To think cards with the recipient named on the front are common?

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Class issue alert: inflammatory if you are bothered by that sort of thing

I was told that cards with 'To my wife/Grandad/Auntie' on the front were considered a bit non-U.

AIBU to go on thinking they're still a dead giveaway of background? Or are they OK?

It really pisses me off when people use trigger warning so lightheartedly and blithely. Also, YABU.

What the fuck is a "bit non-U"?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/U_and_non-U_English

I had no idea that some considered this common.

Watdafuq?

At least it demonstrates that you went out, chose, and bought a bespoke card for that individual/couple. If you write a generic Christmas card to your parents, it signifies no more than their name came next in your address book.

TBH I couldn't care less.

Fuckadoodle.

Buy them. Don't buy them. Who really gives a shit?

Meh.

Too busy finding the cure for cancer to care.

'Tis true.

Can't see anything wrong myself. Here's an example of a perfectly normal card.

I feel like non-U might be a non-U way to say middle class given the examples on Wikipedia.

I don't like them myself.

However I do admire the skill if some people to find exactly the right one, no matter how obscure the personal connection.

Since I am not upper class myself, I do not give a pair of fingers concerning the class status of the cards I give as long as they look nice. Thinking about it, actually, any card bought from a shop must be pretty much non-U by definition. Probably the only genuinely U sort of card is cross-stitched by hand by the lady of the house, in between instructing the servants on the proper sousing of the Christmas goose. (Turkey is so transatlantic, my dear.)

OP I'm interested: do you think you are U or are you aspiring to be? Either way you might need to get a job or something to occupy you (not a trigger alert but light hearted).

If you write a generic Christmas card to your parents, it signifies no more than their name came next in your address book.

If you're going to see your parents at Christmas why do you even need to give a card? I only send Christmas cards to people I'm not going to see

This has to be the stupidest thing I've ever heard.

^Meh.

Too busy finding the cure for cancer to care.^

ROFL. (Full respect for looking for the cure for cancer on an AIBU thread, though. )

Ohhh... well if that's the case. I'll buy MORE cards with relatives names on the front.

Riggghhht

I'm so common I didn't even know it was common

I buy them ironically. I'm U as fuck.

Why do you buy cards for people you're probably going to see at some point?

We bought named cards for the first time last week, but it was only between DP and I, and they were "First Christmas as my Husband/Wife" ones because there weren't any "on our wedding day" ones and we wanted to send each other a message on the morning of the wedding. I couldn't get over how extortionate they are!

Who gives a shit what is U and non-U? Just live your life.

Need to get used to calling him DH instead of DP

Anyone who worries like this about being common can rest easy, they've no class or gentility of any kind to worry about. Which I meantersay, Pip.

I think that the classiest thing to do is to think of the person receiving them.

I kind of try to get a card that they like. My SIL loves the whole 'niece' nephew stuff so I try if I can to get them. My aunts love paintings and hand made gems so I get those. If I can.