About lending a present??

[lorelairoryemily]

A friend of mine bought us a travel cot for our ds, gave it to us when he was a few weeks old then 2 weeks later before we'd even gotten to use it text me to say she had to borrow it to use for her husbands nephews child who was coming to stay. Aibu to be really fucked off and not want it back??

Liberty I wish I had!!!!

Reindeer&gammatron I think I will do that!!!

Wine there's really not much in it for me, time to step away I think

Not sure I understand, first you said it was being used as a playpen - but then you said it had never been out of the box?

Tbh I would have just lent it to her initially, I really don't understand why you were bothered about that at all especially if you aren't using it (which you said in your original post but changed to saying you are using as a playpen?). They are expensive to buy especially for one use and if she bought it for you (which is a generous gift) the least you could do is let her borrow it to save her some money as a.favour so you come across quite selfish in that respect.
Saying that her follow up text was rude so.I understand why you would be a bit at that.

Alias I didn't say we were using it, I said I lied and said we were because I didn't want to lend it to her, read the full thread to see why

Give her it and if she try's to return it just say no, we've bought one now,

Moustache I didn't say we were using it I said I lied and told her we were because I don't want to lend it to her, it was a generous gift but it actually cost €25 so not expensive at all, and the reason I didn't want to lend it was that I'm constantly giving her stuff and she's really mean if you read my other posts you'll understand, I would normally lend anything to anyone

OK but why wouldn't you want to lend it is what I don't understand? The first message wasn't particularly entitled so.it just seems mean not.to let her use it if it's not being used? Is there a particular reason you shouldn't lend it to her?

What gammatron said

I can't work out why she thinks it's your responsibility to find one for her!

Moustache have you read all my other posts? The reason I didn't want to lend it was how she asked and the fact that just because I have one it's not my responsibility to provide one for her guests.

X post and I haven't read your other posts because I don't advance search posters so.I. don't know.your history with her. If there is a backstory fair enough but I would still have leant it to her (and tbh to some.of us that is very expensive, my travel cot was a second hand one for £10 and that was still expensive to me, if I knew someone who had one that I could borrow I would have asked as well)

Mynest thank you!! That's the whole point, it was the way she asked and the fact that she seemed to think it was up to me to provide her with one

Moustache I meant my posts on this thread, I don't have any others! And I'm not saying it's cheap(she's loaded too btw not that it matters) I'm just saying that she basically decided that because she bought me one she can just takeout whenever she wants, that's not how a present works

moustache I think the op means in this thread not in other ones

Oops x post

Thanks wine!! That is what I meant

But the first text didn't seem that bad, she said "feel free to say no". As I said, the second text is very rude so totally understand your attitude on that one but it was only after the first message you said no, my point is that at that point she was being quite reasonable so I just would have lent it to her (but no I haven't read your other posts about her, I don't have the time to do a full history check on all posters for backstory)

I can understand not wanting to lend it out, with that kind of history between you. You felt taken for granted and disrespected.

I can't understand why you didn't just say, "no, sorry I can't lend it, hope you find one elsewhere" and ignore her subsequent texts. Take back your power woman!!!

Fair enough op, if she is mean then don't worry about her just take a step back

Moustache I don't have any other threads about her, I meant read this one fully please. I said no and she said I would have to find her one, the reason I said no if you read up thread, this thread there are no others you'll see all the stuff I have given her previously

Moggie. I like that!! From now on I'm taking back my power!!!!

Moustache I didn't do advance search either, just read the op posts on thread.

OP doesn't have a problem with lending, this is the straw that broke the camels back.

Its not a gift if it comes with terms and conditions.

I'd give it back to her and buy your own.

She's sounds like a delight!

Haha I prob shouldn't mention the person who thinks she's a friend who tried to sell me a sling as her present to meI'm leaving a couple of friendships behind this year!!!!