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AIBU?

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AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 19:30

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:09

Did I say all men? No I said some. Because some do. They were attacking my DH so I used men in my defence not women. Wasnt meaning to be sexist so don't turn it into something it wasn't meant to be please.

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WyfOfBathe · 08/01/2017 20:10

It's just societal expectations.

I could go out with butterfly facepaint on. After all, there's nothing unhygienic about it. But it's not what is considered acceptable in society.

whattheactualflump · 08/01/2017 20:10

'Some men aren't good with small children'. Really? I have a lot of friends, male and female & this is not a thing I've come across. Surely if you decided to have kids with him and then maintain the relationship then 'being good with small children' was a fairly basic requirement? Wear your PJ's all you like but that is both a baffling and worrying statement surely

Oblomova · 08/01/2017 20:10

I can't get exercised about the pyjamas in public issue, but things have got more than a bit weird when slinging on a pair of jeans is seen as equivalent to struggling into Spanx, tit tape and a Versace for the Oscars.

JassyRadlett · 08/01/2017 20:11

^Omg get over the comment about DH. Some people just struggle. I didn't say he's terrible. I said he struggles.

Hmm. How about you get over people thinking pyjamas in public isn't a good look, and others will get over the sexist comments about 'some men'?

Chippednailvarnishing · 08/01/2017 20:12

Your Dh can't look after his own DCs, which is frankly crap for all concerned.

Stop attacking posters who are answering the post YOU posted.

Bravo and Blunt, you could be the next Ant and Dec!

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2017 20:12

Now this is a game I could play all night.

Op the Oxford English Dictionary definition of a slut is:

A woman who has many casual sexual partners.

A woman with low standards of cleanliness

Again, no mention of crop tops and short skirts...

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:13

@jassy people can have any opinion they want. I'm just saying the horrible judgements when they don't know the person isn't fair.

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FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:13

I'm surprised people take such detailed note of what other people are wearing. I couldn't give a shiny shite

Emmageddon · 08/01/2017 20:13

Get yourself some pjyamas that don't look like pyjamas - tunic tops, leggings, jogging bottoms and a t-shirt. Equally comfortable, but don't scream NIGHTWEAR to the general public.

Also why is your underwear so disgusting? And why is you DH unable to look after the DC while you nip to the shops?

I'm not going to mention the tramp comment because everyone else has

sirfredfredgeorge · 08/01/2017 20:14

PJ's are nightwear. Buy a pair of jogging bottoms for lazing about in

FFS jogging bottoms are for jogging.
Yoga pants are for yoga

Pajamas are lightweight trousers

If you're really going to say it's the name that makes them appropriate wear, then pajamas are the only one that are.

But of course, you can wear what you like, anyone who gives a shit doesn't have an opinion worth caring about.

BravoPanda · 08/01/2017 20:14

I wonder if we'd get a deal with ITV

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:14

Chipped by sticking the knife in about her dh is that answering the op? I don't think so

People sometimes forget there's actual real human people behind posts and get really fucking nasty. No need.

CaraAspen · 08/01/2017 20:15

"JaxingJump

The way I see it you could go to the shops dressed as an astronaut. It's not appropriate wear for the situation but hey, your privates are covered and it's your choice. I feel the same about PJs. Not appropriate for the situation but not illegal. I would still look at you and think....hmm."

Teehee!!!!

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:17

@fizz thank you! people get so nasty on here, even on posts where people are clearly looking for support, makes me sad when I see those posts and the comments

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havingabadhairday · 08/01/2017 20:17

I don't get why anyone cares.

I wear pyjamas in the house for comfort, never wear them to bed. I don't want to get pet hair, drool etc and play doh and paint all over clothes I might want to wear outside. I don't wear them to the shops, but I can't get worked about people that do.

And they just are more comfortable. I get thrush at the drop of a hat, so I have to be super careful what I wear - leggings are a complete no go for instance.

Wdigin2this · 08/01/2017 20:17

I wouldn't do it, but what the hell....your business! Wear what the hell you like, but accept that others see it as lazy, and jog on!

Amethyst81 · 08/01/2017 20:17

Is it me or is there a bit of an obsession on MN about pyjamas right now? Is this a new 'thing'? First there were pyjamad party hosts, then pyjama clad Tesco shoppers, now this, what's going on? I'm finding it hard to think what else could be discussed about pyjamas now

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:17

@emma I didn't mean my underwear is disgusting I meant the line through the pants sorry

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CaptainBrickbeard · 08/01/2017 20:18

I wear smart clothes to work and live for the moment I walk in through the door and put on soft, warm leggings and a cosy jumper. Then I have a cup of coffee in blissful silence for twenty minutes before I go pick my kids up from the childminder. My pyjama bottoms are, to all intents and purposes, just about the same as my leggings but I couldn't walk out the door in them; I just couldn't do it. I also wouldn't really want to spend all day on pjs, even clean ones. I don't know why loungewear feels fine and pjs don't so I can't explain it. I don't have strong feelings about it either way on other people but the idea of wearing pjs out in public for myself gives me that panicky feeling like in a nightmare when you suddenly realise you're naked in public. When my son's class had a pyjama day at school it actually brought back bad dreams I used to have as a teenager where I would be wearing my dressing gown to school and everyone would laugh. Maybe that's a common anxiety dream and that's why people feel so strongly about it???

Chippednailvarnishing · 08/01/2017 20:18

Sirfred

Following on from Bluntness, the Oxford English Dictionary definition of pyjamas is;

A loose-fitting jacket and trousers for sleeping in:
‘a pair of pyjamas’
‘pyjama trousers’

1.1 A pair of loose trousers tied by a drawstring around the waist, worn by both sexes in some Asian countries.

Spent a lot of time in some Asian countries and I'm sure they would piss themselves laughing if they saw the British pyjama wearer slobbing around their shops.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 08/01/2017 20:19

It IS lazy. Have the decency to get dressed.

If your underwear is disgusting there's something wrong.

If you can see your underwear line through leggings, your top is too short (leggings are NOT normal 'trousers', cover your arse fgs!)

JassyRadlett · 08/01/2017 20:19

@jassy people can have any opinion they want. I'm just saying the horrible judgements when they don't know the person isn't fair.

Oh please. People make judgements about each other based on much, much less every minute of the day. We're programmed to evaluate people based on social norms. If you choose to do something outside those norms, it will stand out to people and they will draw conclusions.

Don't like it? Fine, start a campaign to normalise the wearing of nightwear in public. Change society. Become a world-famous fashion designer and make it on trend to wear high end pyjamas, just like the Ugg boot people did.

In the meantime, don't pretend to be 'confused', or that if someone walked into a restaurant in a bikini you wouldn't think 'fuck me, couldn't she have got changed after the beach?'

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:21

@triptrap read my prior comment thanks. And some yoga pants etc you can see the line. It's the type of pant and the tightness and the type of underwear that creates the line.

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mambono5 · 08/01/2017 20:21

I do like the fact that you start another thread because you did not like the replies you received on the other one.

Does it help?

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