To ask how you refer to your DD's vulva?

[Lalunya85]

I'm not sure if this has been done a million times before but here's my dilemma:

We speak three languages at home (including English, but it's neither my DH nor my mother tongue). In all of those languages, there are plenty of nice/cute/child appropriate ways to refer to ours son's penis.

Now my DD (15 months) has begun to show an interest in her genitals. But she is pointing at them and then uses the word that we use for our son's penis. I want to offer her a nice name that is neither technical, nor has been sexualised or turned into an insult.

None if our languages offers a solution.

Any ideas??

Vulva.
And it is actually cute when little people say it and the more you hear them say it, the cuter it becomes. DS5 calls it her vulva too (and his are penis and testicles).
Vagina is vagina.

It's not cute. It's fucking odd.

'Bits' but I honestly can't think of a time I've ever needed to refer to either of my now adult daughters bits .... or my own... or indeed, anyone's.

No one seems to be embarrassed about bodies or sex in our house we just don't have a need to chat about it.

Fandango here. Shortened to Dango because she couldn't pronounce Fandango when it first appeared in her vocabulary. It came about completely involuntarily. One of those moments when she was small and showing an interest, and I just said oh stop fiddling with your fandango dd. Kind of stuck and now that's the word we all use. The boys refer to their penis' as willies. Much better than the 'tinkle' my brother had growing up, and my 'front bottom'

It was always known as "front bottom" for me and my sister when we were growing up. TBH i really dislike the cutesy terms like minnie and foof and stuff like that. "front bottom" isn't technical anatomical language, but leaves no guessing as to what you mean, and it's not stupid sounding. People or character names is just silly.

We use noonie, but DD (5) knows the correct term is vagina in the same way that we refer to her brother's penis as a willy but they both know the correct term. We also use privates on occasion to refer to both.

Foof

A small child saying Vulva is just yuk! It's a Foo!!!!! Lol!

I agree re teaching your child the proper words, and don't really get the whole 'minnie' 'twinky' stuff (each to their own though!). We use front bottom and back bottom for now but they do know the proper names. (they're 7 and 4)*

But front bottom isn't the real words?

DD is 2.6, she calls it her bum. We call it her "girly parts", that's what I grew up with. We will also teach her the correct words, but I think it's good to have more than one way to refer to it.

I don't like hearing little children calling it a vagina or a vulva, so in our house we just refer to it as a cunt.

Bits here.

When DD2 goes in the shower I shout 'don't forget to scrub your pits and bits!!'

Bits or mini moo.

I also don't get the cutsie words and think it actually signifies to kids there's something to be embarrassed about. Call a vulva a vulva!!

"Vee vee" - short for vulva

I don't like twee names. It's a body part just like an arm or elbow or leg is and we don't need twee words for those!

unless you're my MIL - tried so hard to get DS to call his shoulders his "soldiers" as apparently DH had mispronounced it like that

I only have a DS - he had a willy but knew it was a penis. He's older now - I think it's now a cock - not sure - we don't discuss it

If I had a daughter, I think I'd use whatever she came up with, but teach her that Vulva was the correct term - we always called it a Bottom when I was a child

Fluffypigs your comment just made my evening - genius

Vulva. And it is actually cute when little people say it and the more you hear them say it, the cuter it becomes.

Er ... right, um, to be honest this must be one of those things where cuteness is very much in the eye of the beholder, rather than a universal truth.

This topic probably should be absolutely at the top of the list of topics where 'each to their own' is very much applicable.

It was a 'strawberry', which ended up being 'dawby', when I was growing up

We use willy and noonoo. Easy for them to say. When old enough, they will learn the proper names.

I am trying to encourage the use of vulva, I like idea of not cutseyfying it. Unfortunately my 2 year old daughter insists on calling it her 'willy hole'

Fluffypigs

Unfortunately my 2 year old daughter insists on calling it her 'willy hole'

This is BRILLIANT.

I just can't imagine a little one calling it a vulva ?! Like, mummy can you help me wipe my vulva ? it's just odd to me.

We used noonie and willy when mine were little.

I'm sure now as late teens they call them cocks and fannys 😜

Willy hole - classic ! Lol

Without getting my angry pants on, we say vulva and it's always worked: it's an easy word for a child to pronounce; if she had to say it to anyone outside the family it's clear what she means (which is not the case with the made-up terms, I would have no idea what a Minnie or foo foo or so on was talking about); and it's not embarrassing to use in public (I think I would die of shame if I had to call out 'Have you wiped your front bottom?' in a public loo. These are all factors to consider.