To be a bit upset that we are no closer to setting a date when others are already getting married?

[SharkiraSharkira]

Dp and I got engaged a year ago.

Since then it seems like about a hundred people I know have got engaged and there are at least 4 weddings this year, with a 5th scheduled for early next year.

So my FB feed is now full of women posting about their weddings, wedding fayre's, their upcoming hen do etc and I can't really join in because dp and I haven't even set a date let alone planned anything else. It just makes me feel a bit shit because all of these other people got engaged after me and yet they are all getting married before me and I'm getting tired of people asking when we're getting married, which will inevitably happen even more at the weddings.

It's not that I mind the waiting as such, if dp wanted to get married in 2yrs so we could save money etc I wouldn't mind but he just doesn't seem to be very bothered. I've mentioned it to him but he just says he wants to wait until next year to set a date. He said that last year!

Aibu to care that we're making very slow or no progress with this when all around me others are planning their weddings? Or am I rushing dp unnecessarily?

We got engaged nearly 5 yrs ago and set a date last week - loads of my friends have got engaged way after and are now married

Hope that makes you feel better.

We got engaged 18 months ago. Initially we were setting dates and finding venues for our destination wedding then people started passing comment on our plans...."it's too far away, we can't afford to come to that," etc. (The fact we were paying for everything, hotel, travel, you name it, makes this comment a little unfair) so truthfully I got pissed off with it all and have put the wedding planning on the back burner until I grow a pair and tell them all to F off, we'll have the wedding we want thanks.

Maybe we'll get married, maybe we won't, but we're both "on the same page" about it. I'm not sure you guys are. You should have a proper chat about it.

Good luck OP!

Dreaming in your position I'd have run away to some Caribbean island and got married with no guests. Or just done the deed at a registry office and announced it later to PITA prospective guests. Hope you get the wedding you want.

I suspect I'm a fair bit older than op and I too know a number of couples who were 'engaged' for several years then split and married others in a relatively short period of time. And it wasn't always the men dragging their heels either.

I'm afraid the more you post the more I think this guy is 'just not that into you'.

Also you seem quite young, do you have children from a previous relationship ? If not are you sure you don't want children or is that more him?