To ask how you refer to your DD's vulva?

[Lalunya85]

I'm not sure if this has been done a million times before but here's my dilemma:

We speak three languages at home (including English, but it's neither my DH nor my mother tongue). In all of those languages, there are plenty of nice/cute/child appropriate ways to refer to ours son's penis.

Now my DD (15 months) has begun to show an interest in her genitals. But she is pointing at them and then uses the word that we use for our son's penis. I want to offer her a nice name that is neither technical, nor has been sexualised or turned into an insult.

None if our languages offers a solution.

Any ideas??

I'm in my twenties and have never once referred to my foofy as a vulva. I know what my bits are called. Has never done me any harm.

Vagina or private parts

Fanoir (fan- wah)

So, when your kids were learning to use the loo, did they shout out 'Mummy, I've done some faeces, please can you wipe my anus?'

Why am I finding his so funny?

"I've done some faeces"

Foof or foo foo 😊
Little rabbit foo foo is hilarious in this house

It's the cutesy names that are so objectionable.

Bottom / bum /front bottom /tummy / belly are all really standard and acceptable colloquialism.

Minnie / foofoo etc are utter bullshit.

We have minnie for the general downstairs area, but we have front wee hole, middle lady hole and back poo hole for specifics.

She does know the proper names but chooses not to use them, as is her right!

She knows the lady hole is for accepting the male penis and pushing a baby out of as well as putting tampons in and having periods out of.

She also prefers not to discuss any of this in front of her dad and her brother. Again, her choice.

Waffles

Yes.

'the lady hole is for accepting the male penis and pushing a baby out of...'

DD has always said vulva (she's 8 now) Her older brother refers to his willy, but knows that it's called a penis.

My mum never gave me any words to describe, it was just 'down there' (said in a bit of a stage whisper)

I'm in my twenties and have never once referred to my foofy as a vulva

Mid 30s here and have also never said vulva!

waffles totally agree with your last comment.

She knows the lady hole is for accepting the male penis

Vulva. Always known it as her vulva and if I'm honest, I cannot stand these made up names. As a pp said, it's a body part. Get over it.

Oh right it's the TYPE of slang that's unacceptable now..okay then

Willy, tummy and foof are all pretty much on the same scale

JoyfulAndTriumphant When my neice fell in the playground and yelled I HURT MY VULVA A A AAAA no I didnt want the ground to swallow me up. The only feeling I had was concern for my neice. What kind of person puts their feelings of embarrassment ahead of the wellbeing of a child who is in pain? A pathetic and irresponsible one.

Dd is 2 and can say vulva. It's a noun. Like elbow. Knee. Nose.

accepting the male penis?

I shouldn't but I'm actually howling at this.

Does she know she doesn't have to accept the male penis and indeed shouldn't for some time?

Fanny is another one I think works but it is a bit rude in this country

She's 4, we use tinky.

I was called into reception last yr as ds2 (4) had told the girls in the class that they have vaginas and boys have a penis - no show and tell just the words. I was like at the teacher and she said girls had gotten upset at being told this . I said we'll that's what they are called and she said she agreed but some girls parents had complained ffs.

All this from ds asking me where did babies come out of

so to all the 'I never have to refer to it' people, what would you say to the doctor if you had eg a lump on your labia? or an unusual vaginal discharge?
I've got stuff coming out of my foofoo?
There's a lump on my er you know
OK, doctors are supposed to be good at making sense of this kind of nonsense but why not make life easier?

Noonie.

The problem, linguistically, is when you start dressing up body parts in clandestine euphemism. And the majority of this euphemism is about female genitals.

Look at the nature of the metaphors used to refer to vaginas and vulvas, and what do they suggest?

That vaginas and vulvas are fluffy, shining, cute, festive and twinkly*. Why would we want girls to think that?

*if your vagina or vulva is any of these things, seek medical help.

Nounnie.
Boys is whistle.