WIBU to leave 10 year old at home with his nan while the rest of us go to Florida?

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10 year old son has caught a nasty bug and he is pretty much in bed 24/7 and has been for a couple of days. He has been having lots of fluids but has the full d & v. He is ok though but no way is he ok to come away. We rarely go on big holidays but do go to somewhere in Europe every year. We are going to Orlando for Christmas I have 5 children and I think it will be really magical. He is very close to my nan and they spend a lot of time together. The last thing I want to do is leave him but I do have 4 other children that cannot wait for this holiday and I don't really know what to do. WIBU to go away with other children and leave him here with his nan?

If there's more than one adult going, can one of you stay with him (and if possible fly out a few days later when he's feeling better?). Because it's a bit harsh for the whole family to fly off and leave him behind at Christmas.

Just think how you'd have felt as a 10 year old. Then that's your answer. I know it's harsh but I think youll regret it immensely if you leave him.

In that case - travel insurance.

Massively unreasonable and the kind of thing he will resent you die for years. Have you got travel insurance? You need to postpone your holiday for a few days until he's well enough to travel.

For not die!

The likelihood is he will more than likely pass it on to you all, if not already.

But yes YABU, I couldn't think of anything worse than leaving my poorly child while me and his brother and dh go on holiday, made even 10x worse that it's over th Christmas period also.

If it's just you you also need to think what will happen when one of the others inevitably gets it. Or you do.

Get on the phone to your insurance now. Not ideal but surely it's better to all be together at Christmas?

Leaving him behind whilst you and your other children go on the holiday of a lifetime is not a solution!

Speak to your insurance company and see if you can arrange new flights, d&v isn't something that is likely to last much longer!

He can't come now, but I'd fork out for a flight on Saturday. BA do an unaccompanied minor service so I'm sure other airlines will too.

What an awful situation. Is your DH going too? Could one of you flight out with the other children tonight and then the other one fly out with your ds in a few days (if travel insurance could rearrange the flight)?

You shouldn't make him make a decision, he will feel awful enough without thinking it waa his fault his siblings missed out. Ring the airline and investigate options for changing your flight. Any other adults flying? Is money an issue? I couldn't leave my child at Christmas.

Would insurance be able to move our flights? We are flying BA.

I think one of the parents (assuming it's a 2 parent family) needs to stay behind and fly out with him in a few days when he is better, if that's financially viable. If not then a mini Christmas with him, a parent and Nan.

Has he seen a doctor? What is their opinion of when he may be fit to fly?

Where is dad in all this? You are going away to Florida on your own with five, now for, children?

Presumably money is not tight, can't dad, sibling, friend fly over with him a few days later?

This is why you need travel insurance. To me the options are:
No one goes
His man puts him on a plane a day or two later and you meet him at the other end

Such a long trip and over Christmas is the trip of a lifetime. You can't leave a child home alone without even a parent. I'm sorry and I know it's rough but get some medical help and do whatever you need to to get him there by Christmas.

I'm not one for mega drama but if you leave him behind completely at that age where he will remember every second I honestly don't think your relationship will ever be the same. It would be a massive thing for a child to forgive and get over. Most wouldn't manage it.

I take it he's not well enough to be dosed up with a shed load of lemsips etc and just left to sleep on the plane?

I don't think you can leave him, I assume you're going for a week or two? He'll be better in a few days if it's just D&V.

Either bring him and he can lay low for a few days, or change the flights to a few days later if travel insurance allows, or you or your partner stay with him and fly out a few days later when he's better.

*four not for.

I think I'd be on to my insurance company. Unless you have all had the bug I would expect you will all go down with it. I wouldn't expose his gran to it either.

I couldn't leave one of my kids behind even if the others were beyond devastated. He'll remember it for the rest of his life.

He has d and v let's not forget so dosing up and flying is rightly so not an option.

DH passed away earlier this year and it's our first Christmas without him (hence the big trip away) and that's exactly another reason I don't want to leave him. TBH I suppose I knew I couldn't I just needed that bit of doubt out of my mind.

Money isn't a massive issue but absolutely don't have money to just give away.

To quote Disneys Lilo and stitch Ohana means family and family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.

Claim on the travel insurance. No brainer. Don't even know why you are considering anything different

Yes call your insurance and they will tell you your options. You may all have to miss a couple of days of your holiday but I think that's the best way to go. Good luck, how disappointing for you all.