To cancel the party?

[FudgeBiscuits]

Kind of a WWYD, kind of a WIBU.

My DD turns 4 in little over a week and I've had a party booked at a local play centre since November (for the day before her birthday). No deposit has been but down. But it's all sorted and people have RSPV'd for the party.

She's been really well behaved and over the last week she's been asking to go horse riding for her birthday.

Originally she wanted a party with her 10 or so of her nursery friends (that's when I booked the party).

I've asked her if she wants to have a party too, she says no, just horse riding.

She also wants to go to the play centre the day of her birthday with her 2 best friends.

WIBU to cancel the party? And just take her horse riding and just organise her friends to meet us at the play centre for the party?

You'll have a proper Veruca Salt on your hands in a couple of years if you indulge these kinds of whims.

Just because it's her birthday doesn't mean she should be allowed to be a diva. She's having a party, she will enjoy it.

Yabvu you can't cancel a party on the whim of a 4 year old ffs!

Presumably she originally wanted the party and enjoys the play centre. It's not torture to force her to go with what she said originally, when it affects other people.

To do so would be to raise an utterly spoilt brat.

I'm not letting her dictate the decision but at the end of the day it's her day, shouldn't she be able to celebrate it the way she wants to?

Would you feel the same way if you were losing your money rather than 'just' disappointing children and inconveniencing other families?

If you cancel the party, you'll be on here before long, complaining about all the parties your dd has not been invited to. I wouldn't have your daughter over my doorstep if you pulled that stunt on one of my children.

I'm not letting her dictate the decision but at the end of the day it's her day, shouldn't she be able to celebrate it the way she wants to?

Future bridezilla in the making if you head down this path...

She invited friends to a party. They said they are coming. She should be having a party.

So because you don't have to 'cancel the cheque' you'll be willing to cancel the party. On what a 3yo is saying.

at the end of the day it's her day, shouldn't she be able to celebrate it the way she wants to?

Future Bridezilla in the making FFS.

You are TOTALLY unreasonable to even be thinking this OP.

Excellent x-post Ewe

Very rude.
Take her horseriding another day. Make it part of her birthday present with a friend. Completely unreasonable to cancel. I think you will do your daughter no favours. She wont be invited to others parties rest assured. How upsetting for her in the long run.

YABU.

Cancelling this party will make you look like a right twat.

I wouldn't cancel, like most people have already said it's just so rude!

Bloody hell - I'm agog at your potential brass neck

This has got to be a wind up!

You do get rude people with parties, but don't be one of them.

Don't forget the party rings...

Oooh DM are going to have fun with this

it's her day, shouldn't she be able to celebrate it the way she wants to?

And if she'd said all along she wanted to go riding, that would be entirely fair enough. But the party's booked, the guests have accepted, and you now propose to teach your daughter that she is perfectly entitled to mess others around and disappoint them on a total whim.

Really? As everyone else has said, this is incredibly rude and it's thoughtless of you to even consider cancelling the party. You made a commitment to the venue for a start...you're only concerned with the fact that you haven't paid a deposit but at least you won't lose out, huh? And then there's the children who have accepted the invite to consider, however you're only bothered about what your dd wants at this particular moment in time You do realise that she'll be left out of many future party invites, don't you?

Very very rude and very intitiled.

I would nog consider ever changing plans after invites were sent, unless something happened like kids were ill or veneue cancelled etc.

If my child has their Heart set on horse riding then I wold consider doing that on another date, but it would be a present then, and if she had asked for gifts too I would make her decide what she wanted, because she wouldn't be getting both.

You'll have few RSVP for her next party!!! VVU!

Personally ? I think YABU . People have at least RSPVd you for the party .

Sorry but horse riding should be another day or you may find NO children , in future, would bother with any invites to any other parties , for fear you may cancel.

Sometimes you just gotta be the Mum and say no. She'll have to running in circles by the time she's 10 if things get changed every time she changes her mind.

See I'd have no issue at all with horse riding as an additional gift, if finances allowed. But no way would I cancel a prearranged party!

You can't cancel the party at this stage. Very rude indeed to those who have replied that they are coming.

That gives your child the message that it is OK to be unreliable and dick other people over. You absolutely ARE letting her dictate.

Did you ask her before you booked whether she wanted a party or not? What was her response? Not everyone likes or wants parties. I found them intimidating as a small child and have never liked them. I did know though that I couldn't just duck out of stuff at the last minute. Nor would I have been allowed to.

Go horse riding one day and still do the party as planned. Not rocket science.