WIBU to leave 10 year old at home with his nan while the rest of us go to Florida?

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10 year old son has caught a nasty bug and he is pretty much in bed 24/7 and has been for a couple of days. He has been having lots of fluids but has the full d & v. He is ok though but no way is he ok to come away. We rarely go on big holidays but do go to somewhere in Europe every year. We are going to Orlando for Christmas I have 5 children and I think it will be really magical. He is very close to my nan and they spend a lot of time together. The last thing I want to do is leave him but I do have 4 other children that cannot wait for this holiday and I don't really know what to do. WIBU to go away with other children and leave him here with his nan?

You can't leave him behind. That's what insurance is for.

What an awful situation. Phone the insurance see what they can do and then take it from there. If you all have to stay you have a few days to all work together and try to make things as special as possible.

I'm sorry to hear about your dh.

Sorry to hear that OP

That is so sad. You can't leave him alone his first xmas with out his dad. You all need to be together.

So sorry OP, how awful. I hope the insurance are able to help.

speak you your insurance

seems to me u are between a rock and a hard place.

insurance might move you all, might offer him an unaccompanied flight, see what they say. also get him to the walk in asap, get a note from the doctor saying he isn't fit to fly, ull need it for your insurance.

hope u get it sorted. leaving him is not an option, but i understand the financial and emotional implications to you and your other children.

I didn't realise insurance would cover for d & v otherwise I would have done that straight away. He hasn't seen a doctor I can't imagine a doctor saying he is ok to fly he doesn't move out of bed unless toilet.

Thank you everyone

Sorry to hear that OP. If you can claim on your insurance or change the flights to February half term it would be better, but you really can't leave him with nan on his first Christmas without dad. Family stick together.

So sorry op, this must be so hard after everything you've all been through.

When you rearrange would someone like your Mum be willing/able to fly out with you for the holiday? Support for you and back up incase something like this happens while away?

Hope whatever the outcome is you all have a lovely Christmas

Oh no! Given the circumstances, it would be dreadful for him to be left behind. Have you spoken to the other kids? Are they old enough to realise he's too ill to travel? They might already have realised, and be prepared for things to change...

Given all that you have been through I'd see if you can rearrange the holiday through the insurance even if it means that the children miss school for a few days. I'd worry that it is going to sweep through all of you.

So sorry to hear this OP what a difficult situation!

What happens if you move the flights then another child becomes ill? Or you do? If anyone is ill while you're there you won't be able to go anywhere or enjoy the holiday anyway. I think I'd consider leaving it until Easter or even next Christmas.

Are you sure it's just a " bug" and nothing more serious?

if he can't get out of bed call ur gp and explain, they might charge for a note but tell them u need one for your insurance, most are happy to help in these situations, they might want to do a phone consultation but i think you will need the note for your insurance, you should think about organising it asap

A child with a D&V bug is the one thing I would take time off work fir and not ask a relative to care for my child.

It just wouldn't be fair on your nan if she caught it.

If he's really not well enough to go you'll have to go later, but o would look into taking another adult, as I'd worry about one of the DC being ill while there, but I over think things.

I flew by myielf cross Atlantic at age 10 and it was fine. If it were me I think my first option would be to send another adult in my place and cone out with my son a couple of days later.

But if that wasn't an option I'd consider leaving him with his gran and him coming on a flight alone when he's better perhaps. If they are close then it is an option IMO.

Or moving the holiday to Easter for everyone.

If he misses it you'll need to go next year again!

Of course if I have to I'll try and rearrange the holiday to another time but the kids are just so excited and I really wanted to give them a good Christmas after all they have been through they have been so great and with everything.

Youngest is 4 so would probably understand that he is too ill.

Oh my goodness I don't envy you, what an awful situation to find yourself in. All I can give is my opinion....

All go or non go, imagine being that 10 year old who may well be fighting fit in a couple of days

Luna, not trying to be rude but this really isn't time for a joke. I would never leave him alone I really wouldn't and I wouldn't leave him with another relative it's just because my mum and him and really close. I know that it isn't a good idea and get that isn't really an option now.

Could you afford to add his nan to to trip?

If so take him to doctors this morning and get a letter confirming he isn't fit to fly. That will cover insurance.might have to pay £20

Then rebook flights out for him And his grandmother for Thursday evening (2 additional days time). His new fight will be covered from previous and just additional cost of grandmothers flight. For 1 adult and 5 children I'm assuming accomadation is big enough people can be shuffled around and grandma added ( you share bed with youngest if needed)

Sorry OP, just sounds very like Home Alone!

Hope he stages a quick recovery - children often do. I would give it to lunchtime and make the call to the insurance company then to explore your options.