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WIBU to leave 10 year old at home with his nan while the rest of us go to Florida?

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user1482217471 · 20/12/2016 07:16

10 year old son has caught a nasty bug and he is pretty much in bed 24/7 and has been for a couple of days. He has been having lots of fluids but has the full d & v. He is ok though but no way is he ok to come away. We rarely go on big holidays but do go to somewhere in Europe every year. We are going to Orlando for Christmas I have 5 children and I think it will be really magical. He is very close to my nan and they spend a lot of time together. The last thing I want to do is leave him but I do have 4 other children that cannot wait for this holiday and I don't really know what to do. WIBU to go away with other children and leave him here with his nan?

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Oliversmumsarmy · 20/12/2016 13:15

Apply for the ESTA straight away.

Dp told me he had got us all ESTAs. What he meant was that he had got an ESTA. (Travels frequently to the US for Work).

Applied on line on the morning of our flight. Mine and dd came through immediately. Ds aged 8 was held for further investigation.

Resulted in us hastily repacking the cases so if the ESTA didn't come through in time dd and dp would go ahead and myself and ds would get a flight whenever the esta came through.
Thankfully it came through just as we left for the airport.

Cosycottage4 · 20/12/2016 13:20

So sorry to hear about your DH op. Claim on the travel insurance and go a few days later/at half term; it would be terribly sad for him to be without you all after such a difficult year.

At least this way, you can all have a fabulous time together and the memories won't be ruined by your DSs' absence. Hopefully you other DC will understand x

MyWineTime · 20/12/2016 14:11

What a nightmare! Definitely not what you need right now.
I really, really hope you are able to find a way to get all of you out there for this much needed holiday, even if it's on different dates.
And I hope your DS feels better soon.

periwinklepickspoppies · 20/12/2016 15:06

I read the full thread. I still wouldn't consider it and amazed that the op is, even more so with what has happened this year. Flowers OP

Kcollip · 20/12/2016 15:17

Please dont leave your child with his nan while you and his siblings go on holiday.

I couldnt even cobtemplate this.

Find a work around.

lalalemon · 20/12/2016 15:33

How did the GP appointment go? And how is your little fella feeling now?

Rachie1986 · 20/12/2016 15:38

Hope you get it sorted. I'd have postponed the trip I think, but I'm weird about illness and would be sure everyone else was going to get it! Hope you are all ok and have a lovely Christmas whatever x

Newtoday · 20/12/2016 16:59

Hope all sorted and well done either way - you must have been beside yourself trying to please everyone and find a solution. I can completely understand why you've considered all angles. Take care!

Kirriemuir · 20/12/2016 17:04

How's things now OP?

soupmaker · 20/12/2016 17:08

Keeping everything crossed for you OP. Hope you all get away. I'm so sorry for your loss. Flowers

Castleheights · 20/12/2016 17:12

Don't do it. It's an outrageous "solution" to go without your 10 year old child, he will never forget.

deblet · 20/12/2016 17:14

Is this a serious post? Not read the 10 pages but who would leave their child?

Kirriemuir · 20/12/2016 17:15

Well RTFT then!

NavyandWhite · 20/12/2016 17:16

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YoScienceBitch · 20/12/2016 17:19

I would go.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 20/12/2016 17:20

I really hope you get it sorted OP I'm feeling all panicky just thinking of your situation and I'm not grieving, dealing with grieving kids, trying not to let kids down and trying to do the best for a poorly DS. I think your doing a good job of holding it all together.

flapjackfairy · 20/12/2016 17:24

I am sorry you have had such a mauling on here. That is the last thing you need. So sorry for your loss and hope you get this sorted one way or another x

sj257 · 20/12/2016 17:28

You poor thing OP.

Full set of wankers on here today evidently.

Hope it went ok at the doctors x

IveAlreadyPaid · 20/12/2016 17:36

Hope you find a solution Flowers

FrancisCrawford · 20/12/2016 17:39

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Aeroflotgirl · 20/12/2016 17:41

Thinking about you op, what a horrible situation to be in, I hope you find a good solution.

Sunshine59 · 20/12/2016 17:54

Hope all goes ok for you OP x Flowers

december10th · 20/12/2016 18:06

If he's had the bug 2 days he must be over the worst.I would be giving him immodium and anti-sickness and getting him on the flight.

smegsmeg · 20/12/2016 18:07

Hope you work it out op, what a terrible situation to be in Flowers

Sallystyle · 20/12/2016 18:10

Oh god OP, what an awful situation Thanks

You are not horrible for considering leaving him with his nan. You were basically thinking out loud and thinking through options.

I know how hard it is when children are dealing with the loss of their father and you are desperate to give your children something lovely, and the idea of having all of them missing out on a holiday originally seemed a lot worse than one missing out. That doesn't make you a bad person, you're just trying to muddle along. Emotions are high and there's no fucking rule book in how to deal with it all. As soon as you thought it through you realised it wasn't a great idea. Shame on anyone who could be mean to you.

I am so sorry for your loss and I am sorry that your son is ill Thanks

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