AIBU to ask how much you spend on activities?

[swlondonmumof2]

Going through our finances, and have worked out that we spend about £550 just on DD's extra curricular activities, including travel there as it involves trains/driving so petrol to some of them. she is a super active child and loves everything she does but it seems excessive. We've already stopped piano, which was £90 a month... She's nearly 8. I'm basically spending more than half my salary just on her activities.

She has a younger brother who doesn't do anything like the kind of stuff she does (too young) he does football which is about £50 a month. we don't have lots of money really, but DH is adamant that she is passionate about all the stuff she does and it's the best use of our money... Part of me thinks when we were kids there was no way we'd have had this much... But on the other hand, if we can give her these opportunities why not? Interested in opinions...

DS1, 12 - drum lesson (just started, we'll see how long he lasts) £16; annual Marine Scouts membership (kayaking, canoeing and sailing) AMAZING value at £55 per YEAR; Scouts £3 per week plus trips
DD, 9 - does singing club at school (free), piano lessons £16 and guitar lesson which she shares with her brother £25, would love her to join in the kayaking too but suspect she won't
DS2, 6 - shares above guitar lesson; school lego club (free); will do some 1-2-1 swimming lessons this year (can't face the weekly group sessions) maybe a dozen in total £16 each; might start beavers or judo £2 per week

For avoidance of doubt, I am the OP.

Thanks for all the replies, all very interesting. And thanks for pointing out the story is now in the Daily Mail, a slightly completely embarrassing claim to fame.

I suspect no one is particularly interested anymore, but basically, yes, we do spend a lot on her activities. I was being truthful when I said it was over half my (part time) salary. At the moment we can afford it, because my husband earns decent money, and we have some help from family members. I also do think where we live has a huge factor in all of this. London is ridiculously expensive. We probably could cut down but as I said before, she genuinely does love everything she does. I am trying very hard to make sure she also has time to be bored, to play and to use her imagination. But I'm also keen to encourage her sportiness, confidence in drama etc. I suspect as time goes on, she'll pick the two or three she loves most, and give the rest up. If financially it becomes impossible, or we can't provide the same opportunities for our son we would of course review the whole thing. For now, she's happy, he's happy, and despite her doing so much she is having plenty of 'free' time too. I really am not a pushy parent, she could give up any one of these things and I'd not mind.