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This puts me off Girl Guides.

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NormaStanleyFletcher · 19/01/2017 07:29

I always expected Girl Guides to be a fully female environment. And WTF about not telling parents if it isn't?

"Thanks for your email, and taking the time to read our updated equality and diversity policy. If an adult self-identifies as a woman then they are able to undertake all adult roles in guiding including becoming a Leader. This means that they may also, if they wish, make their Promise.

With regards to sleeping arrangements at residential events, it is important to work with the trans individual when organising accommodation rather than making assumptions or arrangements without consulting them. Some people may not feel comfortable sharing accommodation so in this case an alternative option should be provided. As membership of Girlguiding is decided based on gender identity (the way a person self-identifies their gender identity), there is no requirement to provide any documentation to evidence their transition. Please also be advised that it is not best practice to tell parents that a trans person will be attending a residential event.

You may find our Let’s Talk about Gender and Gender Identity resources helpful to support any conversations around this topic, should the need arise. At the back of each document, there are also some links to recommended external sources which will also provide some helpful advice on this.

I hope this is of help, but if you have any further queries, please don’t hesitate to get in touch."

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Bibblewanda · 20/01/2017 10:02

ali

I don't even understand your posts. Can't you type properly? Confused

Bibblewanda · 20/01/2017 10:02

Misandry my arse btw.

Feminism is for women. Not for men. For women.

MercyMyJewels · 20/01/2017 10:04

He doesn't give a shit Datun. He just hates feminists. Because it's not about him. Yawn

outabout · 20/01/2017 10:10

There are Muslim scout groups and indeed from all faiths if you INCLUDE the world membership.
There was a Jamboree in Japan a couple of years back where there were around 25,000 scouts from around the world all getting on and having a fabulous (but very hot) time meeting others. This is what it is about.
Children are inquisitive and want to know about other people and views. They do not need to be told 'that person is bad' because they are male/black/deaf/or any other characteristic.

Datun · 20/01/2017 10:12

In Iran, homosexuality is illegal. Therefore many men who want to sleep with other men, now identify as women. As a result half the Iranian women's football team are men. ( they also have the highest rate of gender reassignment surgery in the world. Which should tell you something)

A transwoman was picked for a American collegiate basketball team, not only taking the place of a natal born women, but making a mockery of competition. How do you think the girls on the other team, or the parents of those girls who have spent thousands helping their daughter pursue her sport, feel when they are faced with a man on the opposing team? What if it was half men or all men?

When mens' feelings trump biology, it is women and girls who suffer.

I have yet to see a transman beating natal born men.

This puts me off Girl Guides.
This puts me off Girl Guides.
jellyfrizz · 20/01/2017 10:13

Outabout that's nice but what has it got to do with GG changing from single-sex to single-gender?

Datun · 20/01/2017 10:14

Is ail a man?

MercyMyJewels · 20/01/2017 10:17

Actually I don't think he is Datun. Missed the bit about the DH earlier. Find it difficult to believe I woman would have such MRA views but so it seems

ailPartout · 20/01/2017 10:19

Beyond

Carr was a partner in crime (after the fact). Not Hindley II, but a monster, not a victim.

Anyway, waaaaay OT!

no one is suggesting transpeople are dangerous

Yes they are. They equate not only transwomen but men as being dangerous.

I genuinely fear for my sons, at the risk of being labelled a man masquerading as a woman on a hideous MRA. I feel like screaming.

"A penis doesn't make you a rapist. A being a rapist makes you a rapist."

I could extend this, although we all tend to be more interested in issue that perticularly involve us to:

"Being white doesn't make you a racist"

"Being a woman doesn't make you a child killer"

"being gay doesn't make you morally bankrupt"

"being prejudiced against the opposite sex doesn't make you sexist"

...

GivenupSocialmediaNOTMN · 20/01/2017 10:20

Oh Christ.

The issue is not about a TW wanting to abuse a child, no one thinks all TWs are autogynophiles or have sexually fetishes about being subordinate, some have genuine dysphoria.

It's the fact that yet another place where women and girls could exist within our own borders is eroded. It's the fact that a TW could be there and you wouldn't even be able to ask if they are a TW.... you would have to pretend that they're female. This is basically interfering with our fucking perspective. It is a menacing way to fuck up intuition, to know truth.... it's a cow in sheets clothing where you still pretend to harvest wool.

It's lies and deceit.

And why oh why would any TW be compelled to volunteer to be in the GG??? To be validated.

I can hear the camp "Hey all girls together" already. Fucking hell.

If you don't see what's wrong with it, pray tell what's right?

ailPartout · 20/01/2017 10:22

Datun

Is ail a man?

Ah! x-posted to get the dig about my sex in.

I'm a woman. Not a snowflake. Oooh! And the MRA bit.

I'm not sure when being male became an insult that was 'allowed'. I thought it had to remain hidden.

I think it does a wonderful job of illustrating my point for me though.

MercyMyJewels · 20/01/2017 10:26

Who said being a male was an insult? Male =/ MRA

Datun · 20/01/2017 10:26

Um, men are dangerous. Not most men, obviously, but women commit only 2% of sexual crime. Men commit 98% of sexual crime and 90% of violent crime.

Facts aren't misandry and science can't be bigoted.

This puts me off Girl Guides.
ailPartout · 20/01/2017 10:27

GivenUp

What do you mean by 'our own borders'. How would you define "our fucking perpective"?

Would you feel the same if your daughter (or you) were excluded from a 'male' activity or would you 'be livid' and 'go nuclear' and the patriarchal construct excluding women?

GivenupSocialmediaNOTMN · 20/01/2017 10:28

"They equate not only transwomen but men as being dangerous."

I am happily married and have three sons, and one daughter.

I want this world safe and prejudice free for all.

BUT. There are four times more men in prison for sexual crimes than the entire prison population of female prisoners.

Datun · 20/01/2017 10:29

Good Lord! Asking if someone is a man means just that.

Thing is ail there is little doubt that the trans-ideology does not affect men in anywhere near the same way that it does women.

It's understandable if men 'don't get it'. It isn't impacting them. It's hard to understand, when women don't get it.

Datun · 20/01/2017 10:34

Ail

Do you think it is fair that half the Iranian women's football team is comprised of men?

Do you think it is fair that those men may have been forced to identify as women because homosexuality is highly illegal?

Do you think it's a coincidence that Iran has the highest number of trans-women in the world, whilst making homosexuality illegal?

Do you think all those transwomen just happend to be 'born in the wrong body'?

GivenupSocialmediaNOTMN · 20/01/2017 10:35

ali

I don't think you quite understand the world in which you live, we live in a male dominated world, with male violence, male sexual violence, male power, money and influence.

Within my home I could pretend it doesn't exist, but unfortunately my kids exist in the world as do i. My husband has never been catcalled, told he had nice (insert world of sexual part) etc etc . I'm sure you recognise what I'm saying.

Female company and female only spaces are important, for a start we are less likely to be interrupted, we can also be free in our expressions. It has a different feel. It's definitely a different dynamic.

would I be upset if my sons were prevented from doing something? Thing is that's unlikely, boys are put off from doing predominantly girly things because they're at risk from being demeaned by other boys. The two are not comparable.

Our own borders, means our own space.

And as for me, I've worked in male dominated industries, but being pleasing to the male eye I've been welcomed in ways other women have not been.

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 20/01/2017 10:44

That's my understanding too, Beyond. She was a fragile young woman, victimized by Huntley as he had other women before using sexual abuse and DV. There's no suggestion she was involved in the murders. I feel sorry for her.

Datun · 20/01/2017 10:55

given

It's difficult to believe. Male pedophile identifies as a woman, gets reported as a woman, can't go to a sexual rehabilitation centre because they are for men. It's just wholesale denial.

Meanwhile people suffering from gender dysphoria are at the bottom of the pile, unimportant and ignored.

GivenupSocialmediaNOTMN · 20/01/2017 10:59

Did you know once you transition you have no medical records, even if you have no bodily alterations?!

So no screenings, no risk assessment about presentations with certain conditions.... if you had a heart attack or cancer as a man then became a woman your doctor would not know.

MENTAL

GivenupSocialmediaNOTMN · 20/01/2017 11:00

And what about CRB checks?

MercyMyJewels · 20/01/2017 11:01

God, that article Given. And what kind of nutter is the judge?

And absolutely, people with genuine gender dysphoria are not getting the support they need

GivenupSocialmediaNOTMN · 20/01/2017 11:14

This notion that men who become women are uber victims is weird. I think it stems from the idea that if you want to become a woman it must be really really tough, as who would want to be the subordinate class through choice? (Well if you nothing of sado-massicism and fetish, of course)