AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

[mummyof2pr]

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

Cara stop showing off.

Pyjamas are made and designed for sleeping in.. they're obvious sleep wear. It doesn't matter if people sleep in their jeans or not.

It's lazy and takes less than a minute to change them. If you wear them out then you'll be judged as lazy, if you don't care about that then crack on.

@cara good for you

'I think it's just another way to tell women what to wear. Men can go to the supermarket in disgusting, grubby trackies or shirtless, or in t-shirts that used to be white but are now grey, but women in clean, comfortable (and sometimes stylish) clothes are vilified.'

Nah the worst fashion crimes are committed by men. Men who parade topless around supermarkets in the summer time. Because y'know 26 degrees is such sweltering heat....

Sweet Jesus! You have to go to th shops in your pyjamas as your husband can't cope with the children?

You've bigger problems than your lack of dress sense or propriety.

Buy some trackpants and address why your DH can't cope with his own children.

Classy

"mummyof2pr

Did you not read what I said? I don't sleep in my pyjama pants. I use them as comfort wear.So they then would be the same as loungewear. Wearing pyjamas isn't dressing like a tramp. If I was wearing a bra or a crop top and a mini skirt then I would be dressing like a tramp."

Listen very carefully. Your pyjamas are NIGHTWEAR.

How many more times? Sigh

Some men aren't as good with small children, that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with my DH. But thank you for the advice.

'by the sound of shufferling Fuggs and flapping dressing gowns...'

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Dressing gowns too?!

Wear leggings as everyone has said. It looks slovenly to be outside in ones pjs.

Also - can we stop with the use of the word 'tramp' to discribe a woman who wears short / revealing clothes? Ditto saying 'slut' in conjunction with such clothing.

Then don't use it to describe people in pyjamas!

Because it looks like you don't care how you look, which is unkempt, lacking in self-respect and lazy.

I'm not sure I've ever seen anyone in PJs in Waitrose- although my husband lives in them at home (much more comfortable than his suits). He'd go to the garage to fill the car wearing them. He'd drop one of the children to the station in them. I can't see a problem and he doesn't care what other people think.
There are far more important things to worry about - behaviour rather than clothing. Personally, I hate tattoos, baseball caps - particularly worn back to front, vests without shirt on men, jeans hanging below pants, thongs, leather clothing, orange foundation, huge hoop earrings and many more. I choose not to wear any of the items I am offended by but it is up,to,others whether they choose to wear them. I may judge (privately) but accept it actually does no,harm whatever people wear.

Op don't worry what other people think. I've never gone out in Pajama trousers but I'm tempted to do it as it is entertaining to see how much it winds people up

If that's directed at me OP, I haven't. I used the word 'slovenly'. Different, see?

No, there is really no reason why men should be less able to cope with small children than women. My husband had no prior experience with kids and was still able to quickly pick up those insanely difficult skills like changing a nappy.

@crumbs that's what I mean!!! So many people are sitting and saying how horrible this is for kids to see. I think there's far worse! People shooting up drugs on the street, alcoholics stumbling home from the pub all times of the day, domestic/child abuse, all of this happens in broad daylight in some areas and these people are concerned with pyjamas!!!

OP I was on your side until I read what you wrote here:

"Wearing pyjamas isn't dressing like a tramp. If I was wearing a bra or a crop top and a mini skirt then I would be dressing like a tramp."

Dressing in a crop top & mini skirt DOES not make a woman look like a tramp. Neither does you wearing your PJ bottoms to go out in.

You don't want to be judged for wearing your PJ bottoms out, but you're quite happy to judge women that wear mini skirts and crop tops. A bit hypocritical!

There is a perfectly good thread on this skanky issue ALREADY.

Tedious.

I'm fully judgemental on this issue. Aimed at all people I see in PJ's in public: Wear proper clothes to go outside. Be a better role model for your children. You look lazy. If you are lazy, don't be shocked when people judge you for it. This includes onesies, dressing gowns and slippers. Children over the age of about 8 will also be judged, but actually I will be judging the parent not the kid. Have some dignity.

If you are in a rush and have a sick child and need urgent supplies, suck up the judgemental looks, and know you are doing the best you can in a crappy situation.

"mummyof2pr

@crumbs that's what I mean!!! So many people are sitting and saying how horrible this is for kids to see. I think there's far worse! People shooting up drugs on the street, alcoholics stumbling home from the pub all times of the day, domestic/child abuse, all of this happens in broad daylight in some areas and these people are concerned with pyjamas!!!"

I have not seen those other appalling sights either, in broad daylight. Must depend on where you live...

@mycatwantstokillme1 sorry just trying to compare my definition to definition others are using. I didn't realise there were two.

@cara but do you get what I'm saying? This just seems like such a stupid issue for people to be so worked up over when there is so much worse going on

'I think it's just another way to tell women what to wear. Men can go to the supermarket in disgusting, grubby trackies or shirtless, or in t-shirts that used to be white but are now grey, but women in clean, comfortable (and sometimes stylish) clothes are vilified.'