To cancel the party?

[FudgeBiscuits]

Kind of a WWYD, kind of a WIBU.

My DD turns 4 in little over a week and I've had a party booked at a local play centre since November (for the day before her birthday). No deposit has been but down. But it's all sorted and people have RSPV'd for the party.

She's been really well behaved and over the last week she's been asking to go horse riding for her birthday.

Originally she wanted a party with her 10 or so of her nursery friends (that's when I booked the party).

I've asked her if she wants to have a party too, she says no, just horse riding.

She also wants to go to the play centre the day of her birthday with her 2 best friends.

WIBU to cancel the party? And just take her horse riding and just organise her friends to meet us at the play centre for the party?

would you still consider cancelling if you had put a deposit down or is it because you wont have lost any money it doesnt matter

How convenient

YABU.

that you'd even consider it? Do you have no manners at all?

It's basic manners to hold the party now that people have rsvped. Can understand true emergencies but a pony ride isn't one of them.

It's not an either or or question.
Are you loathe to waste money on these 8 others?

Party as planned horse riding another time.

A guest pulling out of a party is not the same as a party giver telling everyone the party's off because they've thought of something else they'd rather do

No way can you cancel if everyone has rsvpd

It would be very rude of you.

You know this - and it isn't up to the 3 year old to make that decision.

My DC have changed their minds about parties (children are fickle) but have always enjoyed what we originally booked on the day. You just CAN'T cancel - that would be really horrible of you.

its a week away. People have probably already bought presents and told their children its happening.

It would be spectacularly bad to cancel now. Take your dd horseriding the day before or the day after

I'm assuming she wanted a party in the first place and you didn't just force th idea on her? Of course you can't cancel. She has to realise she can't change her mind as it lets other people down.

Agree with the others. Have the party and do the horse riding later

Good god, why would you even consider this. That would be an utterly shitty thing to do frankly, but if you're even contemplating it, I don't suppose you're that bothered about that.

You can't cancel!

It would be horribly rude

If the 4 yr old changes her mind on the day and decides she DOES want the party, what will the OP do then after making it clear that all whims will be attended to?

You can use this to teach her some empathy - talk to her about the fact other children will be excited and looking forward to coming.

Teach her the she needs to honour her commitments and value the feelings of other people. To let her dictate this, you are teaching her that the most important consideration in life is what she wants and how she feels at any given moment.

Maybe she's seen this thread..

I can't believe you even need to ask. Very rude and as another poster said your name will me mud.

This thread can't be for real!

I've never heard of anywhere taking a booking for a party and not receiving any money for that booking so close to a party!

Also what person in they're right mind would think it's normal or acceptable to invite people to a party(have those people accept the invitation and then wait until those people have more than likely bought a gift and a card,have excited children on they're hands that are looking forward to the party and could have turned down other invitations to things)and then cancel it all with less than 2 weeks to go!

Agree with summer

I agree with all the other posters. I do think you need to ramp up your dd's excitement for the party, talk about the fun and games she will have, mention her birthday cake, really sell the idea of her party she'll soon like the idea again.

Why is it so many threads that are about to ask if an obviously rude action is rude start "My DC has been so well behaved lately"

What's her recent behaviour have to do with it?

She has booked a party. It's the polite thing to do to honour that at such short notice.

Being well behaved is not carte blanch to then behave badly towards others

Don't cancel.

You are the parent, you make the rules.

You've booked the party and 10 people have RSVPd.

People will have planned their day! What are you going to tell them? Party cancelled now because my DD wants to sit on a horse.

I think that way the road to a very spoiled child lies.

This.