spaces, people have badges too that are playing the system. Some people have no morals and just don't give a shit. Nothing can change it really.

Then report them Funny, instead of making goady twatty comments about plenty not needing them.

Cross post but the second part of my comment still applies.

Reality

Get a fucking grip. I was talking about someone I know personally to be commuting fraud. Not your DH, I don't stalk disabled bays and watch to see how disabled people look. I'm well aware people exist with true disabilities that don't necessarily look in pain. Read my posts properly and stop jumping to confusions.

Well I meant conclusions but confusions is politer I guess!

Spikey Stop being so goady. Just because I dare acknowledge that a genuine problem exists with faking disablement doesn't mean I'm suggesting everyone is doing it. But just as parents exploit parent spaces, blue badge holders can be fraudulent. It's not a fail safe system, millions have been caught out. I don't pay attention to who's using what bays at the supermarket, but when I personally know people who openly do it well then yes I can use it as an example of shitty behaviour.

Get a fucking grip. I was talking about someone I know personally to be commuting fraud. Not your DH, I don't stalk disabled bays and watch to see how disabled people look I wasn't suggesting that you did. In fact I was very clear about it being 'people' and not specifically you. It is however the absolute attitude that people face every single day. It's really tough to deal with Day to day, so I would like to think my sensitivity is quite justified and not deserving of 'get a fucking grip'.

Is it just me who thinks funny is making up every word of her posts to try to prove a point? Or is doing some serious exaggerating at best!

I've made up my mind what sort of poster funny is.

No I don't think it's justified actually. My point is I'm disgusted that people pretend to be Ill for money and perks and compromise what is in place to help those who genuinely need it. I was in no way suggesting we all start policing the disabled. But yea I have experienced first hand fraud and I shared that. Somehow though me suggesting that a problem exists is offensive. Nah.