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AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 19:30

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

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Bluntness100 · 08/01/2017 20:21

Amethyst, yes there is anither thread from a. lady whose husband who likes to eat dinner every night in his gaping dressing gown with nothing in underneath, apparently about to "tackle" the Sunday roast. 😂

Emmageddon · 08/01/2017 20:21

Oh VPL - that's better @mummyof2pr, I was a bit worried about the disgusting underwear. Grin Just get a larger size or some no VPL knickers from Sainsburys.

WorraLiberty · 08/01/2017 20:22

I couldn't care less if you wear your pyjamas in public OP.

But I'm confused as to what your kids have to do with it? Reading your OP, it's like you're saying you only go out to your local shop in your PJs, because I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me

Then you go on to say you do it because you're comfortable and that's what you choose to wear.

Ipsie · 08/01/2017 20:22

I agree. Really doesn't matter. Clothes are clothes no matter the label. So pyjamas are traditionally for sleeping in. Big whoop if someone decides to wear them as daywear. Once upon a time trousers were for males only. Big frowns when women wore them. Only male police officers used to be able to wear trousers. Girls couldn't wear them at school. Why? Because trousers were for men. Now it's accepted anyone can wear them. Pyjamas just for night time? Maybe one day they'll be when for whenever the he'll you like. Stick with it OP and don't worry about narrow minds.

Blacksox · 08/01/2017 20:23

It looks lazy and slobbish and completely low rent.

Put a pair of jeans on, ffs.

FairyHoneydragonTwinkleScrotum · 08/01/2017 20:23

Listen very carefully. Your pyjamas are NIGHTWEAR

And can therefore be worn in Pubs, nightclubs and all major supermarkets after 8pm.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:23

@emma TMI sorry Grin when I get my period I obviously wear different underwear and the line will show so I more likely than not would wear looser/pyjama pants so no one sees and because obviously then I want extra comfort!

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SinglePringle · 08/01/2017 20:24

Yes but using 'tramp' to describe women thus is sexist shite and should be corrected / stopped OP.

Just because it's in comman use doesn't make it right.

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2017 20:24

If you have VPL issues then boy shorts work well. Just trying to be helpful. Glad your undies aren't disgusting. 😃

Amethyst81 · 08/01/2017 20:25

Bluntness I'm not imagining it then!

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:25

@single and I said that's what I thought they were using it as because that is how I know the word. They have said that wasn't. It's been clarified.

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EpoxyResin · 08/01/2017 20:26

Oh please. People make judgements about each other based on much, much less every minute of the day. We're programmed to evaluate people based on social norms.

Do you know what some people do jassy? They have that moment when they thing "blimey, are those pyjamas?", then they check themselves and say "you know what, I don't know them, I don't know their circumstances, I have literally no idea what that's all about and why the bloody hell do I even care? This is not impacting me in any way and I really would do well to mind my own". That's what very civilised people do.

kateandme · 08/01/2017 20:26

mummyof2pr thankyou for your post. when the other one came up in my feed I was shocked at some of the replys.
how can we be so judgemental or actually sometimes looking at what was said how can we be so horrid.
this is a person.in clothes. they could be the kindest bravest most wonderful people.yet the words we call them on the coverings. on what they wear? what is this.
there are times of course when its not going to be best to live in them all the time. and youd like to think people feel able to dress. but in the end who the f* cares.you might think "oh" even for a second but then just be human and get over it because we don't know them nor should we care.
I despair. and I wonder what people thought of me at times ive had and could have instead needed them desperately to look at me with care. or not to look at me at all in my pjs and just instead see me.

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2017 20:26

Amethyst, nope, there is indeed a pyjama war on mumsnet...😂

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:27

@worra my point was if I'm taking my kids out with me my concern is them and if I'm comfortable in what I'm wearing I'm not going to change especially when it would mean making taking them out more difficult. And of course there will now be people commenting saying "oh it takes two minutes" but everyone's life and children are different and in my house I don't always get two minutes.

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kateandme · 08/01/2017 20:27

epoxyresin ou just said everything I wanted to bu so much netter haha

mycatwantstokillme1 · 08/01/2017 20:28

Blunt I'm not confused about the meaning of the words tramp or slut. My reply was in context to how OP had used the word and she's replied about that.

OP, don't worry about what other people think, wear what you like to the supermarket. It doesn't harm anyone else and if people are going to judge, they're going to judge, but it's not going to affect you, just as much as you wearing your pj's to the sops isn't going to affect them!

ZefStar · 08/01/2017 20:28

Are you in the US? Has it spread over there? I only ask because you used the phrase 'run to the store'.

Anyway. Stop being lazy and put some clothes on, even if it's a loose pair of trackies (or whatever you call them in the U.S)

Amethyst81 · 08/01/2017 20:28

Bluntness hilarious but weird! ShockGrin

PrimalLass · 08/01/2017 20:28

And some yoga pants etc you can see the line.

Still not as bad as wearing pjs in public. Or, get thicker yoga pants.

crashdoll · 08/01/2017 20:29

Is this a TAAT?

DailyFail1 · 08/01/2017 20:29

If I was wearing a bra or a crop top and a mini skirt then I would be dressing like a tramp

I lost all respect for OP with that comment. At least if you wore a bra or crop top/mini skirt you'd look like you made an effort.

mycatwantstokillme1 · 08/01/2017 20:29

*oops, shops not sops!

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:29

@prima but if we're going for the excuse that pants have to be worn for what they are made for then why would I be able to wear yoga pants to the store if they are made for yoga? I'm sure they aren't offering yoga classes at Tesco

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:31

@dailydail again I said that is how I interpreted the way they were using the word tramp based on a slang term. Read the previous comments before adding in please.

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