To want to never go to the cinema again?

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Every. Single. Time. I go to the cinema, there's at least one person who talks/texts/crunches through the film and generally does their best to ruin it for everyone. I usually feel too hesitant to say anything as they've already proven themselves lunatics who care not for others.

Last night it was LA LA Land. Absolutely brilliant, gorgeous film, ruined by some tosser who decided to loudly tap his foot throughout every musical number. He wasn't even in time.

I love watching films but AIBU to not spend any more money on going out to see them, because no one knows how to behave politely? We have Netflix, Google and Amazon video I suppose...

Well over a century?! Wow, impressive considering the first cinema was established in 1905.

I still don't understand how someone with such sensitive hearing that they can detect a 'squelch' when someone eats a hotdog can stand the loud volumes in cinema. It's amazing.

Dawn, you are perfect, and I am not. In any case, you have convinced me not to engage with any kind of discussion like this.

FWIW, this is something you brought to this thread and I agreed it was valid - but there was no attempt to try and empathise with my position. I did not realise it was a one-way street, but have learnt my lesson! Will pick up signs in due course.

Well this thread has done me a massive favour, I had no idea that cinemas did special screenings with subtitles.

Thanks OP.

FWIW, this is something you brought to this thread and I agreed it was valid - but there was no attempt to try and empathise with my position. I did not realise it was a one-way street, but have learnt my lesson! Will pick up signs in due course

Actually, when you posed your hypothetical "am I undiagnosed" question, Ginger DID make an attempt to empathise and offer suggestions.

We don't bother much with the cinema, partly because it's overpriced and partly because of inconsiderate twats.

But I did take DH to a brilliant Beatles show in London a couple of birthdays ago. The couple beside me had brought in a big bag of their own hot food...and my fucking God, it STANK.

The pungent, nauseating smell of a weird spicy herbal garlic concoction rubbed over some kind of meat assaulted my nostrils for a good hour of the show, it was really distracting and difficult to block out (save holding my nose).

I have an over sensitive sense of smell (hyperosmia??) and it was torture.

Dawn, you are perfect, and I am not. In any case, you have convinced me not to engage with any kind of discussion like this.
That's a remarkably childish attitude. I'm not perfect. I'm probably a lot older than you. I have experience. I get things wrong on a daily basis, just like other folk. I have an ASC too, so life isn't particularly easy. All anybody has asked is that you consider the way in which you approach things. Nobody is tearing you to shreds, nobody is asking you to give anything up. Just try to consider that on occasion the person pissing you off may be unaware that they're doing so.
As for the one way street bit. How do you think I felt when I watched as a group of twats decided my 22 year old was too flappy and decided to hold his arms down? How do you think I felt when we were asked to leave a cinema because his tics were annoying a couple of girls and 'creeping them out'. How do you think it feels when we're out in public and someone shouts for everyone to look at the spaz? And don't even get me started on my wheelchair using dd, or her twin...

My hypothetical "am I undiagnosed" question was more about trying to understand what was being talked about. I apologise if that was not clear.

Dawn I hate that people still think this kind of abuse is acceptable, I hate that your kids have had to endure that and that you, as their Mum, have had to witness their pain.
When I see that kind of thing happening to my kids it physically hurts, because when they hurt, I hurt. They didn't ask for any of this.

My hypothetical "am I undiagnosed" question was more about trying to understand what was being talked about. I apologise if that was not clear*
And Ginger attempted to empathise with you, I'm not sure why you don't see that?

Am [shocked] at your hypocrisy Dawn.

Oops - , there we go!

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So Dawn only tried to empathise when I posed that specific question. I infer from that that my position only deserves empathy if I have some kind of undiagnosed condition.

Dawn
OP, how exactly is Dawn a hypocrite? I think you're bang out of line not for the first time, but that takes the biscuit

rmrf Are you being deliberately dense?
It's not about one way streets, as a person without a disability you have many opportunities available. Despite legislation they're opportunities not available to others and you call me a fucking hypocrite.

Well if your sole post is about intolerance of other people, why exactly do you expect empathy?

I'm now a bit confused about your intentions OP.

I thought you wanted to learn but you've just ignored my post and continued to be goady argue with other posters here.

Do you want to learn or not?

And I was talking about Ginger trying to empathise, keep up.

Have I been taken in again?

AVirgin I think you might have been, it feels like we've been going round in circles for a while now.

Meh. The OP's just playing now, and I frankly have better things to do than have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent, so I'm off.

I was trying to be nice OP and told you to ask me if you had any questions about autism but you just ignored me and continued arguing with other people.

What gives?

Ginger

AVirgin because OP has made it clear she's not interested in learning or considering anyone else's perspective, because it's not relevant to her and "fortunately" she doesn't know anyone who is disabled so it doesn't matter.

People are strange aren't they?