To cancel the party?

[FudgeBiscuits]

Kind of a WWYD, kind of a WIBU.

My DD turns 4 in little over a week and I've had a party booked at a local play centre since November (for the day before her birthday). No deposit has been but down. But it's all sorted and people have RSPV'd for the party.

She's been really well behaved and over the last week she's been asking to go horse riding for her birthday.

Originally she wanted a party with her 10 or so of her nursery friends (that's when I booked the party).

I've asked her if she wants to have a party too, she says no, just horse riding.

She also wants to go to the play centre the day of her birthday with her 2 best friends.

WIBU to cancel the party? And just take her horse riding and just organise her friends to meet us at the play centre for the party?

Put your eyebrow down love. . Your face will stick like that 🙄

If you had read my previous posts you'd see that the party is going ahead and I've invited more children.

Some of you need to learn to read!

Really op? That's just rude!

An glad you have decided to go ahead although I do think you were very very unreasonable to even think about cancelling. It's very rude and unkind and unfair to the other children.
Being a parent is hard and I'm sure it's very tempting to want to give your little girl everything she wants, especially as she was so hard to conceive. However, IMO being a parent is about getting them ready for the rest of life and not giving them everything they want. It's about actually parenting, not being the fairy godmother who gives them everything they want. You can't be the "good guy" all the time. You want to make an adult who is responsible and considerate to other people. That lesson starts now for your daughter. She made a decision to have a party, children are looking forward to it so it goes ahead even if she has changed her mind.
Imagine what lesson you would have taught her if you had cancelled - that only herself and not her friends mattered. How would you have felt when no one accepted any further party invitations from you or no one invited your daughter to their parties?
You have done the right thing op. Hope you all have a good time

I did read your previous posts fudge and you said that you had decided to go ahead after I had commented. People are still entitled to the opinion that you were BU to consider it

some of you need to learn to read
I think the OP may have been referring to the fact that an hour after she made it clear she wasn't going to to cancel, people were still responding to her first post and telling her to think how the little kids would feel, because they didn't bother to RTFT.
I think that was a fair point!

You will know next time.

Big family parties fine but pals that will be fluid are an unnecessary worry.

Avoid any kids called James too.

You sound delightful op

Put your eyebrow down love. hmm. Your face will stick like that

Grow up.

I think the OP may have been referring to the fact that an hour after she made it clear she wasn't going to to cancel

I think with the tone of some of the OPs posts it's difficult to tell if they are being serious or not about inviting others especially as it is a Friday evening

Costa... I am delightful. Thanks for noticing. 😁.

And other one.. I don't want to grow up. I'll end up a miserable asshole.

I think you're deluded on more than one point

Just because it's a Friday evening, doesn't mean every woman/ man on here is pissed.

That's concerning. You're not raising your child with that belief are you?.

Ok Costa. As you wish dreary

Jesus Christ your rude!

Just fit going riding around the party. If she already had lessons then you'll be doing that anyway. If you have your own ponies then you can fit around. If you're looking for somewhere for her to start learning then that is a project not a quick one off.

Oh my goodness, you're horrible!

I get that your DD is precious, OP, but other children are just as precious to their parents. Hurting them by cancelling a party would make you very unpopular.

But more important is the lesson you would be teaching your DD. Bringing up your children to have good manners is very important for their success and happiness. Rude and entitled people find it hard to make or keep friends or partners. Courteous, gracious people do better in life. Simple as that. Bring your DD up to care nothing for others is doing her a very bad service. People warm to kind, considerate people.

Fudge you aren't coming across very well now and I know you've said you're having the party but you did not address the majority of posters who were saying it would be rude too cancel, but I guess being rude doesn't seem bother you. And whether you meant it or not your bit about IVF and your DD bring precious comes across wrong to - all children are precious to their parents.

Now you're just coming off as rude OP.

I would be very careful, OP.

The nastier you get, the nastier other people will get...

And you strike me as a delicate flower. Don't give what you won't be able to take.

Is there a reason why your DD isn't looking forward to her party? Does she get on OK with all the children who have been invited?

Let's hope Fudge Jr has a really charming father as a role model to offset her mother's more.........robust style.

You would be extremely rude to cancel the party. Do you really want to raise a spoilt, selfish girl who calls the shots in your home? Take her riding another day instead!

Bunty