Using flat sheets on the bed, who's right DH or me?

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Please help settle a discussion between DH and me!

There's obviously little more satisfying than getting into a freshly laundered bed, especially if the sheets have been ironed.
To do this regularly I don't want to have to wash and iron the duvet cover every time I wash the rest of the linen ( I've 3dc and plenty other housework to do!) If I use a flat sheet then the duvet cover keeps fresher for longer.

As an aside, I actually prefer to have the flat sheet anyway as I feel it covers me better and no cold air can get down the bed!

So AIBU to use a flat sheet when making the bed?

(Snuggles down into cosy bed!)

When I used a top sheet under the duvet I didn't tuck it in except at the bottom of the bed, and I folded the top over the duvet as you would with a bed made up with blankets. Couldn't sleep with it tucked in. I am a very 'neat' sleeper so nothing falls off in the night.

YABU. Hate the thought of having a sheet between me and my gorgeous goose down duvet. It's like sleeping under a cloud as moulds to my body without feeling any weight. I can move around easily and it just resettles around me. A sheet would stop this and I'd get get tangled up.
No problems with washing duvet cover and bottom sheet every week.

Another flat sheet fan here and tucked down both sides and the feet end! But I've only done it since I've been sleeping alone as Ex hated having his feet enclosed, I used to wrap my 'portion' of the duvet round me and my feet!

Most people, even without using a top sheet, aren't gonna be assed to wash their duvet cover every time they wash their sheets

The what now? Of course you change the duvet cover (and pillow cases) every time you change the sheets, why the fecking feck would you not?!

I dislike the feeling of a top sheet, but can't get too fussed about what people do in their own beds. I am, however, completely revolted by hotel beds with a decorative cover and then sheets and blankets underneath. Those decorative covers clearly never get washed and surely many people have sex on rather than in the bed?

When I wash my bedding, I take everything off the bed and it goes in the wash. Currently have a sheet between me and the quilt and I don't like it.

Surely you just get tangled up in it though ? Ive done this before in winter but with a fleece blanket between me and the duvet and it all ends up a tangled mess around my feet which wakes me up also don't you just sweat through the sheet and onto the duvet cover anyway ? Flat sheets are only thin so they can't offer much absorbance surely ? My DP sweats buckets in his sleep and a flat sheet would mean Extra hassle and washing to do the next day i use our gifted flst sheet as a mattress cover

flat sheets are for dc's school play dressing up as a roman emperor or caveman.
that's if.

We have a flat sheet, then heated blanket, then duvet (no central heating). In the summer, just a flat sheet. If it's too cold for just a sheet but too hot for the blanket we just have the duvet - the sheet acts as a barrier to stop the electric blanket burning us.

PinkSwimGoggles,

My in laws do this and I hate it. One of the lovely things about a duvet it that it's not tucked in, I can't sleep with the top sheet pinning my feet down.

no top sheet! They twist round and round you til you are almost strangled. And washing wise there is only one sheet thickness difference between a duvet cover and a sheet. Plus when you wants to wash the duvet cover ouch got even more of an issue fitting it in the machine.

At uni we used to get issued two flat sheets, one pillow case with pillow and one duvet case with duvet. Each week we were allowed to drop off one sheet and one pillow case and pick up a replacement. The idea was that the top sheet became the bottom sheet after a week and the bottom sheet would be washed, duvet cover was washed just once a term unless the student was quite crackers and decided to take it to the launderette themselves.

This wasn't a posh uni, just a standard one, but it was about a billion years ago.

How are the people who get tangled in a flat sheet sleeping . Duvets and sheet are tucked in when our bed is made. When I open the bed, all three get untucked on the sides and remain tucked in at the bottom. I am not stuck between the flat sheet and fitted sheet like a sleeping bag, and I never get tangled - perhaps it is because my bed is so large?

To control temperature, I have six pillows on the bed (4 for me, 2 for DH). Ergonomics was important in my previous job and when positioning patients for surgeries which required lying on their sides, a pillow was placed between the knees to take strain off of the hip bones (when lying on one's stomach, I place a pillow under the stomach to align the spine). When I feel a bit warm, I switch the warm support pillow for a cool one and job done - body cooled and hips aligned comfortably. I probably don't twist and turn as much in my sleep as a result of the ergonomics. Who knows?

I don't mind either way, but don't have one at home.

I hate that in hotels they always seem to over tuck the bottom of the flat sheet and it's never ever long enough to actually cover the duvet.

People iron bed linen?!

I've only encountered flat sheets at hotels and my nan's house as a child. Always found them to be very annoying but I can see how they'd be handy for making the duvet last longer. Unless like me you have a cat and a small baby, and the latter has an endlessly runny nose, and you co-sleep...

Those of you who tuck your duvets in at the bottom - never heared of this before . Perhaps you've got special thin tucking in duvets. Mine is much too plumptious to tuck in, it behaves perfectly and stays in place all night.

I love flat sheets. I consider it vaguely student-y to have a duvey without a flat sheet. It's so nice to have all that fabric around you.

Sadly my husband disagrees and I only get away with the flat sheet in summer.

My mum used to do this. I can't remember degree of duvet tucking in, but I found the sheet and the duvet tended to go opposite ways during the night and the duvet would start slipping off.

And I wash duvet cover, pillowcases and sheet when we change the bed. I wouldn't want to sleep in a bed where people aren't changing the duvet cover on the basis there's a sheet between the duvet and however many guests you've had.

AlcoChocs - how many togs is your duvet?! Do you not get a chill coming up from the bottom? I have to have mine tucked in but it's only 10.5 togs so not overly thick (and my mum always tucked so have never considered not doing so). DH pulls it out all the time with his constant thrashing around in his sleep and it does my head in when I get cold feet

This is all moot of course as my co-sleeping baby means I don't get any duvet cover at night any more. So I'm all about dressing gowns in bed now

I hate it when I get into bed and find someone has tucked the duvet in at the bottom especially if it's tucked so firmly I can't tug it out and have to get out again to untuck it.

YABU to iron bedding, to iron anything in fact! Especially after being in a tumble dryer!

Also, how do you stick your foot out to cool you down when it gets too hot if you have a tucked in sheet?!

lilyb it's a 15 tog goosedown duvet and I never feel any drafts as it seems to just settle around me like a lovely soft fluffy cloud .

Brentford Nylons! I remember being very excited when my mum bought me a single nylon sheet in purple for my bed. Felt very posh at the time ha ha

Flat sheets? Ironing? All madness.

But then I am usually very hot in bed. Or so DP says.

No! I would hate a sheet on top. It's like some sort of horrible hybrid between old fashioned and modern.