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being annoyed with Dd2's teacher for not sorting this out ??

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 14:04

Dd2's class did an assembly this morning about feeling funnily enough.

Dd2 was one of 12 picked to do a dance for the feeling scared bit.

So they all stand there dancing away and then it gets to the part of the song where they pair up and dance and there is no partner for dd. All the pairs carry on dancing away and poor Dd is stood there not knowing where to put herself and eventually the teacher indicated to her to just dance on her own, and bless her she did but she looked so upset and uncomfortable.

Surely the bloody teacher must have realised that someone was away and so there were now only 11 not 12 dancers.

I know I am probably over reacting but I felt so sorry for DD and angry with her bloody unorganised teacher.

Oh and it was a another girl in their class that taught them all the dance, and she was there, why the hell couldn't she have paired up with dd.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 15:54

They didn't have specific partners so no dd didn't ask why her partner wasn't there. Blimey when all else fails blame the child, thats a good strategy.

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FluffyMummy123 · 23/02/2007 15:54

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 15:56

This is reminding me why I left this bloody site.
I didn't expect everyone to say yes you are right the teacher was an ass, but I don't need telling that teaching is a hard job either, I am not stupid. Surely being organised and making sure kids don;t end up standing there feeling like an idiot is part of being a teacher.

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Aloha · 23/02/2007 15:57

I helped with the school nativity - doing makeup on snowflakes and reindeer. It is an absolutely massive undertaking. YOu are understandably focussed on your child and her little dance, but this teacher had - what - 30 to look after, all doing different things. I can understand why you are upset, but your anger is OTT IMO.

kslatts · 23/02/2007 15:58

I don't think it's a case of teachers can do no wrong. The teacher made a mistake, didn't set out to upset your dd on purpose.

Don't you ever make mistakes as a parent? I know I do and I only have 2 dds, the teacher has a whole class of children.

DeviousDaffodil · 23/02/2007 15:58

No one is blaming your child, nutty. Just saying that you are over reacting a tad. I know it was upsetting for you and DD. But your DD is not the only child in the class that the teacher has to look out for.

Just let it go.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 15:59

I tell you what, this website is a waste of frigging web space.

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FluffyMummy123 · 23/02/2007 15:59

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DeviousDaffodil · 23/02/2007 16:00

Oh grow up.
If you don't want peoples opinions don't ask for them.

Aloha · 23/02/2007 16:00

Hmmm.....anger issue?

FluffyMummy123 · 23/02/2007 16:00

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 16:02

Oh sod of the lot of you.

Yep I do make mistakes, I made a huge one coming back on here to people who are so up their own arses they think they know it bloody all.

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harpsichordcarrier · 23/02/2007 16:02

no you're not being unreasonable. yes the teacher should have considered the imnpact if not everyone was there. horrible for your dd to be made to look silly in front of the school. i would have been annoyed too.
yes everyone makes mistakes but this is the teacher's job. if I made a mistake in my job (and of course I have, however understandable) I would expect people to be annoyed, and to learn a lesson from it for next time.

DeviousDaffodil · 23/02/2007 16:02

?

FluffyMummy123 · 23/02/2007 16:02

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Aloha · 23/02/2007 16:02
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DeviousDaffodil · 23/02/2007 16:04

Did anyone other thatn you or your daughter know that his was a mistake?
Kids cock up all the time in assemly, no one else gives a toss.
No one else will remeber.
You need to move on and teach your daughter how to do the same.
It really is not woth getting so irate about it.

FluffyMummy123 · 23/02/2007 16:04

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HappyDaddy · 23/02/2007 16:04

By then, Nutty...

Seriously. Yeah you're upset, I'm sure teacher is too though. No teacher's can't do no wrong but they are on the end of a lot of parents wrath a lot of the time. She made a mistake and probably felt worse than you that dd was upset during her big moment. You're fine to be upset too, initially but not going over and over and over it will help you calm down. Arguing with everyone on here wont.

harpsichordcarrier · 23/02/2007 16:05

you're being a bit unreasonable now though
maybe it was a complicated way of saying It's OK To Be Scared Of DAncing On Your Own a la Todd World

FluffyMummy123 · 23/02/2007 16:05

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 16:06

Why do you insist on harping on about telling my dd it didn't matter ?? I have already said that I haven't even mentioned the incident to my dd and won't unless she does (she's not here now).

I do not need telling how to parent my kids thanks very much.

Oh and actually yes several parents commented on how upset dd looked.

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 16:06

It's Dd1 that does ballet.

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FluffyMummy123 · 23/02/2007 16:07

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NuttyMuffins · 23/02/2007 16:08

Say what you like, i really couldn't give a stuff anymore.

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