To want to never go to the cinema again?

[rmrf]

Every. Single. Time. I go to the cinema, there's at least one person who talks/texts/crunches through the film and generally does their best to ruin it for everyone. I usually feel too hesitant to say anything as they've already proven themselves lunatics who care not for others.

Last night it was LA LA Land. Absolutely brilliant, gorgeous film, ruined by some tosser who decided to loudly tap his foot throughout every musical number. He wasn't even in time.

I love watching films but AIBU to not spend any more money on going out to see them, because no one knows how to behave politely? We have Netflix, Google and Amazon video I suppose...

I love the cinema but need everone to be still and silent. To combat this I sit right in the middle at the front. The sound from the film is so loud it obliterates all the morlocks.

I think people are arguing that you should not have been annoyed at all by the foot tapper - let alone ask them to stop - because they may have a disability.

I don't think any of us asked for an interpreter, especially as that's not what anyone has said.

I didn't even bring up anything like this. I'm just surprised there's an interpretation of my annoyance as a determined slight against people with disabilities.

I pointed out I'm not rude to people who are disturbing me and others when a film is on, but I am only human and I am annoyed by it - especially when it seems reasonable to conclude that most can control their behaviour.

rmrf I interpreted the posts as we should all think of that when someone is annoying us but I can see how you read it differently.

Did you ask the foot tapper to stop? If they did have an unavoidable twitch they could then say so. I'm a terrible foot tapper (although not against people's chairs) and have to check myself in concerts to stop doing it. If in a moment of human fallibility I was tapping and someone asked me to stop I'd be mortified but do so immediately and apologise. If you don't mention something like tapping/rustling people able or otherwise won't always know they are doing something wrong.
Phone use is banned in most cinemas and people will be removed if they persist but you might need to tell the staff.

Not sure where you're getting your info from OP, the British government actually states that around 19% of working age adults have a disability, accounting for 6.9 million adults of working age, if you add people over state pension age into it it becomes more. That's without taking those under the age of 16 into consideration, and also those undiagnosed. So it is in actual fact, many millions more than you thought.
Even at that, statistics bear no relation whatsoever to making assumptions about people based on your own intolerances. You need to be a little less sensitive when it comes to being in a public place, because to expect people not to fidget/make noise/move around is really unrealistic.

In recent years films at the cinema have become louder and louder because of the increased lack of consideration of the general public.
There have always been people with special needs and medical issues in the cinema. Cinemas haven't had to up the volume because of them, but to mask the non stop witterings and rustling of arseholes who think they are still in their own living room.
Its not uptight to want to enjoy the dark and quiet in order to really lose yourself in the world of the movie. That was the whole point of making these places dark and quiet!
And they used to be so, so something has clearly changed in the way the general populace behave, its really obvious to me (as I shuffle towards gimmerhood).

especially when it seems reasonable to conclude that most can control their behaviour.

And this is where you seem to be struggling.

It's not unreasonable to ask them politely if they can stop. If they can't or don't, then move. Talk to the staff. Ignore. But that still doesn't mean they don't have a disability of some sort.

But bottom line is that in a room full of different people, expecting everyone else to conform to your ideals of complete silence, no wiggling, no rustling of anything, no getting up at all.... is unreasonable at best.

Your percentage logic is totally flawed. You're arguing that if someone is "being annoying" there's a 10-12% chance that they have disabilities... when in actual fact you should look at all the people in the cinema and then calculate your 10-12% chance from that. If there are 10 people in the cinema and 1 is tapping their foot... well then there's your 10%. If there's 50 people in the cinema then the odds that the person that isn't in accordance with your "no eating, no moving, no breathing" rule has disabilities just rose greatly.

If there's 50 people in the cinema then the odds that the person that isn't in accordance with your "no eating, no moving, no breathing" rule has disabilities just rose greatly.

I had to at the "no eating, no moving, no breathing" rule. Surely after about 10-15 minutes, in a room of 50+ people not breathing, the noise of the ambulances and paramedics would drown out the film anyway.

Skyyequake makes a very valid point.

The theatre is just as bad. 10 years ago people would not bring any food into the performance and save that for the interval.
Now eating a whole can of Pringles whilst slurping a Proscecco is perfectly OK. I remember downing the last of my drink to not miss the performance. Also there used to be a break half way through the film for people to eat and use the loo! It was a bit annoying but it stopped all the rustling!

You're annoyed at someone tapping their foot at a musical?! Where does it end? No clapping at pantos, no dancing at gigs?

I went yesterday to our small Curzon. No one eating, just sipping red wine. Civilised.Thats why I'm happy to pay £13.
I refuse to go to an Odeon.
There are some inconsiderate cunts about.

supermoon100

Ahh yes gotta love Curzon for keeping out the riffraff

Crispsheets

Drives me crazy, so I stopped going a long time ago. Mobile phones are my personal gripe, as the light is very distracting. Along with incessant talking, tall people with big hairdos, people with too much perfume/after shave, anyone kicking my seat, foot tapping, loud eating etc. etc.

Buy a big TV and watch the DVD. That's what we do now. Although we do miss the big screen.

BTW, if you like the ROH, go to the rehearsals. If people use mobile phones there, the actors/singers on stage will stop, shout at the offenders and ask them to leave. Very effective.

Problem solved OP, an elitist small cinema where nobody makes noise and makes judgements about random members of the public. Heaven.

Lmao at irony of the "no breathing if it bothers me" crew calling people inconsiderate cunts 😂

So . . . everyone should all just ignore people ruining a (usually very expensive) film by talking or texting just in case they have a hidden disability?
If somebody is texting or talking it is quite reasonable to ask them to stop. If somebody is foot tapping, displaying overt tics or stimming then the kind thing to do is leave them alone. It really isn't that fucking hard to consider it. As I said, we have to live with it 24/7/52/365, you, a couple of hours. Be kind. It isn't hard.

fucked up the bold!

If somebody is texting or talking it is quite reasonable to ask them to stop. If somebody is foot tapping, displaying overt tics or stimming then the kind thing to do is leave them alone. It really isn't that fucking hard to consider it. As I said, we have to live with it 24/7/52/365, you, a couple of hours. Be kind. It isn't hard

Exactly this!

YANBU OP. Why oh why do people feel the need to stuff food down their throat when they go to see a movie. It seems to be a ritual for some folk.

Do they do the same at home watching Netflix?

Foot tapping is so annoying, the whole row of seats shakes.

One of my DCs does it occasionally, I ask them to stop when I see them, they do. That's that.

I wouldn't mind someone else asking either.

Do they do the same at home watching Netflix?

Yes, I do. Problem?