To cancel the party?

[FudgeBiscuits]

Kind of a WWYD, kind of a WIBU.

My DD turns 4 in little over a week and I've had a party booked at a local play centre since November (for the day before her birthday). No deposit has been but down. But it's all sorted and people have RSPV'd for the party.

She's been really well behaved and over the last week she's been asking to go horse riding for her birthday.

Originally she wanted a party with her 10 or so of her nursery friends (that's when I booked the party).

I've asked her if she wants to have a party too, she says no, just horse riding.

She also wants to go to the play centre the day of her birthday with her 2 best friends.

WIBU to cancel the party? And just take her horse riding and just organise her friends to meet us at the play centre for the party?

Cancel the party. You need to instil a sense of entitlement in your DD if she is to grow into a precious princess. The 9 other children coming to the party are irrelevant and if a parent was also attending, it will probably be no trouble for unarranging any childcare or transport arrangement - they're reasonable people who RSVP. Sure, the other kids might be disappointed but they'll get over it. What matters is that your soon to be 4 year old is shown that she is the only one that matters.

YABVU and rude!

Will you end up with any of these children at school? I will bet you a that the story of how you cancelled the party will make it round the class. Cue next year when your little princess wants a party, acceptances are light on the ground.

Some parents in our class acted in a horrible and entitled manner. Really awful, and somewhat unsurprisingly lots of families are busy on the day of their pfb's party. It's a shame for the boy, but the parents' actions have consequences.

When people accept an invite they arrange things around it, for me it would be transport and finding someone to look after my other child.

Are you really so ignorant you think this wouldn't come back to bite your dd on the arse at parties in the future?

I get the feeling you don't want this party to happen for whatever reason (money?) and have decided to go along with this nonsense of cancelling a party for 10 children who already accepted and are most likely very excited about. Let it be a lesson to both of you. If you make a commitment then stick with it. It would be terribly unfair to cancel at this late stage and im betting you would be back on here in a year wondering why your precious darling hasn't received any invites to playdates or parties from school. Suck it up and know for next time. My children go horseriding every saturday for €20 each, bring her another time its not very expensive you can do both .

Sorry it's really bad manners parents are chance to have bought presents and arranged things around it.

Perhaps you should have asked her first what she wanted to do?

Good God!

You can't do that!

Now that I think about it this has got to be a wind up. Well done OP you've got us all frothing.

At least I hope it is. I actually feel sorry for your DD (if it's not) with your complete lack of manners and boundaries. What values are you teaching the poor child?

Not only appallingly rude and unreasonable but you are creating a spoilt madam who needs guidance about how to treat people and honouring commitments.

I was joking. OP, you can't let these children down or their parents. These kids are your daughter's friends. They have nice parents.

The party is the day before DD's birthday. She has the party as planned and as a special treat she gets to go riding.

Have a lovely time!

It's her birthday - you do realise this doesn't actually make her feelings more important than other people's?

Apart from which you'll completely ruin your reputation with all the other parents. You'll be forever The parent who cancelled at the last minute because her daughter changed her mind.

The only acceptable reason for cancelling in illness/family emergency and I do in fact know a family who held a party even though their child was ill at the last minute (without the ill child)

Do you always cancel last minute on people?

This thread is definitely a wind up.
NO ONE in the history of mumsnet has ever got as many as 10 RSVPs!

YABVU. Of course you can't cancel. My DD is almost 4 and is going to a party on Sunday. She would be so upset if it was just cancelled for no reason like this. Plus we have planned our weekend around it and we have bought a present for the birthday child.

Cancel for illness or an emergency, disappointing but understandable. But letting everyone down because you're a bit flakey? That's really shitty.

Of course you can't cancel a party that 10 other children are looking forward to attending! Totally unreasonable and incredibly rude.

This is at least the third WTF thread I've read today.

I'm amazed that anyone would actually consider this!

Unanimous YABU, Fudge!

Unanimous YABUs are pretty rare round here

I can just imagine the thread that will be started next week by one of the mothers of the disappointed children:

' AIBU to tell this twat of a mother how devastated my DD is?

My DD was invited to a party by one of her friends from nursery. She got really excited and was really looking forward to going. We went out and bought a lovely present, even though money was a bit tight with it being straight after Christmas. My DD and her other friends have been talking about nothing else and have spent ages deciding which party dresses to wear.

Then, completely out of the blue, the mother cancelled the party. All of the kids are really upset and disappointed. AIBU to tell her just how upset my daughter is and what a shitty thing this was to do to a bunch of nusery kids?'

BTW, it is a really shitty thing to do. How would you feel if someone did this to your daughter?

Booked a party is a week at a playcentre and you'll 'just cancel it'? Really? No deposit ? 10 kids already RSVP'd?

Is this actually real or an utterly hilarious wind up?

No, YABU to cancel the party. You asked her originally what she wanted to do and she said she wanted that party, so you booked it. Case closed.

There have been lots of children's birthday parties attended through the years but never has anyone cancelled any of them for any reason after the invitations were sent out. Some even probably should have due to extenuating circumstances but didn't out of courtesy to the children who had been invited.

It's quite unusual to cancel once invitations have been sent out, isn't it?

Don't think the Op's hearing what she wants to

Osboomo is exactly right!!!

YABU your DD is 4! You tell her what's happening not the other way round. She probably won't remember she didn't go horse riding a week later anyway. You can't cancel as people have rsvp'd.