to not want our daughter to have the surname 'Perfect'?

[Brooks10]

Our daughter is due any day. We have decided on her first name, but are struggling with the surname. We are not married. He wants his surname (which I actually don't mind, as in don't mind her having just his surname) but his surname is Perfect. It's not unreasonable to think that's not a great surname is it?? He thinks it's a great surname to have, so which is it?? A bad or good surname to have? I think it's really bad tbh. Mind you, it doesn't sound that great hyphenated either, does it?

Perfect-Mayfield is nice!

Italian I'll think its customary for people who aren't married to not take their partners name just cos they're pregnant

I've name changed, so not too fussed, but my surname is Mayfield, it's not that common either, but obviously move common than Perfect.

Momma I know a Love too, it's such a wonderful name.

Also know a Valentine. Good surnames are such a great talking point. I would love to be a D'eath or a Mystery.

FWIW I actually love "Perfect" OP!

I'm fairly sure Italian's question is deliberately "backwards". She's hoping that OP will reply "because he doesn't own me" or something and then Italian can use this to "prove" that their baby shouldn't have the dad's name.

Oh sorry OP, I guessed that but didn't mean to type it

I want Dr Valentine off Holby to be my doctor

Oh sorry I thought you had said it OP.

So sorry. Please report for deletion if you want and let me know and I will do the same.

Wyf as in "nor does he own your daughter"?

FuckOff it was me, I deduced it but meant to type "May-feel" as the OP had - will also ask for deletion if you like OP

Id go with your name.

No, don't worry, it's fine I've changed username and not fussed if people I know see this thread. Thanks though!

Brooks10
"Italian what do you mean??"

I am asking the OP if there is a reason why she has not taken her boyfriend's name but is considering giving their baby his name.

Italian???? Since when do you randomly change your name to your boyfriend's?

QuimReaper "Italian for the love of arse that's a backward question even if they were married which they are not." WHAT is a backward question?

See my question earlier, for the love of arse!

Italiangreyhound Tue 24-Jan-17 23:47:07
Give her he same name as you. If you are not taking his name, why should she?

Could be worse - I've come across a Mr. Pimple before.

You can't send a child off into the school jungle called "Miss Perfect". You just can't

Didn't seem to do this Perfect any harm

Mayfield is a lovely name.

Someone upthread has said she (CM) didn't like it herself bit

MommaGee "Italian I'll think its customary for people who aren't married to not take their partners name just cos they're pregnant"

I know someone whose partner would not marry her so they took his name and gave the kid the same surname. When they finally married (who say they have to, but she wanted to) they married as Mr and Mrs same-name-already!

People do not necessarily take their partners name on marriage (in fact men rarely do) but some do take the same name without marrying. My question is why would the OP want her dd to have her partner's name if she didn't?

WyfOfBathe if only I was as clever and cunning as all that. but thanks for thinking I am!

I cannot understand not having the same name as your kids that is all. I took my dh's name because it is nice and normal and easy to spell and y 'maiden' name was odd and difficult to spell and had resulted in some very minor teasing at school (I mean very minor).

I was delighted to lose my maiden name! So our kids and dh have the same name. Which is fine. But I would not want dh and the kids to have one name and me not. That's all.

Brooks
"Italian???? Since when do you randomly change your name to your boyfriend's?"

never! But I am not having a baby with fictitious boyfriend and considering giving the baby that name!

It's better than Careless, Titman or Titterly, all of whom I've known.

If you go for Perfect Mayfield (which sounds very nice) there is the option for her to just not use Perfect (if she was getting teased about it, I say this as someone who was teased endlessly about my surname). She can just drop out the Perfect and be Mayfield

Perfect Mayfield as a middle name / surname is nice. A local doctor here is called Dr Sweet, which I think is lovely (as is she).