Wedding menu - help me decide!

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I have to choose my wedding menu and I'm struggling- please help! We have had a tasting and narrowed it down to three options for each. Veggie already decided.

Starters
Pumpkin and butternut squash soup with a Stilton biscuit
Smoked salmon on rye bred
Duck terrine

Main
Duck breast with duck leg confit
Sea bass
Lamb cutlets

Dessert
Chocolate mousse
Clementine cheesecake
Cheese board

DP says he doesn't mind and my head is going round in circles so I think whatever appeals to most people is best. We aren't having children at the wedding and it's a mix of people our age (30s) and a few elderly relatives too.

Soup
Duck
Cheesecake

Soup, sea bass and cheesecake.

Smoked salmon, duck, chocolate mousse

I really dislike soup as a starter and can't stand pumpkin (although the Stilton biscuit sounds nice). There's also the spillage potential.

Having said that I'm aware that a lot of people might not be keen on smoked salmon.

Salmon although soup and stilts n biscuit sounds lovely
Sea bass
Cheese

Salmon duck and cheesecake.

I would hate chicken it's plain and often overcooked.

People who are fussy need to broaden their horizons or order the veg. You can't accommodate everyone.

In France and Spain and Italy (limit of my experience) people just eat

This is how I was raised. Be polite, accept the free food graciously and eat it.

Poor brides have enough to worry over without thinking about every single persons food preferences.

Duck, lamb, mousse

Thanks all so it's looking like:

Smoked salmon
Lamb
Chocolate mousse

Hopefully people will like it!

Sounds great!

In France and Spain and Italy (limit of my experience) people just eat.

I agree on the whole. In France there are still plenty of people who don't like certain foods, but one there is less general fussiness, wider palates, and if people don't like something they just leave it and don't talk about it.

Wedding food generally is way better in France than in the UK. Always exceptions of course, but I think you just get much better quality for your money in France.

I think your menu sounds great though OP and I applaud the absence of chicken!

Can people have the meat main but veggie starter? I'd feel really sorry for my DH with that menu as he really isn't fussy and eats almost anything, but loathes raw fish. But if he took veggie starter, would that then mean he wouldn't be allowed the lamb?

I can't believe how many grown adults are posting along the lines of I don't eat any of that/I hate fish/those are weird foods/most people don't like lamb/duck/etc etc

It's pathetic! Is this normal behavior for British people? I have never heard the like!

Personally soup, duck and chocolate mousse!

Duck
Lamb
Chocolate

For me!

None of the starters appeal but at a push the soup.
Lamb cutlets. (I wouldn't touch the fish)
Chocolate mousse.

I would love every option. I definitely think you are right not to do chicken - wedding chicken is usually bland and slightly dry. In fact I think the only time I ever eat chicken breast is at weddings!

Have a wonderful time!

I think salmon/lamb/chocolate is the safest option. I'm not huge on duck but would eat it, same for cheesecake.

User - yes agreed. I'll eat pretty much anything, some stuff is not my favourite (eg pork) but I'll always eat it at others people's homes etc.

I think the main thing to be aware of is portion size, went to a wedding in October and was severed the tiniest piece of lamb, i was starving. That was followed by burnt chocolate cake which I ate two portions of as I was so hungry! Definitely best to stick to things that can be mass catered easily.

This is how I was raised. Be polite, accept the free food graciously and eat it.
I would do, apart from the fish which I would leave without comment( or give to DH) - however wouldn't it be preferable that people actually enjoyed the food? Which is how people are answering the question. I don't think most would actually say or do anything on the day.

Duck
Lamb
Chocolate

My preference would be

Salmon
Duck
Cheese

But as you're never going to please everyone, I'd go for what you like best. If you're worried about people hating it, you could always tell them the menu choice with the invite, and then they'd have the option of, say, going veggie for the day if they don't like the non-veggie main, or having a big breakfast before the wedding.

As an aside, I hate chicken. I'd never complain if presented with it at a wedding, and would force some down if hungry enough, but I'd not be enjoying it.

Smoked salmon is very risky. Most people do not like it (ime)

I think you'd be best with the soup. And chicken would be a much safer choice for the main meal. But if it really is only between what you've put here, lamb would be the safest. Any of the deserts sound fine. I presume people can swap a sweet desert for the cheese?

To all those (not veggie ) saying none of the above, what on earth would you eat ? I am also boggled by the idea that you would eat chicken, but not duck ?? Surely poultry is poultry. I agree chicken is boring I would go for salmon, duck, cheesecake :)

Also would eat it all.

huskylover in all my 56.5 years I have yet to meet someone who doesn't like smoked salmon

husky

No people couldn't swap anything they either have a vegetarian set menu or the meat set menu. If cheese isn't the dessert they can't substitute dessert for it.