To wonder why some people are in denial about their weight?

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Not criticising anyone here but just wondering.

I had a morbidly obese friend who says she is that size because she is muscular and has 'big bones'. I don't comment but she clearly has a lot of fat on her body and she does overeat.

I have come across other people too who say people are healthier these days so are going to be bigger. People say it is because of genetics. Everyone is overweight in their family and that is the reason they are.

I know weight loss isn't easy - trying to lose weight myself! - but surely pretending it is because of reasons outside of your control isn't going to help. People keep telling me I am fine and I don't need to lose weight. Err yes I do according to BMI. I am in the overweight category

Not denying the reasons for people who have real medical reasons such as disabilities or because of medication

OK. I am overweight. I had a baby six months ago, which led to more weight gain, but I had also gained in the last couple of years due to being in a happy relationship... Lots of nice dinners, wine etc. Now, although my main meals are really healthy, I am guilty of enjoying a drink and the odd bit of chocolate. It is a bloody struggle.
All that said, I think I always weigh a lot. I exercise seven days a week (circuit training), and I walk a lot with the baby. I pack on muscle very easily. I am 5" 11 and very long limbed and broad shouldered!
I am losing weight, however I will always be "heavy". I hate bmi as a measurement. For example, at booking in appts for pregnancy I would much rather they look at body composition. This would also be a real wake up call for anyone in denial about the amount of fat on their body.
Another thing, I think there should be a bit more support available. For example, we are TTC number two. I know it is important to be at a healthier weight. I actually made a Dr's appt, among other things to ask for some support with healthy weight loss (not healthy eating, I have that covered). I was told absolutely no support was available. Great.

I am all of these things:

Tall
Broad framed (wrist measurement 8.5")
Muscular
Large chested
Overweight

I've lost 4st in the past year and need to lose a further 2. The first four points mean I will never be small, but they don't prevent me from being healthy. I am currently at a weight where I can carry it well, and when I've lost another 2st, I know that people never believe that I'm as heavy as I am.

I've not read the entire thread, but shop vanity sizings have a lot to answer for in this regard! I remember when I was a student I was generally a size 10 most places. If I got into a size 8 somewhere I felt amazing. I was 8 and a half stone.

I am now in my late 30s. For most of my 30s I have been a size 8 more shops than I was a size 10. My weight has been anywhere in the 8 and a half stone to 9 and a half stone range, except when I was pregnant.

It is bizarre. Objectively, I have clearly on average been fatter. But the outside world has told me otherwise through the medium of clothing sizes.

So in that context, I get how people can be in denial about these things to a certain extent....

As a size 8 and between 8 1/2 and 9 stone you are clearly not in anyway large Rose

As a size 8 and between 8 1/2 and 9 stone you are clearly not in anyway large Rose

She didn't say that she is.

The point she is making is that vanity sizing makes it easy for people to be in denial about their weight.

I laugh about my weight, however, I am fully aware of it and am working on it.
Imho it's all the advertising and groups with x rules about dieting which make it look so hard. Also the fact that people want to see results fast.
I cut down my portions a bit, exchanged some snacky food for veg and fruit and the weight is shifting. It's not that hard unless you go into it with thinking it is hard.
Tiny little changes over the time are great way to get on with it. I couldn't just completely overhaul my whole eating habbits, but changing small things one by one makes it so much easier and the change will last as it is sustainable lifestyle.
Honestly, just starting with 4 less spoons of stew per portion, for example, will lead to 8 less in a month and eventually a third of portion less in the next month.
People should be told not to hurry it and that if you don't lose anything first month, it's ok and just continue with changes. Because quick crash diets or diets with tons of rules are not sustainable AND usually make you more hungry because you have to think about it all the time.
Slow lifestyle change can imho save lives rather than super duper £150 a week dieting plan.

@BeerandBiscuits ffs🙄 Didn't look at dates

You certainly can be fat and happy
You can't be fat and healthy (and I don't just mean a bit over the 'ideal' weight I'm talking obese) the two just cant go together

These threads always bring out the smug cunts who are obsessed with their weight, live off salad and go running every day. Also the type to say 'oh I couldn't possibly!' when offered dessert.

I wish they would be more concerned about people starving themselves to be thin, but i suppose its easier to deflect their own issues and talk about the obesity crisis in order to feel smug and superior that they have the willpower to deny themselves constantly.

Funnily enough, all the slim women i know always skip meals and exercise like lunatics. Anytime you do see them eat its usually a salad or a piece of fruit, never a proper meal. I'm not a fucking squirrel, i will eat cake and ice cream and be a comfortable size.

I dont think denying yourself food and being obsessive about exercise is healthy at all. it's just as bad as someone who binge eats and does no exercise, just the opposite side of the coin.

I don’t admit I know I’m fat. People start giving you advice on how to lose weight. Lots of advice . I don’t want endless advice, and follow up conversations on progress! - so it’s far quicker and kinder on both of us to bat any leading conversations away right from the start.

I’m really very fat and know it’s because I eat shit and dont move enough.

No denial here. I'm a fat fucker. I'm 19st and a size 20 bottoms, 24 top.
I'm not happy, in fact I'm misreable but eating is literally my only pleasure in life. I dont eat massive amounts but I dont exercise. I walk and do housework but exercise invilves going where people are. I hate people looking at me. I know they are.all thinking look at that fat fucker. But advice on how to lose weight just makes me.feel.more ashamed, more useless and more in need of food to cheer myself up. I have no motivation.
Until i find my reason to lose weight that is more appealing than that slice of toast, avocado sarnie or dark chocolate i will stay a fat bugger.

BMI is a load of shit.