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AIBU to ask..

74 replies

user1483809827 · 08/01/2017 09:41

How many dates did you have with your DP/DH before you slept together? Is there such thing as too soon?

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CheckpointCharlie2 · 08/01/2017 09:42

We knew each other before hand so wasn't really like that. But anyone else, generally shagged them on the first night if I liked them and was up for it!

ifyoulikepinacolada · 08/01/2017 10:14

Second date. We've been together about 5 years.

GinIsIn · 08/01/2017 10:18

Another one with 2 dates, 5 years ago. As long as you both want the same thing, why not?!

DaftJelly · 08/01/2017 10:18

About an hour after we met Grin

MrsChrisPratt · 08/01/2017 10:19

Me and DH dtd the night we met. He wanted to and so did I. No big deal. If it's gonna work it's gonna work. I refer to him as my 'one life stand' Grin. First and only time I ever jumped in the deep end.

Original poster
user1483809827 · 08/01/2017 10:20

Daft that's impressive Grin

I kind of want to but at the same time I feel really out of shape and could use a bit more time to feel more confident in my body.

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Mrsemcgregor · 08/01/2017 10:21

Second time we met, but we were talking all day everyday months before we physically met. 9 years together now.

OdinsLoveChild · 08/01/2017 10:22

I think it was about a month after we first started dating. So probably about 9 or 10 dates. That was over 25 years ago though and empty houses were in short supply. He drove a mini so not much room in there either.

OnTheUp13 · 08/01/2017 10:23

3 dates and they were amazing dates where he had organised it all including dinner at a very naice restaurant and a show in the west end. I figured he was going some if he just wanted to get in my pants Wink we're still together 8 years later, married with a DD

DearMrDilkington · 08/01/2017 10:25

2nd date and been together 6yrs.

DailyFail1 · 08/01/2017 10:28

About 4 months after we started dating. If they're worth it they'll wait.

DailyFail1 · 08/01/2017 10:28

they'll wait for you.

sometimesKit · 08/01/2017 10:28

Second date. We've been together 8 years, married 3. I have never been very body confident, and I knew if we waited too long I would overthink it and end up making myself worse! It just happened that way, we both enjoyed it (slight understatement actually) and it was another tick in his "the one for me" list that I had started from the first date!

There is no such thing as a universal "too early". If you sleep with someone and then they ghost you, it's because they're a wanker, not because you had sex with them too soon.

IfartInYourGeneralDirection · 08/01/2017 10:31

First night we meet we had sex....and I got pregnant!
Still together 15 years on Shock

SharkBastard · 08/01/2017 10:35

DH and I had sex on our first date. Married a year later, now expecting his first child 4 years later.

Don't think it matters. I've had relationships where we've waited and they've failed, so really not a factor

Mindtrope · 08/01/2017 10:39

Fist date- but I had known him for 5 years, he was the brother of a close friend. ( who is now my SILGrin)

Whoamicosichangedmynameagain · 08/01/2017 10:39

First date. He may have waited but I didn't want to. Sex is brilliant why deny yourself?

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 08/01/2017 10:45

I'd known DP since the October, we started dating in the March and slept together on date like 3. But our dates weren't so much "dates". We were friends, had mutual friends, were part of the same Sport club (were at uni). We just DTD first time we could. Wink

Been together 4 years, engaged and have a DD. I knew very early on that he was my forever.

TheUpsideDown · 08/01/2017 10:46

Second date, about two weeks after the first date.

I wanted to on the first date tbh, as the connection and chemistry was there, and had the best snog ever! But I didn't want him to think I was just a one-nighter. I wanted to know if he'd want to see me again even if I didn't put out on the first date. Luckily he did.

We're now nearly 8 years together, married and a son.

kel12345 · 08/01/2017 10:48

A few hours here.

SparkleShinyGlitter · 08/01/2017 10:51

First date, still together and married with a baby 19 years later!

I honelsty don't think it matters if you have some chemistry and want to have sex why not

Mybrainishurtingme · 08/01/2017 10:51

First day I met him, introduced to him through mutual friends, went out in a group all day, then dinner, then drinks, then back to his.
Technically we had our first date 4 days later!
People said it wouldn't last but we've been together 9 years now, married for 4 1/2.
I was never the long term relationship type, but cheesy as it sounds when I met DH I did just know

Pinkheart5915 · 08/01/2017 10:54

First date, I had known him for a few years anyway as he is my brothers friend. We are still together 11 years and 2 dc later

I think if you have a bit of chemisty with someone then there is nothing wrong with it

BarbedBloom · 08/01/2017 10:55

About an hour after we met too. We had met online and been chatting for a month or so. Am amazed we made it that long. I have always done it when it feels right rather than waiting for a specified amount of time. Zero regrets.

ProfYaffle · 08/01/2017 11:00

2 or 3 hours after meeting. Been together 17 years, married, 2 dc.