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..to let the bed "air"

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AnythingConsidered · 02/01/2017 21:19

Help settle an argument between my DH & I...

We strip the beds every Saturday (I know some MN'erst will think this is disgusting, but this is not the AIBU!).

I like to strip the beds and leave the bed to "Air" for the day. DH thinks this is a ridiculous notion and likes to get the bed stripped and re-made at the same time.

He gets irrationally annoyed when we come up to bed & rather than collapsing straight in, we have to make it. Whereas I love making it after the 'air-ing' and then collapsing into soft, beautifully smelling bed.

So, who is being unreasonable?

OP posts:
PinkSwimGoggles · 04/01/2017 18:32

'we' just means sometimes I do it, sometimes dh. and the dc do their own beds after lots of nagging

CaptainHammer · 04/01/2017 18:32

Boris both of us do it normally as with a king size bed it's just easier/quicker. Me or DH will do it if the other is out though.

NewPapaGuinea · 04/01/2017 18:48

Who, here, does the burrito technique?

Jupiter2Mars · 04/01/2017 18:53

I'd hate having to pfaff about making the bed at bed time. It would really irritate me and I'd be insisting that you do it min 30 mins before I go to bed if you're going to insist on letting it "air".

PinkSwimGoggles · 04/01/2017 18:54

no burrito here: we all have single duvets, so easy (er) to change than doubles.

SecretWitch · 04/01/2017 19:00

I have realised the error of my slatternly ways now. I just ran to the bedroom, stripped sheets and duvet off bed and thrown window open. Dh was bit nonplussed as he was still sleeping, after working overnight shift. I did not let that deter me, am now on a mattress mission.

1horatio · 04/01/2017 19:02

What is the burrito technique? I only know that for babies,,,?

AcrossthePond55 · 04/01/2017 19:14

NewPapa

I do! I tried it for the first time this winter and was absolutely amazed as I though 'Bullshit, this won't work!). I have a Cal King and usually spend 1/2 hour faffing around trying to get the duvet cover on right. I did it this time whilst watching a video of 'burrito-ing' (and stopping and starting with each step) and it took me 10 minutes start to finish.

NewPapaGuinea · 04/01/2017 19:51

Almost makes bed making a pleasure. Almost.

iMogster · 04/01/2017 19:58

I strip the bed in the morning. Let it air most of the day. I make it (or DH) late afternoon/early evening. All done before relaxing in the evening and definitely before going to bed.

bigpigsmum · 04/01/2017 20:05

Wait... he helps to strip n make the bed?

Clearaschristal · 04/01/2017 21:10

Just pull duvet and sheet back, exposing half the bed, in the morning and open the window. Couple of hours later, or when suits you, just pull it back up again. Simple!

Julju · 04/01/2017 21:51

Strip bed on a Sunday morning as soon as OH and the toddler have dragged their arses downstairs. Windows open for as long as possible (all day if we're in, even if it's freezing outside), turn mattress, dust mattress with baking soda and lavender oil, remake bed while OH baths toddler so it's all fresh and clean well before bedtime. Shut window and snuggle

Ericaequites · 04/01/2017 22:21

The Chalet School is chronicled in a series of books by Elinor Brent-Dyer. After the beds are stripped each day, the mattress is humped crosswise like a crawling catipillar so it airs properly during breakfast. Matron is very strict on this. You would need a thin, flexible horsehair mattress for this.

dudsville · 04/01/2017 22:28

I've never followed the burrito technique. It takes me 1 mob to put a duvet cover on a medium sized duvet. I don't feel I need to hasten that. And the beddng is my job, no "we" here. We have a division of labour we're happy with, and if either of us complains how the other does it they risk the job being handed over to them!

Jux · 05/01/2017 00:33

I am actually too weak to change the duvet cover, so I tell others when to do it. I see it as one of the few advantages of disability Grin

LockedOutOfMN · 05/01/2017 00:59

So disappointed. I watched the burrito method video. I've always changed the bed that way. So sad that I haven't learned a new way to save time.

I've never made burritos like that, though. Blush

JBJ · 05/01/2017 01:25

I throw back the duvet every day to let some air get to it, and on washing day, I strip in the morning make up at stupid o'clock before bed.

For those of you who hate duvet covers, washable, colourful, microfibre duvets have changed my life :) my double goes in the washing machine once a week and dried in an hour in the tumble dryer or outside in the summer. No annoying fights with the covers!

Grindelwaldswand · 05/01/2017 01:35

yabu OP i do the same. Have you seen those UV mattress vaccums that suck up mites and dirt and sanitise your mattress ? Could be quicker than airing and more effective, i use a dust mite spray once a month to kill the mites and vacuum the mattress weekly when we strip the bed

SantaPleaseBringMeEwanMcGregor · 05/01/2017 01:54

Airing it is good; they've proven regular (even daily) airing (with or without sheets on) cuts down on bacteria and dust mites. Perhaps a compromise is strip the bed, let it air, and sometime around dinner you remake it. Then you can just collapse in at bedtime as he likes!

Adnerb95 · 05/01/2017 06:26

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kateryan · 05/01/2017 06:44

I air mine everyday by folding the duvet back, have always done this and my bed feels newly made and fresh everyday. Never had bed bugs or any other problems.

yomellamoHelly · 05/01/2017 06:50

I agree. Much nicer. Difficult to do here with dh around lounging in bed most of the weekend and getting up after we've all gone out weekdays though. Am planning on a new mattress and new resolutions once he gets a man-cave that I can kick him out to.

yomellamoHelly · 05/01/2017 06:52

Should add I like to chuck the pillows and the duvet in the tumble drier from time to time to "air". I think it makes them smell fresher.

GreatAuntMary · 05/01/2017 16:57

Dust mites are a real danger to your health, and that's why you should air all mattresses and bedding every day. You won't see dust mites (they're only about a quarter of a millimetre long) but they cause both short-term problems (rashes, inflamed eyelids, etc.) and long-term (allergic reactions, asthma, susceptibility to viruses, etc.).

Sweat accumulating in bedding and mattresses is another problem. The average person leaves 26 gallons of sweat in their bedding each year.

Mattresses and bedding accumulate fungal spores, bacteria, dander (from pets), pollen, soil, lint, chemical finishing agents and colourants (used in bedlinen manufacturing), and various body fluids (sputum, vaginal, and anal excretions, urine, skin cells, as well as sweat).

Sunlight is a brilliant answer to all the above and if you're lucky enough to live in Scandinavia, Australia or wherever you have plenty of the stuff, then putting as much bedding as you can outside each day is a brilliant answer. However if you're in the UK or other less sunny clime, you need to employ other remedies.

Airing your mattress and bedding each day is an absolute must if you want to stay healthy. The bed should be stripped down to the mattress as soon as you get out of bed. Take pillows off the bed as well, and put them somewhere (for example on a bedside table) a different way up from how they have been lying on the bed. Hanging the duvet over a door (as another poster mentioned) is a great idea. Shaking sheets out of windows or outside a house door, preferably after the sheets have cooled, is excellent.

Natural bedding (wool, silk, cotton, feather, buckwheat) is far better at repelling dust mites and shaking off other nasties than synthetics. Everything should be renewed periodically (a two-year-old pillow may consist of up to a third of mites and their faeces and other sheddings, mould spores, dead skin and other lovely things). Try buckwheat pillows - not only are they not natural homes for bugs, they're super-comfortable, supportive, airy, and you can just add more buckwheat husks periodically - which actually works out cheaper than constantly buying other types of pillows.

Sheets and pillowcases should be changed once a week (unless someone is ill in bed, in which case it's every day). Duvet covers should be changed every week to ten days. Natural duvets should be aired in full sunlight (beating and turning during this time) several times a year - rather than being washed or cleaned. Synthetic duvets can be washed - but they do tend to give off chemicals which may cause or exacerbate allergies. (No one knows the long-term effects of inhaling all those chemicals every night because studies simply haven't been done.)

Using natural substances such as bicarbonate of soda and vinegar, as one poster mentioned, to help clean and disinfect would seem highly sensible. However using chemical substances such as fabric conditioner may, again, cause long-term problems such as allergic reactions. These substances are also often 'sticky', which can cause nasties to clog up and stay where they are in the bedding or mattress.

Whether or not vacuuming your mattress is useful depends on your mattress composition. Natural mattresses (made of cotton, silk, wool, etc.) should be turned regularly (once a week, alternately top to bottom and side to side) and are unlikely to need vacuuming. Synthetic mattresses may or may not need turning but are likely to benefit from vacuuming. Any vacuum used will need to be very strong; handhelds and battery-vacuums are unlikely to provide sufficient suction. Vacuuming pillows as well (unless they're, for example, buckwheat) is a good idea - but at least a separate nozzle attachment (if not the entire vacuum, which is preferable) should be kept for this purpose.

Whether or not domestic UV light cleaners for mattresses work, I simply can't find out. Are they sufficiently strong? If you've got the money, it certainly wouldn't seem to do any harm and dust mites near the surface of the mattress would be sorted out at least.

As you can see, I'm passionate about beds and bedding(!). A good night's sleep is one of the keys to good health - but we spend longer choosing the design of our bed than we do on choosing the right bedding and looking after it...

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