AIBU to think I've just been put in my place by DS' girlfriend

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DS has been away for a week. His GF texted earlier to ask if she could come round and cook a surprise special meal for them. Obv not a problem and she's a nice girl btw.

She has just asked me if DH, DD and I will be eating before them or after them!!! That kind of tells us to bugger off doesn't it? She's 16 FFS.

I'm going to have to keep on the right side of her aren't I?

i am with the OP

sounds to me she knows what she wants and how to get it! AND she can cook!

so long as the kitchen is tidy and she hasn't left crumbs in the butter I'd let it go.

Not sure I'd give up my sitting room mind you!.

What meal did she cook? It's a really sweet idea, she sounds lovely.

It's bizarre, presumptuous and gauche. If she wants to cook for him she should it at her own house.

I think OP was admirably gracious.

I'm surprised that you are basically being asked to make yourself scarce in your own house. I don't mean the girl is rude or anything, but wanting to make a meal means you aren't invited (fair enough) but they're going to want time on their own and now you're upstairs?! Is this a thing parents of 16 year olds have to put up with?

You won't be MIL from hell, she will become DIL from hell and make you walk on eggshells for the rest of your days.

Utter rot.you surmised this based on...a meal preparation and query when they'd be alone

Yes. What did she cook?

Gauche?

Ahaha.

She sounds lovely. I'm glad she chose to do it at your house so you could see your DS too.

No doubt if she'd suggested it at her house, she'd by accused by a bunch of vipers on here of trying to steal your son from you.

Poor girl!

I like the sound of her!

I think she sounds rather sweet.

Can someone please tell me what the male equivalent of 'little madam' is?

Genuine question.

'Upstart'. I think IwasAM

Oh I thought you were just about to say she is an adult, she is only 16 and they are not usually known for their how do I say it, subtle ways

All done now. And washed up

They had Chinese which is DS's favourite. She put a lot of thought into it and brought candles along. I found some chopsticks and napkins for her to lay the table with.

They seem to have enjoyed their evening. just as long as they don't think we'll be hiding upstairs every weekend

Why would they think that? He's been away. It's a one-off.

Ah, this is quite sweet,albeit a bit 1950s housewife, I can't imagine my now 19 year old daughter saying when she was 16 She wanted to cook a guy dinner, I'd have been all " really??? Will he do that for you? Yeah ok 🙄 "

She did however have a guys mother who loved her to bits cook dinner and leave them to it, it was basically the end of the relationship. The mum went so over the top with candles and flowers and multiple courses and went on about just how lovely my daughter was, she actually dumped him.😂

I think that's lovely and the OP has taken it in the spirit it was intended. She sounds like a keeper.

Be thankful they're sensible!

When I was 16 I'd have been in the park with my boyfriend and a bottle of strongbow, the shame!

late to the party but she sounds lovely. Hope the kitchen was clean and tidy!

I still don't understand why you thought asking when you'd be eating was code for telling you to bugger off.

OP- were you expecting to partake in their romantic dinner? How awkward!

I think it's very sweet of a 16yo to want to make a romantic meal for her bf. She is trying to work out the logistics, not "put you in your place"! If you think now that it's too inconvenient, just tell her you've changed your mind and offer to pay for a nice meal for them at a restaurant.

I still don't understand the problem.