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To want to never go to the cinema again?

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rmrf · 15/01/2017 09:01

Every. Single. Time. I go to the cinema, there's at least one person who talks/texts/crunches through the film and generally does their best to ruin it for everyone. I usually feel too hesitant to say anything as they've already proven themselves lunatics who care not for others.

Last night it was LA LA Land. Absolutely brilliant, gorgeous film, ruined by some tosser who decided to loudly tap his foot throughout every musical number. He wasn't even in time.

I love watching films but AIBU to not spend any more money on going out to see them, because no one knows how to behave politely? We have Netflix, Google and Amazon video I suppose...

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19lottie82 · 15/01/2017 12:49

Just get an amazon firestick and load kodi on to it. Then you can watch all the latest release for free, most of them in HD.

And no it's not illegal, as you're just streaming not up or downloading .

IThinkIMadeYouUpInsideMyHead · 15/01/2017 12:50

And GingerIvy, why would you bring your DCs to a showing of a movie if it distresses them? I understand the sadness of having a child who is unable to fully participate in things that most people take for granted (DS has several impairments), but if your DCs are "terrified" by the whole experience, why not do an activity they enjoy?

GingerIvy · 15/01/2017 12:53

And GingerIvy, why would you bring your DCs to a showing of a movie if it distresses them?

I don't. Did you not see the part where I said I have the opportunity to take them,, but I can't (due to the fact that they're terrified of it) ??

pregnantat50 · 15/01/2017 12:54

the thing about the crunching and slurping that always amazes me is, there is a long period normally before the film starts, surely to munch and slurp then rather than during the film is better for everyone...maybe they should have one or two screens for non-eating people, actually that is a brilliant idea, as then the eaters can all chomp noisly and the quiet peeps can be together, not sure what the cost should be (is it more beneficial to be allowed to eat, or to pay for silence..?)

Techknowlogy · 15/01/2017 12:55

I was at the cinema last week with DH. A lady at the row behind us chatted on her phone the whole time. Unbelievable.

GingerIvy · 15/01/2017 12:56

And we don't go to the REGULAR screenings anymore (as I also stated clearly), as we now go to the autism friendly screenings.

Yes, we went to a couple regular screenings PRIOR to knowing about the autism friendly ones - but as I stated, the couple times we tried it, it was a dreadful experience, so we stopped trying.

I said all of this in my post. Hmm

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 15/01/2017 12:56

But the food issue is encouraged by cinemas there wasn't so much food sold in cinemas

Again the types of food sold and the packets they are sold in are the fault of the cinema it's still annoying

The asking of questions (which most children do maybe not as much) is very different from Sophie discussing her date with her friend Holly as they were having this conversation before they sat down and are bored with the film so have carried on is a different scenario and is down to people being selfish

pastizzi · 15/01/2017 12:57

I have a son with ASD and much as I would love to spontaneously go to the cinema with him we do stick to the ASD- friendly showings, and I'm very grateful for them. I wouldnt want to disrupt a film for lots of other people who have paid a fortune to go. The stress for me would be intolerable too.

I agree with the posters who have questioned why on earth cinemas sell such noisy snacks (bags of sweets, Butterkist in foil bags). The loud rustling is unbearable, and i will ever understand how people don't care that everyone else can hear the noise. Surely it ruins their own enjoyment of the film too? My other 2 children have known from very young that you sit (and snack) quietly during a film. Just basic manners.

But manners have deteriorated so much in the last few years it's pretty depressing. And without parents teaching their kids to behave considerately during films/ shows there's not much hope for the future!

wictional · 15/01/2017 12:58

*People brought their

SauvignonBlanche · 15/01/2017 12:59

So . . . everyone should all just ignore people ruining a (usually very expensive) film by talking or texting just in case they have a hidden disability?

I wouldn't ignore the texting but we should allow for the fact that someone may not be able to help their movements. I was upset that someone was complaining about someone with LD on the first page.

Yes I would early to hear that , yes it may affect me. But I wouldn't fucking mind and I certainly wouldn't moan about it.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/01/2017 13:00

Just get an amazon firestick and load kodi on to it. Then you can watch all the latest release for free, most of them in HD.

Because everyone has broadband of course Hmm

GingerIvy · 15/01/2017 13:03

I just find it incredibly maddening that people think it's okay to say "well if your SNs impact on my good time, then you should just not attend - stay home, do something else, but this particular part of life you should not get to experience." Because that's pretty much what they're saying.

"Stay in your place, don't impact on my life or my enjoyment, and I'm happy to tolerate you. Interfere with me in any way and I'm no longer tolerant."

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 15/01/2017 13:04

can you just assume I am not talking about people who do have impairments/need to go to the loo lots etc.? I haven't mentioned those kinds of things at all, and am just referring to the majority of people who are fully able - just very, very rude

Again, how do you know? You make the biggest argument in your posts about someone tapping their foot. How do you KNOW they were just being rude. You made an assumption because they didn't behave in a way that suited you.
To expect perfect silence in a public place is frankly ridiculous, to impose your need for quiet on others is ridiculous, and to assume that you can rule out any disabilities based on being psychic is so far beyond ridiculous I can't actually think of a word for it. If you want peace and quiet, don't go to the cinema. It's not rocket science.

midsomermurderess · 15/01/2017 13:06

Yes to the Wittertainment Code of Conduct!

skyyequake · 15/01/2017 13:10

Holy crap some of you are so freaking uptight it's painful to read! The ONE time I've been annoyed by behaviour in a cinema was when there was a loud group of people behind me cracking loud jokes, mocking the film and kicking the back of my chair) I didn't say anything but they were very annoying and seemed to just be trying to be cool...

But seriously? No tapping, no fidgeting, no breathing I presume? You guys need to take a deep fucking breath and chill the fuck out! If you can't stand the general noise of people existing when you're watching a film then watch it at home ffs

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 15/01/2017 13:11

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rmrf · 15/01/2017 13:22

I don't know, true - but they do.

I think, because many able people attend the cinema, it's reasonable to conclude that of the occasions someone has behaved inappropriately, at least some (and I'd even suggest the majority) of those people are behaving that way because they are just rude and inconsiderate.

I have already pointed out in my first post that I don't say anything to people anyway. My point is, why do these people, who know they're being thoughtless and just don't care get to dominate the space?

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SaorAlbaGuBrath · 15/01/2017 13:26

My point is, why do these people, who know they're being thoughtless and just don't care get to dominate the space?

You don't know conclusively that they know anything. That's the point many people are trying to make and you're just not understanding it. Unless someone has a sign around their neck saying "no diagnosis I'm just a dick" you haven't a clue. So my question is, why do your needs overrule everyone else's?

user1471545174 · 15/01/2017 13:26

Like scattymere I go to the seats near the disabled seats that are protected from the rest of the auditorium. If I didn't I would never go to the cinema because people are so noisy and scuzzy.

skyyequake · 15/01/2017 13:29

Well you can just sit there stewing in your judgement and convincing yourself that the entire experience has been ruined by a tapping foot and those of us who don't feel inconvenienced by others existence can continue generally enjoying life and our lower blood pressure.

C8H10N4O2 · 15/01/2017 13:29

rmrf What happened when you asked the annoying foot tapper to stop tapping their feet?

I'm seeing lots of people complaining about disturbances and saying they haven't been in a cinema for 10+ years because its so awful but honestly wondering how many asked the annoyer to stop or complained to the cinema?

I've seen people asked to leave if they don't put their phones away. I've occasionally asked a foot tapper behind me to stop tapping my seat and they have stopped because they hadn't actually realised what they were doing.

Namechangeemergency · 15/01/2017 13:31

I think we have to deal with the eating however annoying it is.
They have made eating a vital part of the cinema experience. People expect to eat during a film. Its not going away.
You can't get get a signal in our local cinema. I am pretty sure its deliberate. Its brilliant.

I rarely go to a non kid film so am pretty tolerant. Its constant chatter and lots of getting up and down that would annoy me.

If I go to a film for me I tend to go when its been out for a few weeks. You are pretty much guaranteed a quieter experience.

I would hate to fight for tickets, sit in a crap seat AND have to put up with people being antisocial.

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rmrf · 15/01/2017 13:32

Again, no. But the UK government consistently estimates that 10-12% of the population have disabilities. Even if twice as many people are undiagnosed, that still leaves a hell of a lot of people who are perfectly able.

So, again, reasonable to conclude that lots of people behave badly because they are just dicks.

Why do these people's needs overrule everyone else's?

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GingerIvy · 15/01/2017 13:33
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rmrf · 15/01/2017 13:34

C8H10N4O2 I think people are arguing that you should not have been annoyed at all by the foot tapper - let alone ask them to stop - because they may have a disability.

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