Dog poo warning picture

[fizzingmum]

So my OH doesn't like our dog. He is an excitable puppy (it was agreed we could get him for the kids) but very loving and gentle with our new baby. All the kids love him and he is my little companion whilst on maternity leave. As a young dog he sometimes has accidents indoors. Tonight he pooped in the hallway. My OH stood in it and dragged it up the stairs. Not an accidental smudge but a deliberate protest against the dog. I feel he has done it on purpose and he denies this. However he only has dog Poo on one shoe so unless he was hopping up the stairs I don't see how this is an accident. It has been ground into the carpet. And it's not the first time, it's the third time. Last time he said he hadn't noticed he had stepped in it until he reached the top of the stairs, ensuring it was on every step along the way (again how unless he was hopping). And he was barefoot! How the hell do you not notice you have stepped in dog Poo when barefoot. I'm not sure if he is punishing me for not letting him out or if he is building a case to get rid of the dog. That won't happen as he is part of the family and I have made that clear. So my AIBU, he has called me crazy and stupid this evening for suggesting this was anything other than an accident. I don't see how it could be anything other than deliberate. AIBU to accuse him of this. Sorry about the photo and the rant.

Fenella, his needs are more than met. Tonight was a very rare blip. As I mentioned I've just startled controlled crying with a baby so I was distracted. Was going well until a blazing row with OH over dog shit. I can't get my head round why a grown ass man would do that either, to me it is so obviously deliberate. In his own home.

I would take the dog's poo next time he foes one and rub it in his clothes - the immature twat! Is he for real??? God help your poor kids eith an imbecile for a father !

poor dog is probably frightened of your partner

The Op isn't new to MN Black

My ex did exactly this when we got a puppy. Plus many other sneaky, passive aggressive displays of jealousy.

He gave me the ultimatum - I chose the dog. Never regretted it for a second.

Your husband smeared dog shit on his own carpet to prove a point?!!! LTB or is it just me thinking that?

Tbh I think from what you've said it was a mistake to get the dog. It isn't a case of five of you wanting it - there are only two adults in your house and one of you has made it clear that not only did he not want one but also that he wouldn't take any responsibility for it.

Obviously he's an arsehole if he trod the shit onto the stairs on purpose, but you were foolish to introduce an animal that he didn't want into his house.

FFS the man agreed to it - is OP supposed to discard any agreement and make assumptions on the basis of what the lack of enthusiasm infers? He's an adult - he had ample opportunity to say no.

And accidents do happen from time to time, even in 1-year-olds. Not all dogs are exactly the same even if they've been identically trained, funnily enough.

I can only hope for your sake that this wasn't deliberate, OP, because it really doesn't say much for this guy if he did it deliberately. What was he hoping to achieve? To get you to agree to get rid of the dog? The more pragmatic solution is that he looks where he's f*cking going next time.

Good luck with it all. Your dog is a gorgeous little chap!

It's a living creature. Why would you bring a dependent living creature into an environment where it isn't wanted? That is far worse than treading poo into a carpet - it's actually cruel.

And yes of course the OP should be able to infer that when a person says they don't want anything to do with a dog then actually that person doesn't want one.

So EVERYBODY else in the family wants the dog and it is, from what we can ascertain, chiefly for the OP. The OP's DH - presumably a competent adult - was given the opportunity to state any strong desire not to get a dog and said he was quite happy to get one as long as he didn't have to take it out on walks/clean up after it etc. Which he needn't, if others are happy and willing to do so.

Everybody else adores the dog, it is well cared for and the OP's husband - having given his agreement, gritted teeth or no - is now, it appears, throwing a tantrum over a bit of poo.

And somehow the OP is cruel for electing to subject the the dog to one less-than-enthusiastic party?

What a bizarre assertion.

Nobody is at fault here but the man who (allegedly) trod shit into the carpet to make a point.

Would you have a child with someone who said they wouldn't have anything to do with him/her? Or would you think, well gosh, he obviously doesn't want one so if I go ahead and have one it's going to cause problems so I'll be responsible and not do it.

Unfortunately the OP didn't cleanup after her dog otherwise he wouldn't of stepped in it. Assuming the husband is an equal party in this relationship he has every reason to feel aggrieved. After all it's his house too.

I feel sorry for the dog ( not a dig at the op) the husband won't even let the poor thing out to go the toilet that's just cruel.
He wouldn't take it out if you were ill op?
Yes he doesn't have to have anything to do with it's care, but then there's just being mean
It does seem like he's done this on purpose ( is he 5?) and i agree with another poster, i'd be worried incase he was (more) cruel to your little pup.

Btw Your pup is beautiful. I know which one i'd prefer to share the bed with!

OK, that is one ugly dog. But you love him and that's all that matters.

I can't stand dogs, wouldn't have one in the house under any circumstances.

It isn't actually about the dog though is it? Your DH just deliberately spread shit around your house to make a point.

That's fucked up.

Doesn't matter where the shit came from, or what his point actually was, he spread shit around the house to piss you off.

Fucked. Up.

I couldn't live with someone who willfully spread SHIT into the carpet and left it for me to clean up.

No matter how 'nice' he was otherwise, not even if he had a solid gold dick.

He didn't want the dog - and made it clear. Perhaps you didn't want to hear that. You can't expect him to clean up after dog. I would resent - hugely- the need to clean up after a dog especially if I had not been in favour in the first place I didn't want our dog. They are too much hassle, and with dh at work, and me at home with dd at the time, The job of training it would fall largely to me..and it did. I resented the dog, resented the hassle of having to secure him before I left the house, otherwise we would come home to a mess, then at times that he got out of the garden, I resented running after him...

But I still wouldn't have purposefully dragged dog shit through the house, because I am not passive aggressive or a wanker. The op's PH here doesn't have to do anything to/with the dog, so it's not like he is forced to completely change his day around to accommodate it.

I tolerate my dog because my kids & dh love him to bits, and they sacrifice things to do what I want, sometimes. It's called compromise. And being an adult.

OH, not PH

Also, my dog is getting old and does have accidents at night, however, I would clear it up if I had to prevent the dc treading in it, by largely, dh looks after this kind of stuff. Wouldn't occur to me to spread it over the home.

I do complain about it though...loudly at times...

i really would leave someone who deliberately mashed dog shit into the carpet of their own home. it's ridiculously trampy, dangerous for the kids and shows a complete lack of respect. if it was an honest accident he'd be mortified and cleaning it up.

Your DH is an asshole. End of.

Dpup looks bloody gorgeous.

So once he wiped the shit from his bare foot on that step, did he hop to the bathroom to wash it or did he walk?

So where else did he put his germ covered foot that needs disinfecting but has no visible shit on?

I'd get rid of the OH

i really would leave someone who deliberately mashed dog shit into the carpet of their own home

Me too.
I think there is something seriously wrong with your OH.
And he's thick as well - is he intending not to use the stairs again himself?

I think your DH sounds like a total child, but I also wanted to ask how much you are walking the dog? Without a tummy upset surely the dog should have done a poo while out for his walk? That is what my dog (of the same age) has always done.

Dh was against getting a cat. He hated cats.

We talked about it and he agreed it had to be a rescue, I had to let it choose me, and I would take full responsibility for it. 5 months later he loves our catface. She's taken over our flat and he lets her sleep on the bed.

He doesn't get up early to feed her doesn't clean out her litter - my cat my responsibility. But if I needed him to he would.

Your dh is an ass