WIBU to leave 10 year old at home with his nan while the rest of us go to Florida?

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10 year old son has caught a nasty bug and he is pretty much in bed 24/7 and has been for a couple of days. He has been having lots of fluids but has the full d & v. He is ok though but no way is he ok to come away. We rarely go on big holidays but do go to somewhere in Europe every year. We are going to Orlando for Christmas I have 5 children and I think it will be really magical. He is very close to my nan and they spend a lot of time together. The last thing I want to do is leave him but I do have 4 other children that cannot wait for this holiday and I don't really know what to do. WIBU to go away with other children and leave him here with his nan?

Maybe be a bit more sensitive to OP, then? She's clearly struggling.

^ to CaraAspen

Has anyone suggested cancelling the check yet?

Cara if you've read the full thread then your comment was extremely uncalled for. The OP, recently bereaved, was panicking and thinking all options through and had since knocked leaving him with his nan on the head as idea.

I hope you feel good for kicking someone when their down.

Just read the whole thread. Good luck OP! I hope you get everything sorted out, you and your DC obviously need some special time.

I don't understand why posters post mean and nasty comments. OPs come on here for advice and understanding in quite difficult situations. It's not a bear pit, it's a forum for sharing ideas and helping someone. I love Mumsnet and post my views, but I would think twice about asking for advice, because some posters lack any empathy and understanding in their responses.
OP, so sorry for your loss and I hope you all manage to have a lovely Christmas.

Good luck op

Sorry you're in this awful
Situation - D & V bugs are my idea of hell anyway never mind with the extra stresses and after a bereavement - hugs for you x

SillyMoomin the child has d&v so taking lemsip would be ridiculous anyway so given the ridiculousness of the suggestion people could be forgiven for taking your post literally, don't be making me out to be the stupid one when you come on with a suggestion like you did

Good luck op, I really hope all works out for you and the kids

Sorry for your loss What a tough situatio op.

I really hope you find a solution.

Posters who are bring nasty. Have a word with yourselves.

Op's Dh died this year, she has 5 children, its their first christmas without their dad and op's Dh. I can't imagine how hard this all is for her.

OP you might want to nip over to The Dibb for advice - it's a forum for Florida travellers and there's people who've been in similar situations who'll be able to share advice.

www.thedibb.co.uk/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=48

I hope you get it sorted, the only downside of trying to move it all is that you could all come down with it over the next few days...

Have you called the airline? DC2 got sick at the airport once and BA couldn't have been more helpful. They changed us to another flight 2 days later.

Good luck OP and I hope you manage to have a lovely Xmas together.

Good luck with the Dr

I agree you either all need to change or someone fly him out later.
Do call the insurance and give BA a call.

So sorry to hear what a horrendous year you've had. What a lovely idea to plan this holiday and so tough on you that it's not working out. The kids will be fine....this is hard on you holding it all together.

Sounds like you're doing an amazing job and huge fingers x for you something works out. I can understand chasing up all options and you honestly sound like super mum!

Hope the insurance helps you come up with a solution. And that you can relax while the kids are having fun, whenever you get to have this holiday!

I was all ready for saying YWBU. A bereaved, poorly child away from his family at Christmas while they swan off to Florida...but then I thought "what if it was me?" It's an awful situation, of course I wouldn't leave him behind and I would probably use my insurance to rearrange the holiday, but it's still totally shit. You were trying to go away to avoid a painful Christmas at home. Now you're potentially going to be home, at a shit time, and have missed out on a lovely holiday, as will the rest of the kids.

Hope you get sorted one way or another...how long has he been poorly? Might he be over the worst by now?

Also, ESTAs are instant usually. I wouldn't worry about that.

Just finished skim reading this thread

What a bunch of nasty bastards some of you are. The OP was trying to make Christmas lovely and less painful after losing her DH and her kids losing their DF. She was seeking advice about how best to work this problem out.

Ok, her proposal to leave the poorly child at home doesn't sit right with most of you, but good grief have some compassion!

I would see if the insurance would cover flights a day or two later, and hope nobody else catches it. Or, ask insurance to rebook for the next 2 week school hols?
Or explore the option of poorly child flying out alone or with Nan to meet you there a little later?
But you are not a terrible person for considering it, it's unfortunate and you are trying to keep everyone happy.

God people can be arseholes. Op is recently widowed and has 5 children to consider. Sometimes we just need to discuss something with other people to get our heads round an idea and as op doesn't have a dh I assume she thought she might get support here. Christmas spirit is alive and well I see

Op what a horrible situation, I hope you can move the holiday.

God I can't believe how nasty posters have been!! OP was in a desperate situation trying to keep everyone happy after a stressful year and was exploring all options, some comments have been totally unwarranted. OP hope you get it sorted

Good luck, OP, and I'm so sorry other people have been nasty to you.

Obviously it's not fair on the other families on the flight to take him, and you shouldn't leave him behind either, so I hope the insurance company sorts it out for you. Come back and let us know how you get on because some of us really feel for you. X

I would move the whole trip tbh as it's fairy likely some of your other DC will get the D&V at some point in the next few days. I absolutely would not leave DS.

Hope you get it sorted.