To cancel the party?

[FudgeBiscuits]

Kind of a WWYD, kind of a WIBU.

My DD turns 4 in little over a week and I've had a party booked at a local play centre since November (for the day before her birthday). No deposit has been but down. But it's all sorted and people have RSPV'd for the party.

She's been really well behaved and over the last week she's been asking to go horse riding for her birthday.

Originally she wanted a party with her 10 or so of her nursery friends (that's when I booked the party).

I've asked her if she wants to have a party too, she says no, just horse riding.

She also wants to go to the play centre the day of her birthday with her 2 best friends.

WIBU to cancel the party? And just take her horse riding and just organise her friends to meet us at the play centre for the party?

Cancelling a party that 4 year olds are excited about for no good reason, is indeed the act of a miserable asshole. So that's something sorted at least.

Your poor daughter hasn't got much of a role model judging by your posts. No wonder she felt able to change her mind about the party as she clearly has seen selfish inconsiderate behaviour from her own mother. But heres hoping your OH possesses nicer traits to pass down to your DD, then maybe all won't be lost.

I can't wait till your on the playground OP..I shall look forward to the posts..

You may have a very wanted child...( I assume for the other invited guests they wanted their children too) Because it took such a long time does not mean your child gets there own way..You do need to parent kids . I tried for 4 years before I conceived...As much as I love him more than anyone on the planet . He has to learn that as special as he is to me he has to fit in the rest of the world.

You may not of liked the responses on this thread however if this is how you respond to what you don't like God help your DD. I really don't know why you have invited another 6 to a party she doesn't want?????? Good luck OP

This is hilarious. I've had people slate me and calling daughter rude things but I give some back and people are calling me rude and getting all uppity?

Yeah ok then.

Maybe you should name change and start again.

You aren't coming across well.

And ps. My DD is just as precious as yours despite not trying very hard to have her.

I'm delighted your child is precious and understand the angst of miscarriage and infertility. My children are no less precious because I have six of them.

Crumbs... I'd love 6 children! A whole brood causing mayhem, just love children!.

My daughter would love a baby brother or sister but I'm afraid it's just not possible.

Op, the reason you're getting grief now is because you suggested doing something which was unreasonable and rude and when you were challenged on it, you were snippy, defensive and very bad mannered. You didn't accept the overwhelming majority's opinion with any grace at all, you were just sarcastic and rude.

You're not going to address why you thought it was ok to cancel and let down all those other children are you?

If it was booked and organized and invites sent out, why did you only invite ten when minimum numbers is 20?

I wouldn't - I also wouldn't take an almost 4 yo word for anything - at that age they can change like the wind.

I'd tell her she having a lovely party this year and then if she's good she can decide what she does next year.

Just because it's a Friday evening, doesn't mean every woman/ man on here is pissed.

That's concerning. You're not raising your child with that belief are you?

No not pissed.

I don't drink as I'm currently undergoing chemo but yeah you keep digging that hole.

fudge your making this much worse than it needs to be.

Great that you're going ahead with the party. Soft play won't be too much hassle for you. People will say OMG ffs that would be so rude etc (because it would), but try not to get too defensive-you have asked for opinions, on here you'll get extremes. It will be all good & if she still wants to go horse riding, you can do it another day.

Fwiw if my dc are invited to a party, it's all they talk about for weeks. To them it's probably the equivalent of me going to a wedding, and they'd be gutted and cause me quite a lot of distress with all their crying about it if it was cancelled. I'd complain for weeks if I was uninvited to a wedding, (there will be threads on this too!)

Good luck & hope your dd has a lovely birthday

piglet sorry to hear that.. I notice you a lot on other threads as you normally make me laugh with your replies.

Thank you @DearMrDilkington

Best wishes Piglet.

You are just the gift that keeps on giving aren't you?!
I wonder if it was actually DDs choice to cancel the party or yours.

you asked if YWBU
We're just about 250 posts in here with a majority of posters saying YABU
You decide to respond aggressively precious
Can we all be wrong? Is it possible that you are rude and aggressive?
Don't tar us with the Friday evening brush just because you're defensive.

why are you being so mean OP?

You're coming across as rude and arrogant

A whole brood causing mayhem, just love children

(but more than happy to upset ten or so of them when your own little one's whims are in the balance....)