WIBU to leave 10 year old at home with his nan while the rest of us go to Florida?

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10 year old son has caught a nasty bug and he is pretty much in bed 24/7 and has been for a couple of days. He has been having lots of fluids but has the full d & v. He is ok though but no way is he ok to come away. We rarely go on big holidays but do go to somewhere in Europe every year. We are going to Orlando for Christmas I have 5 children and I think it will be really magical. He is very close to my nan and they spend a lot of time together. The last thing I want to do is leave him but I do have 4 other children that cannot wait for this holiday and I don't really know what to do. WIBU to go away with other children and leave him here with his nan?

I understand how stressful this must be for you, and you're in a tricky situation. Don't panic yet. Maybe talk to your ill child again. Is there any way that you could take them away separately next year without the other 4?

You have had a chappy year, it really sounds like you all need a break.

If only I had a magic wand.

Aibu is hideous today. Truly the nest of vipers that people accuse mumsnet of being. Report the op if you think she's trolling and then surely move away from thread rather than potentially risk upsetting a stressed out grieving mother.

Firstly you would need a doctors note to claim on insurance and yes the doctor would need to see him.

Secondly, I think you are forgetting how contagious D&V is - what if one of the other 4 come down with it? Will your travel insurance cover you if there are any complications whist you are away, eg one of them needing an emergency room visit for dehydration?

Thirdly, will your other kids still have the 'holiday of a lifetime' knowing you've left their brother behind? I say this as someone who was bereaved at Christmas - if it's your first Christmas without your DH, surely you are making it worse by it also being Christmas without your DS?

If he has d&v you're likely to have a domino effect of the rest of you getting it anyway, probably starting in the next couple of days. I would talk to your insurance people, cancel/rebook and start planning to do what you can to make it special at home for everyone who's healthy.

Exactly long, I have reported a few "troll hunting" posts.

And I don't see why the OP is getting stick for not taking him to the docotors. Unless it is at the point of dehydration then why would you take a 10 year old with a d and v bug to the doctors? We all had it recently and going to the GP didn't even cross my mind!

You have to move the tx. one child in the party is unfit to travel. Also there is a chance all of you spend Xmas in the toilet in Orlando. & please don't give the bug to everyone else on that plane

The other Dcs would not like to be the one left out. reprogram.

Ah this is so hard and I don't know why folks are being harsh. There is four other kids involved in this and being excited about their holiday, so I'd have considered it too, panicking at what the hell do you do in this sort of situation seems fairly normal to me.

The truth is if he's already had it a couple of days he should be on the mend , these things seldom last more than 48 hours. I'd speak to your insurers to see if you can maybe delay it 48 hours if possible, it may mean flying to or from another airport. I'd also speak to the airline and see the cost to change.

Fingers crossed for you he starts to recover. 💐

Yep, never taken a child to the gp for d&v and never had a big holiday myself so I wouldn't know how to go about sorting insurance stuff. I do know not to ask on here now though!!

Ffs what is wrong with you all?! If you think the op is a troll then report the thread. Don't you realise that, though you may not think she is, this is potentially a real, grieving, stressed out parent in a tough situation?

Sorry it's my mum the my nan bit was a mistake it's his nan,

Am going to start sorting things now. Thank you. Will be back in a bit

Good luck with the insurance company op. Hope you get things sorted and ds recovers soon!

Call the insurance.

Don't leave him behind - it's not fair, you all go or none do.

Go together another time. (He might be fine in 2 days).

bloody nora! Why is everyone being so horrible!? Poor woman is stuck between a rock and a hard place...
tbh user, I would be very surprised if your travel insurance covers the holiday, based on 1 dc having D&V... It's not ideal, but I would be filling him full of immodium.. 1 of my dc had to fly across China with food poisoning and that did the job. Phone your gp and insurance company now and see what options you have.

Good luck with the sorting, I hope it works out for all.
Seems like there are a few options;
1-take him anyway and hope for the best
2-phone NHS direct and get advice concerning fit to fly and doctors notes.
3-delay trip and hope all covered by insurance.
4-get nan and poorly son to fly out later.
Lots of phone calls OP. Good luck x

OP, I'm sorry some posters have been so nasty. IMO it's totally uncalled for. You must be so stressed out and I imagine you're thinking out loud whilst posting.
You've acknowledged now that you realise leaving him isn't really an option. Good luck with the insurance company, I hope they're helpful and help you find a solution.

Oh no User what a dilema, contact your insurance, you cannot fly with him in that condition. I really don't know what I would do, as it would be a lot of money down the drain for us. If we coulden't, we would have to leave ds with gran.

Dose him up . He will recover

Dose him up . He will recover and risk making a plane full of people ill over Christmas. Nice!

postpone the flight a couple of days if you can first...he may be ok then. also gives time to see if anyone else gets ill. You don't want it om hol

I'm so sorry some people are being so vile to you, I hope you come up with a solution

You poor women :(. What a difficult situation, I can't offer any advice but wanted to wish you all the best x

I think if it was just one child then I would bung him up with Imodium and risk the flight armed with wet wipes to clean everything he touched, if he has had it for a few days the worst is over. But there are other children, I would not dare to risk getting to the airport, lining up to board and hearing a little voice say "mum, I think I am going to be sick...." Or even worse you getting the bug and being stuck away with the children and no help.

Florida will still be there next year. in fact I think postponing to next year is probably a better idea, if this is the first Christmas/big holiday without dad I think they will be constantly thinking " I wish dad was here to see it." And maybe not enjoying it as much, or even feeling guilty for enjoying it without him. Next year won't be quite so raw and they will have got through the awful "first time without" feelings that make a first year so hard.

You can still make this Christmas special, even without Florida.

Wow some of you for out the wrong side of the bed!! Op try ignore the really nasty posts. I couldn't leave him either and but I think you agree with that now too, I see you were just a little desperate to please everyone and disappointed too which is totally normal. Call your gp, I know mine would make the appointment but come to the car or bring us straight through so we didn't have to wait in the circumstances. I hope you can try change to maybe mid term, you can still make this Christmas special here for all your children.

To the poster who suggested dosing him up on lemsips what the actual fuck???

And it's nothing like Home Alone either

We had a similar situation a couple of years ago with BA and to Orlando.
We phoned BA and postponed our holiday, they were very helpful. We had an extra £1000 to pay but claimed this back through our holiday insurance.

Very sorry to hear about your DH. You really mustn't leave your DS, even if he says it's okay.
It will be very disappointing but stick together and enjoy the holiday another time. Easter is lovely in Orlando.

That was me noca, and it was only a suggestion ffs. I didn't mean in a "open the whole packet" kind of way, I meant, if he's on the tail end of it, could just a day of wrapped up warm, lemsips or whatever he needs every 4 hours or as prescribed and just sleep on the plane. It'll take almost a day to get to Florida by which time he'd be almost completely better

But sorry, I had to write it all out in full, because clearly someone might take it as fact. Jeez