Should I not have posted this?

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Had a great weekend... had really good news after a long time waiting for it, saw lots of friends we haven't seen in a while, my DD with Sen who we thought would never potty train actually went by herself!! And had a big family roast at my mums to celebrate the news.

I am not one to usually post a picture of my dinner... I think I put on a Christmas dinner picture and a stew burnt pot disaster in the past but it's rare, but I posted it saying what a great weekend, and nothing like a roast cooked by your mum... or words to that effect.

Then a friend of mine whos mum died several years ago sent an inbox saying 'I wouldn't know.'

Now I feel terrible... WIBU?

Barbarian OP's 'friend' didn't just let OP know she is grieving. She metaphorically threw cold water all ove OP's lovely day. Totally out of order.

She's being unfair - why shouldn't you enjoy your mum and her cooking!! My parents are both dead but I wouldn't be that bloody negative - perhaps I'd say - yummy!! Really miss my mum and dad's roast dinners .... pleased about your daughter
She's unreasonable!!

That was a dick comment from her. She's struggling, so maybe see if you can reply supportively? Adeyj is taking a very creative reading of the message and your posts.

'I wouldn't know'.

'Sorry to hear that your mum never cooked you a roast dinner - But I am not going so censor talking about my mum in case you are upset. I hope you feel more positive soon'.

I wouldn't remove the photo. But I would reply with I'm sorry you don't know! Hope you are ok x

Yanbu at all, how precious of her, you cannot post anything in case it offends the dog, the cat, some bodies cousin onece removed🤔 I am saying this as so body who lost their dear father to cancer at 11. I see posts on Facebook of friends with their wonderful daddy. On fathers day there are many happy pictures of people with their dad, I smile, like the picture and scroll down. I still grieve, he was a wonderful dad, but that's my issue and nobody else.

My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly 3 years ago.
Dropped dead in front of me.
Did cpr but.....
That horrible fact does not give me the right to pour water on other peoples lives and piss in their happiness just because their dad is still alive.
Helps that I don't use FB of course 😀

That won't help at all Chuck. A phone call or going round in person is what is needed to a friend that you care about.

In your opinion that won't help. You are not the oracle.

I think she had better take a break from Facebook, it's Mother's Day in a couple of months, is she going to message everyone who posts Mother's Day greetings and pictures! Keep posting, if she keeps messaging, I woukd delete her!

I'm sorry that your friend hurt you, and I'm sorry that she's grieving. If, as you say, it's not like her usually to be so blunt, I'd just let it go and move on. Like you said, she was probably having a tough day and was lashing out (not that it makes it fair to you, it wasn't)
And (this seems to have got a bit lost in the melee) well done to your DD going by herself, huge achievement.

This proves my rule to never ever post happy stuff ! As some fucker will find it depressing .

If your close to her you could call her and ask if she's ok, if not leave it, and don't let it stop you posting stuff.

Adeyj well it must be lovely being so perfect and having found the only other 20 perfect people on the planet to be friends with.

Thankfully OP sounds much kinder than you and is not wanting to walk away from a friend - who she says is usually very nice - because of one out of character remark which quite obviously has come about because she is grieving.

What, so nobody whose mother hasn't died can enjoy spending time with them?! She was BVU. And I say that as someone who has lost her beloved mother.

Perhaps she needs a chat - might be going through a low patch? In which case she can tell you that. But otherwise it was a pretty shitty message to send IMHO.

Nobody is denying it was a shitty message, but it came from a place of deep pain and the OP is decent enough to see that and not condemn her for it.
Can any of us say that grief hasn't made us difficult to be around at times? It doesn't make it ok, but grief does terrible things to people and we all cope differently. Understanding and compassion is what is needed her, not condemnation.

Here not her

I think most people get it to be fair, there are just a couple of posters who obviously can't understand and to be honest don't sound like very nice people.