Mil called ds autistic

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NC for this. Ds 21 months likes to stack things up, organise things, tins, tubs etc. He was doing this at mil's today and she suddenly said "I think he is autistic". I found this a really strange thing to say and was upset/angry at the time. He doesn't particularly like hugs and kissed and I think she feels she needs to rationalise this by labelling him (when really he just doesn't like cuddling someone who stinks of an old ash tray!) should I have said something?

But if someone has OCD, especially if their mother also has OCD; I would be tempted to suggest they read about ASD in women. Just in case it helps, I believe it has helped friends of mine to discover that their "problem" wasn't so much a problem as a different way of thinking (a neuro diversity).

mummy time that sounds interesting, any specific websites I should have a look at?

This one is kind of helpful http://www.amaze.org.au/girls-and-women-on-the-autism-spectrum/ or stuff by the Curly Haired girl or this from Tony Atwood http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/about-aspergers-m/girls-and-women-who-have-aspergers or a v n from the NAS http://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/gender.aspx.
Good luck - and don't let it get you down.

Thank you mummytime, it's becoming a very interesting thread OP.
I think it can be a difficult subject to broach. I have said those exact same words to DH to be met with: "don't say that, it scares me" or "I don't want him labelled or treated differently by the teacher". I am finally booking an appointment with the GP as I think instead of labelling it will help DS to be better understood.
I would say that the markers for DS around 1-2 was a big speech regression/delay (he was calling me daddy when he could say mummy at 7 months) and meltdowns at any change in activity/clothing/overstimulation, etc...

Oh, forgot to say DS has always been very cuddly with me and his dad. He connects through touch much more than speech or eye contact.

DS liked to put things in order, line things up, arrange things. He's a teen now and still does that. He's not autistic, he just likes tidy and organised. All very typical behaviour of many children.

Ignore her. She was thoughtless, insensitive and tactless.

Btw, I often think my DD may have ASD, but she is incredibly affectionate and absolutely loves cuddles!

Erm, I'm sure your dd is fine but loving cuddles is not a guarantee that your child is not autistic! My ds is very affectionate but he is still severely autistic.

My DD hugs us to death but is Autistic, she also has great eye contact, and language (well unless you listen very carefully).