DH ignores me every evening.

[yellowflags]

DH comes home from work at 7.30, makes himself some food, and then watches the iPad with his headphones in all evening. He lies across the sofa so there's nowhere for me to sit. He likes to have the lights off so I can't sit in there and read. There is nowhere else to sit in our house apart from the hall (ktichen is tiny, DC sleeping in our room).

I feel so sad and miserable that I spend most evenings standing in the kitchen, comfort eating, reading mumsnet. When I try to talk to him he sighs, takes his headphones out but never takes his eyes off the screen. Every so often he pesters me for sex.

AIBU or is he really fucking mean?

All ok, OP?

Wow!! Do not allow that behaviour. It's your house too. Refuse to let him do that in the living room and if he really musty then go and lay in it he bedroom as he has headphones on so will not disturb anyone! That's so selfish!
And as for sex.... he has to have the whole sofa because of his back but then his back is ok to have sex?
He's getting it all his way and it's up to you to change it for the better

He has disconnected himself from you quite literally. Signs of a wider problem I think. You need to think about whether you still want to be in this relationship? From the sounds of it, you don't have one. You need to look after yourself. This neglect is soul destroying.

why are you together?

I find this sort of thread so depressing. Who the hell are these people who treat their partners like this?

I agree Imperial , utterly shocking what some people think is an acceptable way to treat their life partner. Fundamental lack of respect.