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being annoyed with Dd2's teacher for not sorting this out ??

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 14:04

Dd2's class did an assembly this morning about feeling funnily enough.

Dd2 was one of 12 picked to do a dance for the feeling scared bit.

So they all stand there dancing away and then it gets to the part of the song where they pair up and dance and there is no partner for dd. All the pairs carry on dancing away and poor Dd is stood there not knowing where to put herself and eventually the teacher indicated to her to just dance on her own, and bless her she did but she looked so upset and uncomfortable.

Surely the bloody teacher must have realised that someone was away and so there were now only 11 not 12 dancers.

I know I am probably over reacting but I felt so sorry for DD and angry with her bloody unorganised teacher.

Oh and it was a another girl in their class that taught them all the dance, and she was there, why the hell couldn't she have paired up with dd.

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pointydog · 23/02/2007 19:24

nutty, you do sound in a bad way.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 19:27

Ebenezer, i really don't give a toss what the teacher says about me in the staffroom. I have already said that I didn't mention it to dd or the teacher and dd wasn't even here whilst I was typing on this thread so how will she have picked up the vibe as you put it ???

Dd has mentioned it since she got home from her friends and said 'I looked stupid, I was all on my own'.
I have told her she certainly did not look stupid, she danced very well and was very brave to carry on and do it on her own.

So seeing as you don't know me at all, do not presume how I react to things infront of my kids as you simply don't have a clue.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 19:29

And for your information, I am one of the few parents who very rarely says anything at all to the teacher wether I agree with how she teaches or not.

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DeviousDaffodil · 23/02/2007 19:31

Nuttty I have been mulling this over and I think you have done the right thing to mention it to DD, and tell her how proud you were of her.
She was probably wondering what you thought about it.
Don't let her know it has upset you, or she will end up feeling bad.
Really just let it go now. Enjoy your weekend and do something nice withh DD to make her feel really special.

Polgara2 · 23/02/2007 19:34

Nutty don't let anyone get to you. It's perfectly natural for you to be upset for your dd (I would have felt the same) and it's perfectly natural for you to want to have a moan about it (if you can't let off steam here in our virtual world where can you?). It doesn't make you a bad person - just normal imo. Hope you're feeling a bit better soon (sleep deprivation is noooooo joke!)

Booboobedoo · 23/02/2007 19:34

Nutty: I understand that you're upset on your DD's behalf. I run a children's theatre school, and put shows on a lot. It is a huge undertaking always, and sometimes things get missed, but I feel terrible if I miss something like that (and I have in the past).

The way I've always dealt with it is to pull the child up in the next class and point out how professional they were carrying on with the performance when something went wrong, and getting everyone to give them a clap.

Hopefully your DD's teacher will do something like this. If not, might be an idea to suggest it . I never mind suggestions like that from parents.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/02/2007 20:27

Nutty, Im not gonna comment on the subject - enough has been said already.

You DO seem really stressed and your reaction to this thread and other things seem quite extreme. Have you been to your GP yet? You've been under a lot of pressure recently.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:09

I know you all think my reaction is extreme, I even have people popping up on bloody msn to ask me what my problem is.

What am I supposed to be going to my gp for exactly ?? For them to stick my on ad's again ? Things don't get better because someone gives you tablets, all it does is make you think things are better and help you pretend that they aren't.

My extreme reaction was not to what the teacher did, it was to the responses I got on here, and no not because I didn't agree with them, but because i was made out to be some big teacher hating, problem making parent. Plus as per usual on mn if you have no direct experiance of something IE being a teacher, then you have no right to comment on what they should of done.

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SherlockLGJ · 23/02/2007 22:12

Nutty

That was me on MSN, and it was a perfectly reasonable question. IMO

SherlockLGJ · 23/02/2007 22:14

And I did not ask you what your problem was.

IIRC I posted, you asked a question you got answers what is the problem, not what is your problem ?

I am now extremely pissed off TBH.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:14

You weren't the only one LGJ.

So whats my problem ...now let me see which one the many shite things going on at the mo shall I pick ??

I can't be bothered anymore, there really is no point at all.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:15

Fine be pissed off, I did just say you weren't the only one actually, but fine be pissed off, that'll be something else I have managed to do without having actually done anything bloody wrong.

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lockets · 23/02/2007 22:18

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bandstand · 23/02/2007 22:28

has anyone seen the film parenthood, when the toddler ruins the nativity! rollercoaster.

bandstand · 23/02/2007 22:29

i was going to mention when i went to my dc's assembly, they had a spot of dancing and their teacher said "i was so worried a child was away and i would have to take their place" then i read some of the answers

well, i said it anyway.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:30

Thanks Lockets, I think you are in the minority, seems the mn jury have deemed me unreasonable amongst other things.

Dd2 actually cried when I put her to bed and said that she doesn't want to dance if they do another assembly. Have tried to reassure her that her dance was fine and her bits were the extra special bits, but she is as I knew she would be quite upset about it and said 'No, I was the odd one out'.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/02/2007 22:35

Woah! Where the fuck did that come from?

Do you lash out at absolutely everybody that bothers to take time out to try and help you?

Do you know what - its no-ones fault on here that your life is what it is. Folk are just trying to help (mostly). Where do you get off kicking over the main thing that seems to prop you up these days?

If you want to behave like a prick thats fine. Don't berate what is very obviously, a decent suggestion because you are in a huff. Jeez, do you think the world owes you a favour or something?

I dont think I'll bother in future.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:36

What the hell are you on about now ??? What am I supposed to have said ??

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:41

Well ?? What am I supposed to have said wrong now ?

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/02/2007 22:50

Only my mother speaks to me like that, and I dont stand for it from her - i'll not stand for it from anyone else.

Wind your neck in, get a grip, remove your head from your arse - its clouding your view. People have been trying to help and reassure you and all you have done is snipe, swear, and have a go at people who are trying to get you to calm down and put it in perspective.

No-one said you were wrong to feel how you did about your DD. But crikey - if she grows up thinking that its the end of teh world like you are making out - she's got no hope, has she?

hunkerdave · 23/02/2007 22:50

Nutty, I can see why you were upset, I would have been. Things like that really, really choke me up, massively. And I'm a dweller, so it would churn round and round in my head for ages too.

So please believe me, I really do understand why you posted this thread and why you were so upset, and I do have every sympathy.

However. I also think that you are in a Bad Place at the moment anyway, so any upset will be magnified MASSIVELY. You say you don't want to go to your GP, but perhaps ADs would help - because they would take away the magnifying effect that the churny going over and over and getting more and more tied in knots thing has on upsetting situations.

What do you think? I'm not suggesting that ADs are the answer to your problems, that would be trite and offensive - but they might help you cope a bit better with the dwelling side of things - so you'd have more time to actually deal with stuff without all the negative stuff churning round in your head?

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:52

Speak to you like what , what the hell are you on about ??????

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/02/2007 22:54

Er...like that?

YOu are being rude, abrupt, aggressive. No need. At all.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:55

Thanks Hunker but it's not ad's I need it's a bit of sleep and a break from 24/7 screaming shouting kids. The sleep might happen, might not, but the second definatly won't.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 22:56

Oh and I suppose being told to wind my neck in and remove my head from my arse is polite is it ??

Where did I insult you like that ? I can't see it.

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