To think cards with the recipient named on the front are common?

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Class issue alert: inflammatory if you are bothered by that sort of thing

I was told that cards with 'To my wife/Grandad/Auntie' on the front were considered a bit non-U.

AIBU to go on thinking they're still a dead giveaway of background? Or are they OK?

Who the fuck cares what Nancy Mitford (or indeed her modern equivalent thinks).

My mum loves a good 'to mum' card. Her preferences are more important.

Saw one today 'Merry Christmas to a Special Couple' which seemed very odd indeed. Couldn't think of anyone sufficiently defined by their coupledom to buy it for which was a shame.

What I want is a massive big padded silky card in a box. With To my Girlfriend on it. Never got one when I was young. Either that made all my bf's U as fuck or they just didn't love me enough.

Only hyacinth buckets use the phrases u and non u

My husband bought me Christmas cards from my kids and I was annoyed that one from my 8 year old said Mum and not Mummy! Judge away all you want, I love these types of cards so if that makes me common or any other derogatory label then so be it!

Something new that has never crossed my mind! Think I picked up my bumper pack of Christmas cards at the Coop. Where does that fit in...?

Also please can someone explain to this foreigner the Christmas tree light hierarchy referred to upthread? People use actual candles? Is that u or non u... either way I'm terrified! 😱

The named cards are brought with confusion for DH who last year apparently had forgotten we were married and gave me a 'to my Girlfriend' card (either that or he made an hilarious mix up with OW's and she has took it as a clumsy festive proposal), and gave my mum a 'great grandmother' card thinking it meant to a grandmother who is great...

My mum would drop her chocolate if i gave her a non named card, but she is proudly upper working class, so that's fine. the only thing more offensive to my mum than a non named card is a home made card I made that mistake once when i was i child. I learned not to do that again. IT'S NOT A REAL CARD IF IT ISN'T PRINTED AND BOUGHT FROM A SHOP. Apparently.

*brought? FRAUGHT!

Anything is only u or non-u if you are someone who those phrases and all the snobbery and snideness that is associated with them have any meaning to you. Otherwise, do what you like.

I buy them because certain members of the family like to receive individual cards, rather than ones out of the box.

Anything is U or non U if you read the mitfords, fantasise about being like them, and completely miss the point that they were mainly a bunch of cunts. Hth

I also have to get one for my mum with a long verse saying how wonderful she is. She loves that sort of thing.

To all the people loving these - why does it need to say who you are?

Have you forgotten?

The thing i hate about the named cards is not the name part but the nit where it gushes about someone being the best x in the world. When i walk into a card shop it's like i have had a truth serum and i stand reading and sneering 'well that's bollocks' as i stuff the card back on the shelf then eventually give up and go for a picture card.

Surely no one really thinks their relatives are the best ones in the world do they? I mean, i love my family, but they are not what cards are written about and neither am i. When i get a best wife/daughter/sister card i think, that's clearly a load of old shit as i told you to fuck off last week!

I hate these sort of cards and have never been quite sure why. They are almost always floral with some really trite verse in them and make me shudder slightly. I look after a blind lady in her 50s who asked me if I send these 'named' cards to everyone in my family and really seemed taken aback when I told her I never do. I guess I'm much more likely to find a card which appeals to the tastes and personality of the individual if I don't stick to the name cards. This thread has made me laugh out loud though, so cheers for starting it OP!

Hee! I thought I was snobby for moaning that there are no 'Granny' cards in the shops, only the hideous Nan or Nanna. Now I realise I'm completely common for wanting a named card. Who knew! (And I'm titled and everything)

DH swears that that he saw 'Your Grace' cards by the till in Daylesford.

Cards without the recipient on for close people are lazy and cheap.

Why is Nanna hideous? it's what i will be i hope. Is being working class hideous then?

My dd loves receiving cards with her name on. I am 'non-U'. Despite my level of education and professional standing, I am working class. My dad is an engineer, my mum is a teaching assistant. I grew up in a council house that my parents bought under the 'right to buy' scheme in the 90's. I feel no shame or embarrassment due to my class. I'm a good person who works hard and tries to make people happy. I'm pleased that I will never be shallow enough. To judge anyone for buying a card with their name/title or family name on it.

Of course being working class is hideous ifyou'reacunt

I would have thought caring whether you were 'U' or 'non-U' made you the latter by default.

Skimmed the list mentioned earlier in the thread. Who use wireless in conversation these days?!

Getting an unnamed card invokes the ire of one of my relatives. Although you get to discover this second hand.

MrsKoala no of course being working class isn't hideous! I just don't like Nan/Nanna. I expect there are words you don't like too. Which is fine.

That's a bit disingenuous mistress. Why don't you like the words? Do you dislike the sound of them or something?

When people have strong opinions about simple words, it's almost always because of their associations. Which in thiss case are mostly class relevant.