We are not married and have 2 dc's 20 months and 11weeks. We live in an expensive part of the country for his work and adult children and are 4.5 hours away from my support network. I have no one locally and his family do not help with the children.
I work from home so can live anywhere. We can't afford to buy anything where we live but if I moved I could buy something outright. At the moment we share essential outgoings and I pay for all discretionary spending due to his maintenance payments (I earn £1,200, him £2,600 plus bonus usually £2,500 pm). If we continue to live together at the current rate my capital would be gone in 10 years and we will never be able to buy a place to live (child care costs of nearly £2k pm and rent of £1.5k pm). If I move my children would have a home and they'd be money left over.
He can't move his job and is stuck earning at his current level until retirement. We could still see each other at weekends but I would secure my children's futures.
He isn't keen on the idea but I'm pretty set on it- aibu?