AIBU to dress my sons the same?

[ExhaustedandScatterBrained]

I have 2 sons aged 2 and 1 (14 months age gap) i generally put them in the same clothes. This is purely so i dont have to find 2 different outfits every morning. Its mainly jeans/joggers with a longsleeved top. A friend has told me i shouldn't be dressing them the same as they are individuals. Are they not still individuals when wearing the same clothes lmao ?

So tell me, aibu to do this whilst they are still young enough to not care what clothes they have on?

[00100001]

I fail to see how picking two of the same outfits is less hassle than picking out random clothes

YABU if your reason is "it;s less hassle" because that's just not true.

Least hassle :
Grab any trousers, shirt, jumper from DS1 drawers.
Grab any trousers, shirt, jumper from DS2 drawers.

More hassle:
Grab any trousers, shirt, jumper from DS1 drawers.
Find matching trousers, shirt, jumper from DS2 drawers.

[00100001]

I wouldn't generally buy them matching clothes in the first place really

Youngest would be wearing eldest hand me-downs for the most part too.

[Cakingbad]

Didn't do these guys any harm.

[wornoutboots]

my 6 year old and 4 year old LIKE to have the same if they can.

and when I got all three of my kids (the 1 year old too) matching tshirts they thought it was marvellous.

do what you like, as long as they aren't objecting.

Why not?

[Ohyesiam]

Fucking hell people are picky with you op.

Do what you want.

[ExhaustedandScatterBrained]

Ds2 can't wear ds1's hand me downs... they would be shorts and t-shirts. I'm more than certain I'd be completely slated if i dressed him in that during winter time.

[whatithink]

I have twins and it worked for me. I found when they were little they argued if someone had different things and if there was one red top and one green top they would both want the same colour etc.

It also helped me as when we were at toddler groups it was easier to keep my eye on them which is difficult with 2 anyway, but i just had to look for one outfit rather than think what is the other one wearing.

As they got older and developed their own tastes of course I stopped doing it.

[dollydaydream114]

I probably wouldn't dress them the same myself, but it's none of your friend's business how you dress your kids. Some people think it's cute; some people think it's naff; it's purely down to personal taste. If they were old enough to care and/or tell you they didn't like it, that would be different, but at the moment they're 2 and 1 so they're unlikely to give I much thought!

So you would let your kid go out looking a scruff rather than iron a top?!

Get over yourself. Your toddler in his/her ironed top looks exactly the same after five minutes of playing, dribbling and wiping their grubby hands on their front as someone else's kid looks in their unironed one. If you lined up 20 toddlers in normal everyday toddler clothes you wouldn't be able to tell which ones had their top ironed and which ones didn't, unless you dress your children exclusively in miniature business shirts and/or starched linen.

[RandyMagnum2]

It's cringeworthy enough people dressing twins/triplets etc. the same, nevermind different aged siblings.

[SheldonCRules]

It's awful, hate seeing it. It looks lazy and naff.

Don't get the non ironing either, clothes look scruffy when not ironed whether on a child or adult. It doesn't take long to iron.

[RB68]

Life is too short to spend it ironing. Choose clothes that don't need it, tumble then fold or lucky me has an aga - I just fold and stick on that - only things ironed in our house are hubbies shirts and he does them. A bit of care in the washing and drying process no need for hrs of ironing torture. Useless pass time in my view.

[TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder]

I'd iron clothes if they needed it (some dresses for example) but t-shirts and leggings etc. are not crumpled if you tumble dry them and put them away straight away. My children are certainly not scruffy

[00100001]

exhausted So how is it less effort to dress them in the same clothes than to pick whatever come first?

[00100001]

sheldon no they only look scruffy if it's something like linen. f you hang/dry them properly clothes don't need ironing on the whole

[millyandmollyandmandy]

In all honesty I think it looks a bit common

[00100001]

Ohyesiam


She asked our opinion!

[Pheebs770]

This thread comes round every few months!

I think it's clone-y & weird & sounds expensive but crack on its up to you!

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

I don't see a problem with matching their clothes occasionally. They often start to proclaim what they hate wearing at which point the game's up. (If you had to force one of them into something he dislikes just because it's what the other is wearing then no, that fuss and upset wouldn't seem worth the effort).

[Foxedme]

I think it's sweet to dress them the same. They'll soon develop their own personalities and then things might change a bit. I have a girl and boy 5 and 7 and they sometimes wear similar outfits, in that she might be wearing a Breton striped dress and he could be wearing a similar top and trousers.
My friend has three boys aged 2-6 and dresses them very very similar most of the time. They actually look adorable. If you like it, it doesn't matter. Your friend shouldn't keep her opinions to herself.

[JensenAcklesUndercrackers]

My mum used to dress my sisters and I in the same. We hated it.
My kids don't own anything that matches each other, the only time they dressed the same was when they were bridesmaids and page boys.

[musicposy]

I used to dress my DDs the same a lot of the time. As PP's have said, it was easier to spot them when out and about. I used to always think that if one went missing I'd remember what the other was wearing as I had a matching child for reference!

I used to think they looked cute and often had comments saying that (mostly from old ladies but it was still nice!).

When DD1 got to about 7 or 8 she refused and used to moan if DD2 chose the same clothes, which was fine, so I stopped. By the time DD2 was around 8 they had completely different styles. Now, as late teens, they dress entirely differently and are very individual.

Both girls look back on the photos and memories of them wearing the same quite fondly so I don't think I did them any lasting harm!

OP, do what works for you. If it's easier and you like it, go ahead. It's no one else's business one way or the other.

[Foxedme]

P.S. I like ironing kids clothes, hate ironing adults ones. But I iron whilst watching Netflix etc, it's the only way.

[GrandMarmoset]

I haven't ironed a thing in at least 30 years manumission. Just judicious tugs and tactical hanging. Just putting that out there.

[toastymarshmallow]

There is 4 years between my DC and now and again they like to dress in similar things, mostly pyjamas. Its a novelty.

But I actually hate it. I can understand it in twins, and I agree it can look cute when twins are small. But on different aged siblings and twins over the age of 6...I don't know, it makes me think the parent has ishoos. Like they don't see their kids as miniature people with their own personalities.

I remember as a child being put in the same horrible knitted jumper as my brother. Or both wearing denim shirts. Eugh. Just no.

But I don't even own an iron, so what would I know! :o

[FurryLittleTwerp]

The Queen & Princess Margaret were always dressed the same as children, despite a 4 year difference in age - looks silly in the pictures I think