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[Inarightpickleandchutney]

So.. DH and his friend come back from the pub (friend is stopping here tonight) and I wake up when they open front door.
I'm laying trying to get back to sleep and overheard their conversation.

The pair of them were discussing how they thought my best friend was 'hot' 'fucking hot' and how much of a nice rack she has.

Also DH says things have gone stale with us.

They don't know I heard.

Do I let this go or go down and make an almighty scene??

I'm really glad it seems to be somewhat sorted OP. You acted admirably

Thanks, I feel good actually, and quite in control.

Yes,in a unplanned ouch kind of way it facilitated another conversation.worked out ok

Oh yey, yey, yey.

I'm so happy this is working out well.

I think you were FABULOUS to go out. I LOVED it when you said he turned white. I think it's lovely his friend texted to apologise too (I see several PPs think this is further evidence of his being an arse, but I didn't take it that way at all.... I saw it as a nice guy contacting his equally nice friend and saying "oh shit... we were out of order and she overheard it" and him apologising for his part in that).

And I'm so happy to think you might be able to move forward from this (and you said you've now heard messages you'd previously missed? That's very, very big of you. Well done!)

This is a very rare 'happy ever after' thread, I think, and i'm really pleased about that! Well done, OP, it was a horrible thing to overhear, and you've clearly dealt with it really well. x x x

Inarightpickleandchutney - you are a fabulous woman. I really hope that if I'm ever in your position* I can deal with it as cool, calm and collected as you did, and with an open mind to the "stale" comment.

Refreshing to see the knee-jerk "Pack his bags!!!" isnt always the way to go.

I wish I had your restraint OP, I'd be away downstairs now to interrupt their "boy talk".

He's obviously been drinking, trying to show off in front of his mate thinking they're great stuff the pair of them, absolutely idiotic by the sounds of it but nevertheless his behaviour is disrespectful to you.

If he thinks your relationship is "stale" then that is definitely something that you should raise with him.

Ahh yes,the ridiculous pack his bags!pack your bags!rip him a new arse advice
I think on mn some folk dispense hyperbole with sassy,that is wholly disproportionate
Probably cause it's easy to instruct someone else when you don't bear the consequence

So pleased it's all sorted OP and so nice to see someone handle such an issue in such a mature and effective way, ignoring the drama and LTBs. You definitely deserve a gold

Hi all, thanks again for the comments and support.

DH has continued to be mortified and I've had a tearful heartfelt speech detailing the run up to the conversation (friend thinking she's hot).

I'm feeling fine about it now and we're okay.

Thanks again

Good result for both of you