To be a bit irritated by my friend?

[cattypussclaw]

So... have this friend. Met her about three years ago when she had one child. She's since had a second baby.

I would just get one second hand and then post on her Facebook. Don't worry about the phone, I got one much cheaper from . That would teach her not to be so greedy.

Don't be such a door mat!

catty ! brilliant recovery ...very nicely done indeed and I hope you do get the phone at the price you offered

OMG Binky that's just an awful, lower than low thing for your ex-friend to do. Jeez, what the heck goes through the minds of some people...

You're probably right rookiemere but I hate confrontation and didn't want a row over a tenner, hence I took the light-hearted approach I did.

She has done that to me Magz. Sold stuff I gave her on Facebook (where she must know I'd bloody see it!) but I took the attitude that I'd given it to her and it was therefore then hers to do with as she wants.

Binky

Was just congratulating myself on a first AIBU not going too badly and then NightWanderer shows up and calls me a doormat

That'll teach me! Could have been far worse though.

I do think she should have sold it to you but £180 is quite low.
Last time I looked you can trade it in at phone shops for £185 and usually sell for £230ish on gumtree

Do you think so MadeForThis? Will have another look at prices. But her top offer is still only £10 more than my offer so, right now, she's not going to get any more. She might get more offers and that's fine, she can sell to them.

Nightwanderer's sleeptalking

I meant it with kindness

If you can buy one elsewhere for 150 pounds, it makes no sense to give her 180 pounds for one.

OP -"She'd go off the deep end and I can't be bothered with it."
No criticism of you intended OP....Its the going off at the deep end bit - if you are in a position where you can't say what you think and that is the norm for your friendship....is it not dreadfully hard work?

Binky that's low.

Op I'd quietly step back. After what you've offered too think she'd have offered the phone to you but to say their is another bidder is cheeky.

No ALittleMop as she just doesn't seem to butt heads with me about things the way she does with others. She's always falling out with people but not me. Maybe because I just don't take offence easily or don't have small children that fight with hers (a regular bugbear of hers, although I think bickering over toys is fairly normal for small kids). There's a big age gap between us (almost 20 years) and I think I'm at the age where I (mostly) don't have the inclination to get worked up about minor social infractions. Life's too short, etc.

You're a better woman than me catty 😁

Nah, just lazy Magz

Is it gin time yet?

Whatever works for you is all that matters, you sound really cool 😎

Yeah to the gin 😀

Or maybe because you always let her take advantage of you and never pull her up on her bad behavior?

I'm not being nasty, honestly. And you did really well to stand up for yourself, but it doesn't sound like a healthy friendship.

Anyway, good luck to you and I hope your friend chooses your friendship over the money but I doubt she will

Will you be still friends with her if she chooses to give the phone to the highest bidder.

Sadly not cool at all, Magz. More old and tired!

Maybe NightWanderer, but mostly I put her odd behaviour down to her background of unhealthy relationships. It's never been tested as my life is pretty uneventful but I think she'd be there if I needed her, if something terrible happened and I needed her support. She has offered to have my daughter to stay overnight in return for the babysitting but my daughter looked horrified at the idea ("No thanks Mum, she's MAD!"). As rookiemere suggested, I don't think she really knows what a healthy relationship is so I give her a lot of leeway. Maybe too much but rather that than judge her harshly and treat her like her shitty family.

Yes, of course dustarr73, her phone, her choice.

Understand knackeredinyorkshire. Not wrong, exactly, but it leaves a nasty taste, doesn't it?

Coincidentally, had some lovely gin in Yorkshire recently. A gin with port in. Was v nice but made me a bit wobbly.

I think you are right its her phone to do what she chooses with it,but i wouldnt be able to look at her the same way,

Yes I think keep your dignity in tact but be mindful and give the things to charity in future. Some people are so tight and come from a different starting point.

My DS's best friends mum didn't believe in wasting money on kids clothing and made it known she clothed both DC's in hand be downs and dropped strong hints don't know what little sis will wear for football Xmas party everyone else wearing dresses and girly thing x then aged 5/6 would love a dress but she hasn't got any etc (knowing my DD two years older had loads). I passed on loads of clothes to her and know she wore quite a lot of them as seen her in them. She said thank you but that was it never a bottle of wine or sweets for kids nothing. Financially they are probably better off then us and the DC's are now always bragging about all the holidays they have to exotic locations. Anyway I once saw her walking to town with a bin liner in each hand. I mentioned it and she openly admitted she was going down to cash4clothes as loads of people had given her DD clothing and she had so much she couldn't possibly keep it all!! That was it no more bin liners of clothing from us.

Wow what a cow. Ditch her.