To cancel the party?

[FudgeBiscuits]

Kind of a WWYD, kind of a WIBU.

My DD turns 4 in little over a week and I've had a party booked at a local play centre since November (for the day before her birthday). No deposit has been but down. But it's all sorted and people have RSPV'd for the party.

She's been really well behaved and over the last week she's been asking to go horse riding for her birthday.

Originally she wanted a party with her 10 or so of her nursery friends (that's when I booked the party).

I've asked her if she wants to have a party too, she says no, just horse riding.

She also wants to go to the play centre the day of her birthday with her 2 best friends.

WIBU to cancel the party? And just take her horse riding and just organise her friends to meet us at the play centre for the party?

breakfasts

she is four, she didnt need a big party, anyway im guessing it was possibly for your benefit not hers
your the parent you get to call the shots not a 'precious' four year old

Very true Squiff 10 rsvps? I doubt Kate and wills get 10.

Add to Kahlen's imagined post:

^Then to add insult to injury it turned out two of the original invitees were invited to the same soft play centre for the birthday! So obviously the rest of our children were deemed unnecessary or undesirable at the last minute!
^

Depends how unpopular you want yourself and your DD to be. Our weekends are very busy and I have had to organize my weekends and arrangements so that my dc's can go to parties. If a party was cancelled, obviously not due to sickness etc, then I'd think it very selfish and arrogant of the parent.

[SeekEvery]

Good point.

I think you would need to have a serious word with yourself about whether or not it would be fair to disappoint ten other children at the whim of a four year old.

Just gonna leave that there.....

Would be letting her do what she wants if you'd already paid for the party?

You'll have a bunch of pissed off parents and a pissed off playcentre if you cancel. Although more fool them for not taking deposits really.

Of course you can't cancel, how rude! 10 people have arranged their weekend plans around this and possibly bought presents if it's only a week away. But, I'm intrigued as to what sort of play area will take a booking months in advance and not taken any deposit even a week before the event? Are you sure you do have a confirmed booking? In my ( admittedly fairly limited!) experience you pay a small booking deposit and have to cough up the full balance about a week before.

OP has not returned. Surprise

My cousin and her son have just cancelled!

Is that your way of saying this a reverse OP?

Gooseberryfools - very big of you to slag off my daughter online where no one knows who you are.

Bet you wouldn't say that to my face would you.

Bet you wouldn't say that to my face would you.

I think if you did this, the parents would be saying worse behind your back.

Fudge based on the recent posts, I would say your four year old has gotten hold of your account.

I don't think it's your daughter people are slagging off....

Ah slating posters for having nothing better to do, unlike the op whose life is a veritable smorgasbord of interest.

The last refuge of the OP whose been given a unilateral YABU, I always notice.

Families will have put off other plans so their DC can go to the party and they will not be impressed if you cancel.

Of course your DD is not an 'entitled princess'. She is four. They don't know any better and don't understand etiquette or what goes into arranging a party or buying presents and making plans. This is a great learning thing for her. She can go horse riding when the weather is warmer.

It would be incredibly rude to cancel. The guests will be looking forward to it and might also have turned down other arrangements for this. Most will also by now have shelled out on a gift.
It is so not on to even consider this, but from the replies from OP it doesn't appear that the overwhelming YWBU is influencing her - still arguing it as far as I can see!
If your child will move schools soon and never see these children again, and you're happy to be so rude and disappoint children, then go ahead and cancel. If you or your child will be seeing or mixing with these children and parents for years to come it would be v v foolish I feel.

Totally unreasonable to cancel.

To be honest Fudge although people should of course be polite, you did ask what people thought - this is AIBU it's renowned for being rather, er, robust.

The strength of the collective response here is indicative of exactly how people would respond in RL, behind your back if not to your face.

I'm a bit surprised you thought that anyone might agree that cancelling was ok.

A whole hour and that was the best you could come up with?

Oh dear.

If you want to start a bunfight you have to come up with something that will divide opinion. Must try harder

I'm not letting her dictate the decision but at the end of the day it's her day, shouldn't she be able to celebrate it the way she wants to?

It is incredibly rude to cancel.

I can't believe you are even contemplating it.

As for having a go at posters, because everyone disagrees with you by saying 'I bet you wouldn't say that to my face' I can just imagine what the cancelled parents will say to you.

also wondering if your cousin is on MN

Is she your very first child OP