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To think cards with the recipient named on the front are common?

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AddToBasket · 20/12/2016 20:56

Class issue alert: inflammatory if you are bothered by that sort of thing

I was told that cards with 'To my wife/Grandad/Auntie' on the front were considered a bit non-U.

AIBU to go on thinking they're still a dead giveaway of background? Or are they OK?

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MommaGee · 21/12/2016 23:38

Non upper class I think

Which o must be as I have a drawer full of aunty and uncle, cousin, niece, nephew, nanny and grandad etc. Was impressed that you can now get to my daughter and daughter in law but alas not so happy there's no grandad and wife. Thank god for moonpig

blueamberuk · 21/12/2016 23:54

For heavens sake the world is shooting itself to pieces, 1000's dying as many of us go on to enjoy xmas in our own selfish fashion (I am as bad) but to start being so up ones arse as to worry about creating the right impression with the incorrect type of card just shows what this country is coming too. Many people including the older generation (Im 62) but Im talking about a wee bit older seem to like to get cards with Mum, Grandma etc. To them it seems to make them feel that little bit of extra time has been taking in really choosing a card not just from from a generic boxload. If you are so worried about being non U maybe invest in these individua style cards and really create the "right" and no doubt posher than "her next door" aura lol www.lotusartstudio.co.uk/?gclid=CIu7r8a9htECFVUo0wodvCkKlQ Xmas is the thought not the impression created.

GameofPhones · 22/12/2016 01:50

IT'S NOT A REAL CARD IF IT ISN'T PRINTED AND BOUGHT FROM A SHOP.
Yup. I got this reaction from my (adult) sister after I'd painstakingly done her a watercolour mini painting. And it was quite good

GameofPhones · 22/12/2016 01:59

Even worse is TO (in capitals), underlined, possibly even doubly underlined with oblique lines. I notice, but don't judge oh not me

MangosteenSoda · 22/12/2016 02:11

I don't like cards which have a photo of the senders on the front, which is seemingly a 'U' thing to do.

I definitely don't want to spend the Christmas season being peered at from all of my surfaces!

Pluto30 · 22/12/2016 02:41

Glad the penal colony of Australia has moved on from a lot of this class crap.

My husband/kids bought me a card with "Age is Irr-elephant" and a picture of an elephant on it for my birthday, the buggers. Shock

Littleballerina · 22/12/2016 05:00

I dislike these cards but have made 'Grandma and Grandpa' cards before so I am quite possibly trash. home made trash though.

throwingpebbles · 22/12/2016 07:39

Life is way more fun when you stop worrying what "class" something is, and just do/buy the things you want to.

EBearhug · 22/12/2016 08:28

I can never find a card with 'nanny' on it (which is what my mum is to ds). Just grandma, grandmother, nan and nanna. Surely other people say nanny?!

If you're going with U/Non-U stuff, my grandmother always refused to be Nanny, because nannies are staff (or livestock.) However, I suspect Clinton's Cards and the like aren't aware of such diktats, and it just reflectseems fashions. I'm sure someone must have done research on which grandmother names are most popular, and that would be reflected in what they print.

Actually, I have no idea.

EBearhug · 22/12/2016 08:32

IT'S NOT A REAL CARD IF IT ISN'T PRINTED AND BOUGHT FROM A SHOP.

We were always expected to make cards as children, at least for grandparents and so on. I'd always be more impressed by a homemafe card like thst than a shop-bought one. I wonder if there's a correlation between seeing "Dear Auntie" cards as naff and being accepting of handmade cards?

EBearhug · 22/12/2016 08:34

I don't like cards which have a photo of the senders on the front, which is seemingly a 'U' thing to do.

The only people I know who do this are the royal family and politicians, but I don't think I have received one from anyone, so might be quite wrong. I am certainly not on the Queen's Christmas card list. Grin

MommaGee · 22/12/2016 10:45

The Clinton's in Walsall do Manna, Nanny, Granny, Grandma and Nan for whoever couldn't find Nanny

Thingiebob · 22/12/2016 10:55

A 'dead giveaway?' What does that even mean? Do you mean that you are pretending to be upper-class with the cards you send?

How ludicrous!

If you are sending and receiving cards from people at Christmas, I'm sure you probably already know if they are upper-class or not. It's not the cards that 'give away' you not being upper-class, it'll be your lack of a title, wealth and a mansion...

Wolverbamptonwanderer · 22/12/2016 10:59

EBear was your gran Hyacinth Bucket?

PickAChew · 22/12/2016 11:54

SIL probably despairs of us.

We sent them one nice card from a box, and dh didn't think to copy in the new stepchildren we've never met.

We got 5 cards from them. Honestly thought we'd nipped the cards to everyone from everyone in the bud, years ago, but evidently not!

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 22/12/2016 11:55

If I don't put a name on the front I forget who they are meant for.

maddiemookins16mum · 22/12/2016 12:01

I always do them to certain family members, so DP, Daughter and I buy a couple of "from all the family" etc or "Two you both"
I couldn't care less if it's common or not, my DMum always got them for us and I for her (actually I almost weeped looking at the Mum cards in Card Factory the other week, there was a lovely one with a black cat like hers and I remember thinking I would have purchased that one had she still been alive.

Anyway, I also send DP and DD one from the cat (it even says "from the cat" on the front).

I'll get my coat.

FuzzyCustard · 22/12/2016 12:18

Blimey I must be posher than I thought.

Just like Ebear's grandparent I think Nannies are staff or goats.

Wolverbamptonwanderer · 22/12/2016 12:38

But you don't though do you fuzzy? If someone tells you they're going to see their nan you don't think they're going to visit a goat do you? That would be really dim. You'd have to be really Determined to pretend to be posh to claim that one

Doodlemum2 · 22/12/2016 17:14

I loath these and have never understood the point. My inlaws send us a normal card and then also a 'to our son and daughter in law' as well as a 'to our grandson'. Makes me cringe. I refuse to join in. I think they are designed just to make card companies money. I worked out I'd have to spend an additional £30-40 to cover all the various family options.

And in answer to the question I think they are unforgivably naff.

FuzzyCustard · 22/12/2016 17:20

If they are going to see their "nanny" I would certainly consider it was the person paid to care for children. Probably less so a female goat, but if they were on a farm I might. Don't think that makes me either dim or determined!

Manumission · 22/12/2016 17:53

But you don't though do you fuzzy? If someone tells you they're going to see their nan you don't think they're going to visit a goat do you? That would be really dim. You'd have to be really Determined to pretend to be posh to claim that one

Grin
1horatio · 22/12/2016 17:54

fuzzy

I don't get the goat thing (but I'm foreign). But the only nanny DD has ever met is the nightnanny.

That doesn't make us pretentious. DH is probably one of the least pretentious people I've ever met... :)

IcedVanillaLatte · 22/12/2016 17:56

Goats - male = billy, female = nanny, young = kid (although I'm sure a farmer will be along to tease out all the complexities).

1horatio · 22/12/2016 18:07

iced

Kid?! That may explain why DH call DD our child and never our kid. I wonder if he inwardly cringes when I do...

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