Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To want to take down my christmas tree

269 replies

DonaldStott · 27/12/2016 09:41

I have been jolly. Had a lovely few festive days. But we are going away in a couple of days for New Year and only home the evening before we are back to school/work.

I want to take it down today, but husband thinks I am being a bit of a misbag.

I am in the school of bday cards up only on the day of your bday, then into the recycling, so I do like these things to be short lived, but I want my living room back now the day is over. Aibu?

OP posts:
5OBalesofHay · 27/12/2016 23:38

Right Christmas for goats then. Will post a picture tomorrow of them enjoying the tree Grin

Bananabread123 · 27/12/2016 23:48

It does seem odd that some seem to feel 27th November is more 'Christmassy' than 27th December!

blackheartsgirl · 28/12/2016 00:19

I hate the period between Xmas and new year. It's awful for me because the people in my house are at each others throats constantly. My partner is an aggressive twat and constantly nit pick at my son. His teen dds are here and causing g havoc and I'm stuck in the middle trying too placate. Trees coming down tomorrow. I haven't had decent Xmas and I never will

OopsDearyMe · 28/12/2016 00:21

Mine came down boxing day !!!

TheLambShankRedemption · 28/12/2016 00:33

YABU

I too don't know anyone in RL who takes their tree down on Christmas Day or Boxing Day, it seems fairly uptight and controlling to me. Can't imagine there are many children out there asking their parents to take the tree down so quick! (Christmas Day? Really?)

SherlockPotter · 28/12/2016 00:33

BananaBread I think it's more that 27th November is part of the run-up to Christmas and people are excited and getting prepared with Christmas shopping and planning for the event!

Whereas 27th December is part of the week between Christmas and New Year; I feel this week merges into one... like I know it's Wednesday but then I start thinking it can't be. I really hate this week!

Rednailsandnaeknickers · 28/12/2016 00:42

We have always put our tree up about a week/10 days before Christmas at most dep how the days fall (usually on a weekend as it takes 2 of us to carry).
We keep it up till Twelfth Night.

We agree on this - me because it was how my (Scottish) family always did it - big family parties at Hogmanay - they would think it incredibly strange to be "over" the festive period and take down any decs with the best night of the season for celebrating just starting! Festive season definitely includes New Year!
And DH as he comes from a very Christian background so actually understands the meaning of, and wants to mark the 12 Days of Christmas ending at Epiphany as he was taught. Christmas is not just "one day" to his Christian family.
We disagree on loads of things but tree till Twelfth night is not one of them. Xmas Smile

questioningitall · 28/12/2016 00:44

How fucking depressing. This is absolutely the problem with people putting up their trees far too early. Should be the week before Christmas (Christmas Eve when I was young) and stays up for the 12 days.

And I'm not "old". Just 40.

Yabvvvvvvvu.

Merry Christmas.

CaraAspen · 28/12/2016 01:03

Depressing and idiotic. Grrrrrrr

kitnkaboodle · 28/12/2016 01:12

... I'm just wondering if the two sides of the fence here might be people who have to work between Christmas n New Year vs people who don't. I very fortunately don't, therefore these days after boxing day are the lovely days of relaxing/walking/playing games and not having to cook. So it's still christmas - and I like the decorations. I'm too busy working through advent to bother with elves and crap. I settle down for Christmas about the 23rd. If the 27th-31st were regular working days, maybe I'd feel differently.
It's the festive period, if you can't bear to call it christmas! Take a look at public spaces, restaurants, pubs - still decorated. But shops, unsurprisingly, now stripped of Christmas the same way Xmas disappears from TV ads on Christmas Eve. Is that what people are influenced by?

RebelRogue · 28/12/2016 01:17

I'm influenced by the lack of space,the clutter,the things that can't be put away because ghe tree is in the fucking way. It stresses me out and dd has absolutely no interest in it anymore. It just sits there,another thing on my to do list before i go back to work(tbh i hated having it for longer even when i didn't work). I need my space .

Writerwannabe83 · 28/12/2016 07:28

.... I'm just wondering if the two sides of the fence here might be people who have to work between Christmas n New Year vs people who don't

This is my problem. I worked the 21st, 22nd, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and am back in tomorrow and the 29th.

There really isn't a Christmassy period in my life so I can't really get into the spirit of it all.

ABitOfACyclePath · 28/12/2016 07:46

Took mine down yesterday. I have a DD with special needs and she just can't cope with them after Christmas. Boxing Day was utter hell because I left them up for an extra day. Never again!

wineandtoastfortea · 28/12/2016 08:05

Really don't understand why people are 'angry' that some folk put their decorations up early and begin celebrations early. So what? If it makes them happy what's the problem? They're not coming round your house and getting your baubles out the loft.

lilyb84 · 28/12/2016 08:37

Also - why is it considered miserable or depressing to take decs down before the 12th night? I find it depressing seeing them up over new year, especially when I'm going to work for the whole period. My life has lots of other happy and fun things in it without the need to have decorations up to make the point! Also our decs are a bit naff as we can't afford better ones, maybe if we had an amazing tree and lovely decs around the house we'd keep them up for longer.

Zoflorabore · 28/12/2016 08:40

Mine was taken down last night, no regrets at all.
It was up for 8 daysBlush

It was massive and we need the space for all of dd's bulky presents that silly santa brought without realising where they would all go in her small bedroom!

PurpleDaisies · 28/12/2016 08:58

How fucking depressing. This is absolutely the problem with people putting up their trees far too early. Should be the week before Christmas (Christmas Eve when I was young) and stays up for the 12 days.

Did you miss the posters (including me) saying their tree has been up since just before Christmas and it's coming down now? It's personal taste, not necessarily a symptom of Christmas starting too early. Since I've been a kid the tree's gone down on the 27th/28th.

SaltySeaBird · 28/12/2016 09:03

Ours goes up the first weekend of December and comes down on the 2nd January. We used to put it up around the 20th but now with young DC we do put it up earlier.

winefixeswhine · 28/12/2016 09:07

My tree was down yesterday. Baby has learnt to crawl since the tree went up and I'm totally fed up of pulling baubles out of her mouth 🎄 plus my husband wanted it up really early so feel like it's been up forever!!!

Original poster
DonaldStott · 28/12/2016 09:08

Not sure why people assume others get fed up with their tree because they put it up too early. I didn't put mine up until theafter Sunday after dd broke up from school, so the 18th, which I don't think is too early. Anyway, it's coming down today, before we go away and Dd couldn't give two shits about the tree tbh.

OP posts:
Littlechip · 28/12/2016 09:30

Stop getting Christmas wrong! Celebrate at the right time and stop ruining it for the rest of us. 'Personal taste' indeed.

RebelRogue · 28/12/2016 10:43

Stop getting Christmas wrong! Celebrate at the right time and stop ruining it for the rest of us. 'Personal taste' indeed.

How the hell are complete strangers on the internet,taking down their tree,in their own home, ruining it for you? In what way does it affect you? If it's just reading about it 1. Get a grip 2. Don't read the thread.
And Christmas was fucking amazing in my house thank you,we got it very right!

lilyb84 · 28/12/2016 10:44

I suspect Littlechip was being humorous. Or hope, anyway.

SheldonCRules · 28/12/2016 10:53

Ours went up on the 20th so it's hasn't been up long and I'm still itching to take it own and will be doing so in the next couple of days.

It's makes the house look cluttered and messy and Christmas is over now so no reason for it to stay up. We can enjoy the rest of the holidays just as much without a tree.

5moreminutes · 28/12/2016 12:01

I don't know if its about working - I work the odd day between Christmas and NY (worked a full shift yesterday and will be working new years eve and new years day) but its still holiday like because DH's company shuts down so he is home, and the kids are off of course - not only off school but no extra curriculars running.

Not having to spend an hour after work picking up 3 kids from 3 totally different places before rushing home to juggle checking homework and dealing with whatever has happened at school while making packed lunches and cooking dinner simultaneously and getting children to and from relevant sport training etc. and bathed and in bed on time to get enough sleep to be up for school in the morning makes the lull of this week a holiday even if I am working - even more so as the house is full of food so I am not trying to squeeze a dash to the shops in after work/ between picking up DC3 and DC2!

I love the down time that this week represents far more than Christmas and new year themselves (which are too fraught with expectation from various people).

Blackhearts your family set up sounds generally difficult, the tree isn't really relevant - are you all happy like that the rest of the year :( What does your partner bring to your life apart from misery? :(

50bales obviously your goat based logic is rock solid though :)

Preumably Bananabread 's post is also ironic...

I hate the phrase "getting back to normal" that gets bandied about rather than caring when anyone else puts up or takes down decorations - what's so great about "normal"? :) I'm not a big Christmas fan and would not bother with it at all on my own account - its all done primarily for the children and secondarily for extended family, but like the peaceful lull between 26th and 31st a lot :)