Dad 'choosing' to pronounce DD's name differently

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This is the first post I've written. Apologises for bad spelling... I am writing in anger.

So my DD is 3 months old and I given her an usual name, which I have accepted people will/do pronounce it wrong because they don't know how to say it, its easy Once you know though. My Ddad seems to struggle with it, except today I was visiting with my DC and my Ddad said her name wrong (Again!) so my Dsis corrected him (again) to which my DDad response was "Well it shouldn't be pronounced like that it should be pronounced the way I said it, I am saying it this way"

It then got heated because I told him you can't do that it will confuse her as it doesn't sound anything like her name. He said shes too little to notice. I said he needs to call her by her name that we have given her end of!!
Im fuming because he blatantly told me hes choosing to pronounce it differently, I know this won't be the end of it. I am hurt by this. I know he doesn't like it because it's not a "solid english" name (hmmm my mom is german so hes being a dick), but I wish he would respect our choice.

I am worried about what DP will say when Ddad says her name over Christmas at family gatherings. Think its going to kick off, as this won't be the first time recently where DP has disagreed with him.

AIBU to be angry about this? Wwyd?

The "umlaut" is supposed to change the pronunciation or something
I think therein hangs your problem to be honest. If you use an accent in a name then you really should know what it's all about.

That said, if you tell people how you want your child's named to be said and they deliberately change it, then they've also got an issue.

Aoife
I say Eee-fa. Is that incorrect?

Start calling him Durd or Dirk until he gets it right.

He's being a jerk.

It sounds in my an-nice ( like the biscuit)

My Mum used to work for Boots when the perfume Anais Anais was introduced. She fell about laughing - in private - at the customers who asked for Anay Anay :-)

She fell about laughing - in private - at the customers who asked for Anay Anay :). WHY? The television advert pronunciation was anay anay, why would she laugh at people for saying the name as the manufacturer did?

Your mum sounds horrible

I think therein hangs your problem to be honest. If you use an accent in a name then you really should know what it's all about

but thats not the problem is it? you should know how a name is pronounced before you use it, i agree (the number of Seren's i know who are called Seh-run is highly annoying, for example) but i bet you there are loads of french/spanish/welsh/etc people who don't know what the accents do in their various languages, they just know they exist. As long as you SAY it right, then it really doesn't matter. Her problem isn't a linguistic one, its a stubborn father one!

excuse my rogue ' in Serens..

Sorry OP but to me you're pronouncing it wrong.

Its Anna eece /an eye eese.

I agree with previous posts saying it will probably blow over. My MIL decided to call DS2 by a completely different name. It lasted a while then one day she just gave up.

reality

not according to this.

Shit. I take it all back.

Serious mindfuck with the adverts.

But even the they say an-ace an-ace 2 syllables. not an-ay-ess

shouldn't the right pronunciation be anna-eece?

well, its kind of between the two, its a quick glide from the ah to the ee sound, but that accent definitely makes them separate sounds. its sort of like when we say 'poor' in english, technically there is an oo and an uh sound, but we say them so quickly that to foreign ears they sound like one. (unless you're welsh, then there are two distinct sounds '

It is a lovely name, but it's best to be able to pronounce it properly when people ask I think . Think of poor Louis Smith! Having said that, my DD has an unusual gaelic name and adults often get it wrong - but kids always get it right. DD is v laid back about it and never corrects people.

BTW Isla is pronounced 'Eye-lah' it's very popular in Scotland and has been for a long time.

the problem is that the normal pronunciation of that name is An-ay-ees. So you are saddling your daughter with a lifetime of correcting people. is that really what you want? Name changes are easy up to 1 year.

lunchbox that IS what she's saying!

when we say 'poor' in english, technically there is an oo and an uh sound, what??? Poor is 'oo' their us no mistaking that one. Where on earth does the uh come from?

By the by, I know a Padraig. Pronounced Pad-raig (rhymes with Craig). When I said I'd only ever heard the pronunciation as Porreg he looked at me as if I had two heads.
You can call your child what you want, you can spell it the way you want but why doom them to being called the wrong name forever?

Oh dear... its easier to ignore/correct non family members but when it's your Dad! Grrrr, he is being rude and unreasonable and should respect your choice. I know it's not easy but ultimately less stressful if you let it go and ignore him. Btw my name is pronounced incorrectly regularly but I just let it go but my Dad pronounces it right! X

You can call your child what you want, you can spell it the way you want but why doom them to being called the wrong name forever?
This. You must have realised when you gave her the name that 99% of everyone she meets outside of France will mispronounce her name? So I think at that point you gave up the right to be offended when they do.
But it it's a lovely name. (If you live in France.)

That advert pronounces it anna eece to my ears just like the pp.

you don't say 'poo' for poor do you? there is an uh sound on the end, its subtle, but its there, sort of in lieu of the r, (unless you are scottish or cornish etc and have a rhotic accent where you pronouce your r's). its a diphthong (two vowel sounds together). unless, as i say, you are welsh and it becomes a true Poo-uh.

Pádraig = Paw-drig

Pádraic = Paw-ric

No I say poor like pore, not poouh