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to think it is too late to tell me she is now vegeterian?

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listsandbudgets · 31/12/2016 09:35

having 2 couples round for dinner tonight. this was arranged about 3 weeks ago.

just had text message from Mrs W

"hi lists just to let you know I decided to turn vegeterian just before Christmas.. so no meat, fish, gelatine , meat fat etc. Thanks."

AIBU to serve jersey a tin of macaroni cheese while everyone else enjoys starter of smoked salmon followed by roast lamb and all the trimmings?

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THirdEeye · 31/12/2016 10:50

Easy....make her baked beans on toast Grin

Lilaclily · 31/12/2016 10:50

I'd say your friendship with this woman is over if this text is not a joke, and I'd cancel on them , you've come down with norovirus over night

C8H10N4O2 · 31/12/2016 10:51

RhiWrites Bonus points if you can find a red onion andgoat's cheese tart. She may as well get used to that dish.

Grin Grin

In fairness red onion and goat tart has only been the Veggie Afterthought option for about 3 years. I enjoyed at least 10 yrs of bad incarnations of ratatouille as a kid. Including rat as the meat substitute in a roast dinner with cabbage and parsnips Confused

Lilaclily · 31/12/2016 10:51

Does she have previous form for being a rude knob?!

RubyWinterstorm · 31/12/2016 10:51

I once had a last minute vegetarian, made her a cheese omelette,

It was fine

(I had made lasagna and salad for 20! Then she told me on the day she was now vegetarian Hmm)

Evergreen17 · 31/12/2016 10:52

She has been assertive (and rude though) so you do the same, reply:

Ah! I had no idea. I am sure you will do great. Well dinner for tonight already planned and started so I am happy for you to bring your food and add it? I wouldnt want to spoil your plans with the food I am cooking already. See you soon!!!

Done

GarrulousGrimoire · 31/12/2016 10:58

Oh dear she's clearly been at the veganuary (doesn't even make sense!!) on Facebook.

Don't go shopping, scrabble something together from what you've got in. She'll last as long as the 2nd course I reckon.

RandomMcRandomer · 31/12/2016 10:59

I would give her cheese and crackers (have some left) for starter and for main I'd fry up some quick cook quorn strips I have in the freezer from a veggie guest we had a few weeks back (who told me in advance!)

I wouldn't make mega effort or shop. I would just serve it all without comment. If she asked I would simply reply "this is what I have if it's not good enough then I'm afraid it's not my problem. With 6 hours notice you are lucky I managed this."

Jinxxx · 31/12/2016 11:01

I'd probably go with a hybrid reply: Ha ha. I 'm assuming this is a wind up as you would surely have told me a few days ago if this was for real! I've already shopped and started making our meal, so if you are not joking, would you please bring something as I already have a full day today.

Diemme · 31/12/2016 11:01

I'm dying to know if it was a joke now. It really is so rude if it's genuine. I'd be tempted to just text back 'lol'

Goingtobeawesome · 31/12/2016 11:01

She definitely could have typed that message more politely.

MTWTFSS · 31/12/2016 11:03

If this happened to me I'd just pop to M&S and pick up a microwave veggie ready meal.

Lorelei76 · 31/12/2016 11:06

I really wonder what goes on with people like this

If I have people round, I will have bought the food at least the day before. I don't want to rush around buying stuff on the day. There's a fairly good chance I will have bought a while ago and put it in the freezer.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 31/12/2016 11:09

I'd delete the message and pretend I hadn't received it. She can download the Just Eat app and get herself something

SoupDragon · 31/12/2016 11:12

Unless you were planning on going shopping today, I would tell her she needs to bring her own main course. No way would I be popping out to cater for her at the last minute just because she couldn't be arsed to mention it earlier!

strawberrybubblegum · 31/12/2016 11:14

Just phone her. She's your friend ffs!

Between you, you can figure it out- whether it's something you can make easily from what you have in, or she brings some bits and pieces to add to what you have.

You've invited friends to share NYE with you. It's about being together.

SoupDragon · 31/12/2016 11:19

You've invited friends to share NYE with you. It's about being together.

And she's catered accordingly! It's 9am on the day of the get together and the friend has only just bothered to mention she is a veggie and announced her expectations that the OP will cater for her. Andthey are clear expectations, she hasn't phoned the OP to try andwork anything out. That is plain rude and arrogant.

Liiinoo · 31/12/2016 11:21

It sounds like a wind up to me.

MikeUniformMike · 31/12/2016 11:23

It's a bit cheeky, but if you like her, go with it. She's not been a vegetarian long enough to get bored witless of only ever getting offered goat's cheese.
I was bored of it 10 years ago. It is often the only offering on a restaurant menu and often it will be the only starter and only main.
If push comes to shove, make her beans on toast. served with boiled veg.

HappyFlappy · 31/12/2016 11:29

YoutheCat

vile-looking with quorn

That's just what I would do.

She's being an ill-,mannered fanny - I wouldn't knock myself out getting fabulous veggie alternatives, but nor would I just offer her the veg I had prepared to go with the meal (in case she said "Oh - just this once I suppose I could manage the swan and lobster en route with the venison gravy." and then she ends up with a good dinner anyway.

Give her tofu ("not sure if you could eat cheese or eggs, darling") for a starter - or tinned pea soup or something equally naff, and then quorn of some description (it is hideous in all of it's forms) with your veg and no gravy, and an apple for pudding. (Cut it into portions - you are not a barbarian! Grin).

I was veggie for over 18 years and when I started the food available publicly/ ready made was horrible (it is much improved). She won't die , but as you have made the effort to accommodate her she will look particularly arsey if she refuses your veggie repast. Don't ask her if she wants it - just give her it.

Be prepared to have to mop up her drool as she watches the rest of you feast on delicious corpses enveloped in luscious gravy. Mmmmm - yumyumyumyumyum! Wink

scaryteacher · 31/12/2016 11:30

MTW Popping to M&S isn't practical for everyone. In UK, it's an hour at least if I just go to the M&S food shop, or two if I go right into the big M&S in Plymouth. Here in Belgium, it's about an hour from my door to the M&S in Brussels, and involves the car, the tram and the metro.

JackShit · 31/12/2016 11:33

Being vegetarian is not 'attention seeking' Hmm

Lorelei76 · 31/12/2016 11:36

"Be prepared to have to mop up her drool as she watches the rest of you feast on delicious corpses enveloped in luscious gravy."

bit baffled by comments like this. I suppose I'll have to gird myself for them again now I'm off meat.

but I'm just so off meat, that's my reason for going veggie again! I've never met a veggie who craves meat, but then again, I've never met anyone who does it for posey or religious reasons.